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The Skinny on Body Shaming

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We live in a world where a Kim Kardashian body is both glorified and mocked while super-thin supermodels are idolized and critiqued. It seems that at any size, women just can’t win. This calls to mind an issue that has affected me personally: skinny shaming. Believe it or not, body shaming comes in all shapes and sizes. Being someone who has a naturally fast metabolism and a below average weight from childhood throughout my teens, having people think that I’m anorexic, bulimic, or flat out unhealthy because of my somewhat lower weight is something that really gets to me.

The Skinny on Body ShamingDuring high school, a time when one comment can instantly provoke a meltdown of self-doubt and confusion, I visited my doctor for a regular check-up. After all the poking and prodding of shots and blood tests, I made my way over to the scale. The nurse furrowed her brow as she recorded and told me my weight. My doctor came back into the exam room with a look on her face like a concerned mother.

“Are you eating enough? Have you been especially active in sports or other forms of exercise lately?” she asked, peering over the rims of her glasses with wide, questioning eyes. The thought of being active in sports made me laugh (I’m seriously lacking in hand-eye coordination). I reassured her that I had been eating plenty and healthily.

I felt myself tune out the stream of medical jargon from my doctor that followed. I resented the assumption that I hadn’t been taking care of myself, an assumption that had been made by others before. Honestly, it pissed me off to be chastised and interrogated about the body I was born with.

The Skinny on Body Shaming

Skinny shaming is happening to girls and boys of all ages and just as often as we shame women for being overweight. In the media, in everyday conversations, in our own heads, “skinny bitches” are judged just as harshly as “fat chicks.”

Aren’t we supposed to love the skin we’re in? Why is it that we feel the need to attack women–our sisters, our friends, and even ourselves? All for something as trivial as weight! The worst part is that we are our own harshest critics. According to a survey published in Glamour earlier this year, a whopping 97% of women have an average of 13 negative thoughts about their bodies every single day.

Let’s replace judgment with support — both for ourselves, and for each other. The next time you look in the mirror and think, “Ugh, my thighs are enormous!” or “I wish I could just gain a few pounds and fill out!” make the conscious decision to focus on something you love about yourself instead. You are in control of your own thoughts, so why not make them positive?

The Skinny on Body Shaming

Aren’t we supposed to love the skin we’re in?

This should affect how we see each other, too. Ladies, we need to stop being so hard on one another! If we’re insecure with our own bodies, we find faults in others to make ourselves feel better. So, if you have a negative opinion of someone, here’s a brilliant idea: keep it to yourself. If you’re not sure if what you have to say is helping or hurting, it’s better to just say nothing at all. Think about it: in the long run how much does a change in dress size really matter, whether it’s yours or someone else’s? We’ve got bigger and better things to worry about.

Have you ever been shamed for your weight? How can we end body-shaming?

6 Comments

  1. Be confident and contented and you won't be affected by "body shaming!"

  2. Hannah Mayers

    Well, I believe body shaming is like “indirectly” saying, “I have a better body than you.”

  3. Joanne Samonte

    Body shaming will make you feel torn between being thin and being healthy. People will always have something to say, no matter what!   (sigh)

  4. Courtney Watson

    Well, body shaming (for most person) is a way for others to feel better (or feel superior at worst).

    In the society where we live, too much of something can cause you to feel inferior. If you get too thin, people will mock you, if you get too fat / healthy, people will also laugh at you.

  5. The most important thing is to be healthy and happy. If you are both and that leaves you with a dress size that invites criticism from others, their priorities are all off. No one has to love, care for, and protect your body as much as you do, so, in the end, the only priority is to keep it healthy.

  6. Sandra Brown

    Often, women would greet each other with the commonly tactless phrase “you’ve gained weight!”  (complete with surprise and a fake smile) I guess shaming another person is the only way others feel superior about themselves. It’s a sad mental and social epidemic.

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