10 Bucket List Things Every Girl Needs to Have Before Turning 30

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10 Things Every Girl Should Have Before Turning 30

Ten things every woman needs to help make her 30s the best decade yet.


Essential #6: An Epic Birthday Bash

No one can control the changing digits of age, and 21 is certainly not the pinnacle of womanhood. Life’s too short to reproach every birthday nearing 29. So before decade three, make sure to turn at least one birthday into an all-out extravaganza that celebrates you. For my 30th, I was at a women’s shelter in Uganda, and I followed that up by spending a week in St. Barths with my best friends. After all, 30 was my most pivotal birthday!

10 Things Every Girl Should Have Before Turning 30

Essential #7: Perspective

There are a two major things you can do that will be eye-opening and guaranteed to give you perspective. One is to travel to an impoverished area of the world, and see how other human beings are living on this planet we all share. The other is to watch videos of factory farms and go vegan, even if you start with only for one week a month. Both will open your heart and mind to the realities of the world and the part we all play in it.

10 Things Every Girl Should Have Before Turning 30

Essential #8: Strength of Character

Often it’s the deepest pain which empowers you to grow into your highest self. Strength can emerge from weakness. A life challenge or crisis, from a breakup to a dying loved one, can actually unleash a “fiery will” that creates a disciplined and spirited strong sense of self. Authentic character is revealed during survival mode, and through pain you learn to forge ahead using effort and willpower. Our 20s are a time of deep mining to find who we are, and it’s in the upcoming decade you get to vibrantly be your true self.

Essential #9: A Notebook Full of Your Ideas & Adventures

Every woman’s soul burns with a passion, whether it’s to achieve success in her career or simply live with love. Document life lessons, ideas and dreams in a notebook and inspire yourself with your own written words. Anywhere you go, just inside your tote, lies a notebook to serve as your accessory for adventure and a creative partner that churns the imagination.

10 Things Every Girl Should Have Before Turning 30

Essential #10: A “Quality Over Quantity” Approach

From friendships to fashion, a true sign of maturity is when you embrace the “quality over quantity” rule in more areas of your life. When it comes to fashion, try to minimize your accessories and make a single fierce statement with a watch that will carry you through your next decade.

As for friendships, cutting loose friends who are takers, who don’t have your back, or who don’t have integrity is an important step. Surrounding yourself with friends that have good values and are true-blue is one of the single most important things you can do to ensure your 30’s are the best decade yet.

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A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she spends most of her time in France, NYC, London and Switzerland, and travels extensively around the world. Hilary spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always looking for hot new topics, destinations, and brands to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 60 Comments

  1. I tend to think of myself as an “it’s never too late” kind of person. It’s never too late to move to a new city. It’s never too late to change your career. It’s never too late to learn Spanish. Some might call it delusion, but I call it optimism. Having this one read, I realize that there are plenty of experiences I can still do and if the I just hope the opportunity presents itself. 🙂

  2. Caroline Soloviev

    I agree with the confidence tip. Like, so much. That’s the most important in our life according to me …

  3. I love this list! How many of these have you accomplished, Hilary?! ? ✔

  4. Amanda Wilson

    The truth is, I’m writing my own bucket list and it’s very exhausting (and frustrating at one point). Thanks for giving me wonderful idea!

  5. Mikaela Campbell

    This list is very useful! Thanks a bunch!

  6. Andrea Jones

    Your list inspired me… #strivetobebetter

  7. Eloise Ferris

    Excellent list of goals. Luckily I have accomplished some of these (now that I’m in my mid-20s)

  8. Deidre Timm

    As I age gracefully, I’ve discovered that health is a big deal!

  9. Rosalia Russell

    Awesome article! Good thing I found my “soul sister” before 30…

  10. Elizabeth Gonzalez

    I love this list! How many of these have you accomplished, Hilary?! ? ✔

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