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6 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

How to make yourself feel like you can conquer the world in six easy steps. No, Really!


Everyone has times when they don’t feel like their best, most attractive or confident selves. Working through difficult times like these can actually make you stronger and more confident in the long run. When you’re in the middle of one of these stretches, it can be difficult to know how to work your way out of it. If this sounds familiar to you, try some of these tips to boost your confidence:


Change Your Appearance


6 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Go ahead – play dress-up! Find outfits you feel sexy in.

Looking good can greatly increase your confidence. While you don’t need to drastically alter your appearance, simply taking a shower, shaving, putting on makeup and dressing nicely can help you feel ready to start that day. Again, this doesn’t mean you need to buy designer or expensive clothing, it just means dress for the situation (or even overdress a little) to help you feel special.

Another idea is to change up your style. If you’ve had the same hair color for ages, try changing it (you can do it yourself at home). Try some new up-do’s. Even just changing your makeup routine (hello, red lipstick!) or your shoe choice can give you a little boost.


Stop Reading Print Magazines


6 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Looking at these can be toxic for your self-esteem

Studies show that women feel crummy about themselves, and their long-term self-esteem suffers, when they read print magazines. Looking at Photoshopped photos of models gets even models feeling less attractive, because even though we may consciously know that the images are fantasy, our subconscious brain still picks up on the harmful messaging; that we must look flawless, skinny and sultry if we expect to be loveable and sexy. And it’s all in an effort to sell us more products we really don’t need. So don’t listen. Better yet — don’t expose your brain to that messaging at all; read online blogs or indie magazines instead.

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A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she spends most of her time in France, NYC, London and Switzerland, and travels extensively around the world. Hilary spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always looking for hot new topics, destinations, and brands to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 36 Comments

  1. This is so helpful! Thank you for this. Needed it.

  2. Mary Johnston

    This article is awesome and so timely for me. I enjoyed this article on building self-confidence as it outlines the steps that are required to steadily build confidence. Another great reason to build your own self confidence is to open yourself up for the job of praising and recognizing the achievements of others. Reading this article is inspiring! I’m going to bookmark this too. Thanks for all of the great writing you produce on this Mag!

  3. Christina Brown

    Hilary, you are a miracle in so many ways. Thank you for posting this today. When i woke up this morning, I was feeling very lost and very confused and very uninspired. Your article about boosting self confidence was exactly what I needed. I can’t tell you what a difference it’s made for me.

  4. Renee Wilk

    You hit it right on the nail and I couldn’t agree with you more. I like what you have written in this article. There are so very many things which everyone can do so as to build self confidence. Sometimes we have to read them, or hear them, in a different way so as to fully understand them. Love for myself and each and every soul I meet along the way.

  5. Helen Franklin

    Hi I just wanted to say that your way of thought is the path of ones who are seeking prosperity and happiness, thanks a lot.

  6. Laura Strother

    This is a great list! I really like the idea of changing the appearance to boost self esteem. I will try that. I think, not comparing yourself to others is really important. Always thinking someone else is better than you can be so destructive to your self-esteem. Thanks for a very helpful post!

  7. Doris Tate

    Well said Hilary, thank you for this message. It brought me back to myself. I was struggling badly with this disconnect as I was attaching myself to external factors. Self esteem is something we all have to be aware of and practice every day. Good for the soul.

  8. Lucia Pittman

    Awesome! I seldom express this reaction to the hundreds of tips and articles I’ve read. Yours really deserve it. It is written in simple language from one who has seen the practical side of thing, unlike those who look at like under the microscope and is really hard to understand. Your post confirmed everything I already knew. Thank you Hilary, this will be my morning intention. 🙂

  9. Motivating piece! In order for me to maintain my high level of self-confidence, I always make sure to look my best! I take care of my appearance and I dress nicely (and elegantly). I get my hair styled, I put light make up. Looking at my best makes me feel perfect! All those negative vibes away…

  10. Let me share my secret (in addition to the tips mentioned) — “creating boundaries!”

    *** Low self-confidence goes hand-in-hand with trying to please people. I always ask myself how am I allowing someone to control my behavior and decisions?

    *** Low self-confidence is often caused by the people around you. So I eliminate those who cause my negative thoughts.

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