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11 Things I Wish I’d Known Before Getting Married

Here are some great nuggets of advice I wish I’d known years ago…

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Ok, I admit it. I’m divorced. As I looked back at what went wrong in my marriage, I realized several things that I should’ve thought about before getting married, which I’ll share with you now. If you’re already married, these tips can still be put into action. After all, they say hindsight is 20/20. The most important thing is not to let any more days go by without doing what you can to ensure that your relationship will last.

11 Things I Wish I’d Known Before Getting Married

Hindsight is 20/20

Life is a glorious series of events, some larger and more important than others, and it’s normal to look back on those events and wonder, “If I could do it all again, what would I do differently?”

Marriage is considered a major life event (for most, but not all, apparently), primarily because deciding to get hitched is meant to be for a lifetime, and because it’s associated with intense planning.  Since a wedding requires so much forethought, it’s easy to assume that brides and grooms have given as much thought (if not much more!) to preparing themselves for their lifetime commitment.  Amazingly, this is not always true.

Unfortunately, the current divorce rate is holding steady at fifty percent, thanks to this lack of personal preparation.

Take time to consider the importance of the following — before it’s too late:

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Born and raised in Texas, Shelly is currently studying to receive her Master’s Degree in Publishing at the University of Houston – Victoria.  Shelly is a writer for Urbanette Magazine, and loves “everything it is and all that it offers our readers, and to me personally”. She is passionate about life, family, friends, her maltipoo, Truman. She is a lover of all things culinary and the arts (13 year veteran of ballet).

Reader Discussion: 38 Comments

  1. Genie Mackenzie

    It’s also healthy to give a time off to each other. Spend a night of massage together or a dinner date night out. That way, it could refreshed and strengthen your relationship and have a better bonding.

  2. Hachi Komatsu

    Admitting of mistakes and having honesty is one of the key foundations in a married relationship. You’re not in a gf-bf relationship anymore. You have to widen your patience and understanding with each other.

  3. I don’t believe in living together before getting married to test if they can do it. That is so stupid. If it could create a better marriage everyone should’ve done it a long time ago. And marriage is not like a hot soup that you’ll spit once you’ve got burnt. It’s all about taking risks and working things out.

  4. Doreen Morales

    Having an open conversation with your other half really helps. It helps the both of you to be closer to each other and be open. All you both need is just a pair of ears, and open mind, and a good listening heart.

  5. Growing up from a broken marriage is so hard. That’s why I’m careful with my relationship and I won’t get married unless I’m really ready for it. I don’t want my kids to suffer the way that I did.

  6. Lili

    These are the reality of marriage! It’s not what you see in movies that are happy endings and lived happily ever after. If you both grow old together, that’s the time you’ll be able to call it a happy ending.

  7. Paul Daiz

    I shared this with my wife. We just got married last April 14th, 2017. And we had a deep talk and discussed everything. I hope this is our first and last marriage. I want to spend the rest of my life with her and grow old together and work everything out.

  8. Ofelia Ruley

    Couples who are planning to get married should read this and have time to think about their relationship whether they’re truly ready for marriage.

  9. Marriage is never easy. No one ever made an instruction of how it will be. It’s not always fun and laughter, it’s about building a family together and working things out because you vowed to be together for the rest of your lives.

  10. Maddi Lemmon

    Monster-in-law? HAHAHA! My husband’s mom is seriously always getting sullen easily! I don’t know how will I continue to get along with her. And take note: She’s jealous of me because of my husband. Ugh

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