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3 Tips To Help You Compete in a Man’s World

Are you accidentally sabotaging your chances for a promotion? Find out…


There’s an old saying that women have to work twice as hard as men to get half as much. While this may have some truth to it, there are things that you may be doing –without realizing it– that limit your upward mobility at work.

3 Tips To Help You Compete in a Man’s World

Women have come a long way in the workplace. We have fought for the right to work alongside men, the right to be paid the same as them and the right to be treated with respect. There’s no reason why we can’t compete like a man. The question is: why don’t we?

3 Tips To Help You Compete in a Man’s World

Part of the answer lies in the fact that women unknowingly undermine their credibility and sabotage their careers. In other words, it’s not just the men in HR ruining our chance for a promotion; we do it to ourselves too.

If you find yourself repeatedly being skipped over for a promotion, the following top three mistakes that women make at work might help:

Working too hard

Women often complain that they do more work compared to other people. The truth is no one was ever promoted by hard work alone. According to Frankel, likeability, networking skills, and strategic thinking are some of the other factors needed to grow into a successful career. Instead of working hard all day, skipping lunch and breaks, give yourself permission to “waste” a little time. Spend at least five percent of your day building relationships.

3 Tips To Help You Compete in a Man’s World

Doing the work of others

Women tend to take responsibility for not only their work, but also the work of others. There’s only one problem with this: while we’re busy doing the grunt work, men are busy building their careers. Promotions are rewarded for a job done, not doing the job. Stop volunteering for low profile assignments. They won’t only zap your time, but also won’t improve your career. Try not to let others delegate their work to you. Practice saying “I’d love to, but I’m just swamped.” There’s no need to explain further. It’s their job, not yours.

3 Tips To Help You Compete in a Man’s World

Failing to capitalize on relationships

Men rely on relationships to open doors for them. Women view it as taking advantage of a friendship or business partner. You’d trust a referral from one of your business associates, then why wouldn’t the door swing the other way? When in doubt, ask permission to use a colleague’s name. For example, “I’m trying to set up a meeting with George Smith. Would it be all right if I mention that I know you?” See how easy that was?

A writer, artist and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary spends most of her time in France, but still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. Hilary spent the past decade living in NYC and has traveled extensively around the world, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and brands to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 93 Comments

  1. Karen Abeyta

    Have you seen a man who makes coffee for his boss? I’ve never seen any man who does that. The male boss will instruct his female secretary to make coffee.

    • Elizabeth Gonzalez

      Yeah, I noticed that too. In movies or any shows, women are most likely the coffee maker.

  2. Connie Schmidt

    Women, let’s prove them that we deserve to be treated equally! There are men in our office who treats women like a trash. Let’s stand for our rights!

  3. Joss Butler

    In my workplace, I salute my women co-workers because they are very competitive. Some of my men co-workers are afraid to them. I can say that most of them are better than me or my male co-workers.

  4. Maxine Ford

    There are jobs that women can’t-do, especially if it needs physical attribution. But, as long as the women can do the job, especially office works, don’t underestimate them. They might be women, but they can be the smartest.

    • Helena Lowson

      There is no job any women can’t do, that’s just how we were educated to think. There are men weaker than women and the contrary. Women did everything, there is nothing anyone can’t do.

  5. Jossen Row

    This is not true. My wife is earning more than I earn. There are times that I pity myself because how is that possible? I am a man, I should earn more than what she earns, but I think it is because women nowadays are not just women.

    • Esther Devine

      Thank you! It is true, women nowadays are more competitive, and stronger than before.

  6. Joan Morales

    Competing in the workplace with man is like competing with your smartest classmate in high school. You have to work hard and be smart to beat them. They are something in them that what the teacher/boss sees.

  7. Brittany West

    It is because of men, are wiser than women. They do the half work, but they still get the promotion? Think of it, how is that possible, right?

  8. I agree with this. I am having a hard time working in the corporate world. There are people who will underestimate your capabilities because you are a woman. Woman are still not acceptable in the working world.

  9. Chris Moris

    Men are born to sustain the needs of the family, and the women are born to take care the family. If the woman starts working, who will take care the family?

    • Lisa Bryson

      I don’t think so. Hey, mister, it’s 2017, accept the fact that we can do what you can do.

  10. Deanna Woods

    Why would you do other’s job? Lol! If you do other’s job, the credential is still theirs, not yours!

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