10 Tips to Help You Find a Quality Man
The quest to find a special man can be challenging for us all. Often, it feels as if we’d have a better chance of winning the lottery than finding “The One.” Not only are there so many things vying for our attention and time, but there’s also the complicated dance of finding someone who we desire who also desires us and is available— on every level. Sounds daunting, doesn’t it?
We talked to Dana Michel, a relationship expert and the founder of MarriageMaterial.co, a new site that crowdsources the best match for you, based on your list of desired characteristics. She was inspired to launch the service after meeting with a friend who told her that, on their fourth date, the guy she was seeing wanted to know if she was marriage-minded. He asked because he took their relationship seriously, and he didn’t want to waste his time if she felt differently.
Michel became intrigued. She began asking friends, family and colleagues about their dating history and discovered that, not surprisingly, opinions on the topic were split by gender. While men were upfront about their intentions, women often held back because they were scared that asking for commitment would make them appear desperate or shrewish.
Men frequently replied, “If you don’t ask it early, you could end up wasting your time.” Women, on the other hand, were more reticent. One woman summed it up when she said, “Yes, I would like to be that direct. Lots of women would, but we’re afraid it will make us seem too pushy or that we’re moving too fast.”
Michel’s goal is to build a community of self-assured members who don’t want to waste time with people who aren’t looking for “the one”. “The fact that we call it ‘Marriage Material’ puts a stake in the ground,” Michel said. “This isn’t a website, it’s a service. And, what makes this service unique is the supportive network offered to members.”
We asked her to provide actionable tips to help us all find a quality man. Here are some of her expert tips to help you find someone special: