6 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence - URBANETTE: Lifestyle Magazine & Blog


6 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

How to make yourself feel like you can conquer the world in six easy steps. No, Really!


Everyone has times when they don’t feel like their best, most attractive or confident selves. Working through difficult times like these can actually make you stronger and more confident in the long run. When you’re in the middle of one of these stretches, it can be difficult to know how to work your way out of it. If this sounds familiar to you, try some of these tips to boost your confidence:


Change Your Appearance

Looking good can greatly increase your confidence. While you don’t need to drastically alter your appearance, simply taking a shower, shaving, putting on makeup and dressing nicely can help you feel ready to start that day. Again, this doesn’t mean you need to buy designer or expensive clothing, it just means dress for the situation (or even overdress a little) to help you feel special.

6 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Dye your hair red! Try blue eye shadow! Wear a sexy dress!

Another idea is to change up your style. If you’ve had the same hair color for ages, try changing it (you can do it yourself at home). Try some new up-do’s. Even just changing your makeup routine (hello, red lipstick!) or your shoe choice can give you a little boost.


Stop Reading Print Magazines

Studies show that women feel crummy about themselves, and their long-term self-esteem suffers, when they read print magazines. Looking at Photoshopped photos of models gets even models feeling less attractive, because even though we may consciously know that the images are fantasy, our subconscious brain still picks up on the harmful messaging; that we must look flawless, skinny and sultry if we expect to be loveable and sexy. And it’s all in an effort to sell us more products we really don’t need.

6 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Looking at these can be toxic for your self-esteem

So don’t listen. Better yet — don’t expose your brain to that messaging at all; read online blogs or indie magazines, like Urbanette, instead.

Pages: 1 2 3

A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she spends most of her time in France, NYC, London and Switzerland, and travels extensively around the world. Hilary spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always looking for hot new topics, destinations, and brands to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 113 Comments

  1. Bernadette Garza

    I usually do the stuff I’ve been procrastinating on, hahahaha. It works!😁😁

  2. Freda Spencer

    It’s been a week and I’ve been feeling off the rails for reasons I don’t know. I’m glad I read this article because I didn’t know what to do anymore.

  3. Janice Garcia

    Learn how to get out of the negative situation that’s making you feel down. I don’t know why, but my life is full of drama and I’m a magnet for it. The only lesson I’ve learned that really made an impact on my entire mental and physical health is that I get out of it as soon as I see red flags. Whether it’s in relationships, friendships, family or even work, if I no longer see the benefit it’s giving me and the cons weigh more than the cons, I get out of it. I don’t plan on drowning in the negativity that the people around me inflict.

  4. Miriam Love

    When I’m feeling down I tend to not groom myself properly. Like I’d go out without a wash of makeup or dressing up properly. But the problem with that is that you just feel worse than you already do and that’s not the goal here.

  5. Margaret Ross

    It’s a great idea to clear your head because when you’re feeling lost, it’s mostly because your thoughts are very cluttered!

    • Elisa Chambers

      I never thought of this!

  6. Karen Perry

    Sometimes I get frustrated with my progress in life and my confidence shatters alsmot instantly. What I usually do is set smaller goals that are easier to achieve, but in the end gets me closer to my bigger goal.

  7. Mildred Davis

    I try to always be proud of myself no matter what the outcome is. Like for certain decisions that I made and sometimes it doesn’t turn out to be the best decision I’ve done, I still give myself a tap on the shoulder because I was brave enough to go through it.

    • Marilyn Taylor

      It’s good to reward yourself.

  8. Cindy Nichols

    Whenever I don’t feel motivated, I switch up my to-do list and go for tasks that I can finish easily. I don’t want to force myself to do something that I’m not 100% motivated for because I’ll just end up disappointed with the outcome. Feeling disappointed could just lead to more negative feelings. So it’s best to just stick with easy tasks that once you’re finished doing it, you’ll know that you were still productive and that you’ve accomplished something. I don’t think it’s a bad thing that you changed your schedule just because you weren’t feeling it. It’s called self-care.

  9. Inez Knight

    Just be kind to yourself even for a little while! ❤️

    • Josephine Strickland

      This is a great trick, honestly. We forget this a lot.

  10. Margaret Palmer

    I usually remind myself that life isn’t always about success. It can have failures but you don’t have to stay on that negative side. Everyone experiences failures. I remind myself that the failures are lessons and that I should just keep moving forward and set myself up to win. I think your mindset has a big effect on your confidence. I mean, you can always just keep looking ahead instead of looking back, since you’re not going that way. It’s also great to remove anything from your life that doesn’t help you grow as a person.

Load 10 more comments

Join in the Conversation! Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *