DIY Self Improvement
There are those women who seem to have had it all planned out – what they wanted to do, how they wanted to do it, when they wanted it done by. Then there are ladies like us, who for some reason or another apparently missed the memo.
I dreamed of doing so many things when I was young – dancing salsa, speaking ten languages, flying a plane, adopting a panda. And it’s not like these are impossible goals (well, except for the panda). I just never had the drive to chase any of them. I think it’s time to change that. If you’ve made a personal vow to get your bum off that chair and better yourself for the sake of yourself and society, here are a couple of things to keep in mind:
Make a commitment. Most people are afraid of commitment, but what’s a vow without one? Dedicating yourself to making a change is half the battle.
Cultivate new habits. Wake up ten minutes earlier, go eco-friendly when shopping, make a daily Top 5 to-do list, and take the stairs. Make sure this new set of habits includes the kind that are good for you.
Alternatively, get rid of the bad ones. Quit smoking, biting your nails, procrastinating, making snide comments, and everything else that’s evil.
Give yourself a timeline. A month is roughly enough time for you to plan how things will go. It’s also enough time to follow through with the plan. Once you’ve made it through 21 days with your new routine, it will become a habit.
Publish a blog or journal. Here’s a novel idea. Writing in a journal will help you keep track of your progress and your cheat days. I find that blogs open to the public receive loads of positive feedback and encouragement. If you do decide to make your efforts public, don’t mind the haters. Just carry on.
Once you’ve made it through 21 days with your new routine, it will become a habit.
These suggestions form the foundation you’ll need to keep yourself focused. Here’s another list of things you can try to improve your marketability.
Read. If textbooks, newspapers and journals bore you to sleep, explore the alternatives. News blogs, op-eds, and social media offer interesting ways to keep yourself informed of what’s currently happening. It also gives you tidbits of information that you can use as conversation starters.
Exercise. Few things are better for your mood, sex drive, energy and brain than regular exercise. Figure out what you enjoy, whether it’s riding around on your bicycle, spin class, lifting weights, yoga or pilates, and do it for an hour three times per week. It’s an investment in your health and happiness.
Study another language. Sure, you may know English and belong to the biggest country that speaks it, but how do you think you’ll communicate with locals when you’re on a trip abroad? Try learning Spanish, Bahasa, Mandarin, or French. Learning a new language teaches you perseverance. It also sharpens your memory, especially when it comes to vocabulary and syntax. Lastly, it teaches you to think critically about what you say before you say it.
Learning a new language teaches you perseverance and helps sharpen your memory.
Develop an attitude. A good one, that is. Try being nice to everyone – and by everyone, I mean all other people outside your work zone and circle of loved ones. Always carry a smile on your face and be courteous to others, especially towards the elderly. Nobody likes being treated badly. Mind your manners and speak with respect, because even bitches hate bitches.
Learn how to cook. If you already know how, then learn to do it well! Check out episodes on the Food Network; they can inspire you. You’ll eventually be known by your friends’ children as that awesome aunt who makes the meanest parfaits. Then you can throw saucy dinners, lunches, and brunches at your place. You will soon discover the rewards of cooking. It’s both a hobby and a refuge when things get messy at work and at school. And let’s not forget, good food hooks good men. Invite your man for dinner or a snack. Who knows, your home cooked salsa might turn your dinner date into something spicier.
You are already a masterpiece to begin with. You’ve made it this far in your career and relationships, but there’s always room for more, don’t you think? Everyone always stands to benefit from some self improvement.
What are some ways you’d like to improve yourself, and how do you plan to go about doing it?