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The United Boy’s Club of America: Beauty Queens, Bad Mothers and Bitches


We’ve talked about the media and the fact that 90% of mainstream media is run by six squid-like corporations with dick-swinging men at the helm. It’s no wonder the male perspective is almost all that we see and hear. It’s also no wonder that the word feminism has been muddied by this powerhouse.

Female Politicians: Beauty Queens, Bad Mothers and Bitches

A prime example of the media’s resistance to feminism can be seen in American presidential elections, where female candidates are first recognized, in a diminishing way, for being female. Comments on their looks take the forefront, where career success and professionalism comes in a distant second.

The United Boy’s Club of America: Beauty Queens, Bad Mothers and BitchesIn 2008, Hilary Clinton and Sarah Palin faced different views of sexism; Clinton and Palin alike were victims of media’s focus on objectification through emphasis on sex appeal. Pitted against each other for entirely the wrong reasons, Hillary looked “tired and dowdy”, while Palin was labeled as a sex object, overshadowing her abilities as a serious candidate.

Regardless of your views on Palin and her obvious idiocy, the contents of her head –not the appearance of it– should have been the media’s focus. As hard as it is for me to say in this particular case, she deserved a chance as much as anyone else running for office — but she didn’t get it. Instead, she was continually disempowered and marginalized for being female.

The United Boy’s Club of America: Beauty Queens, Bad Mothers and Bitches

The very fact that this man is so popular says a lot about the sexist and bigoted undertones that are pervasive in America

Hillary Clinton has been equally objectified by being labeled as manly and haggard due to her past positions of power and pantsuits. Too much or too little femininity is grossly harped on, as is showing “too much” or “not enough” emotion; where and what is that perfect balance of femininity? I wish the media would tell us! /s

The double standards imposed by media are endless, and the disempowering effect is subtle.

“Take note: positive, negative, or neutral media coverage of a woman candidate’s appearance has a detrimental impact on the woman candidate’s race, whether the coverage is on the politics channel or style channel. When a woman candidate’s looks become part of the election story, she loses ground,” said Burton, President of the Women’s Media Center, “The press is part of the problem – it may be fun to focus more on a woman’s shoes than her views, but this coverage has a real impact on women candidates.”

The United Boy’s Club of America: Beauty Queens, Bad Mothers and Bitches

The media loves Trump, in all his sexist glory

In 2016, before Carly Fiorina dropped out, she was the subject of a barrage of sexism, including this very public comment from Donald Trump: “Look at that face. Would anyone vote for that? Can you imagine that, the face of our next next president? I mean, she’s a woman, and I’m not supposed to say bad things, but really, folks, come on. Are we serious??” Trump, who’s no stranger to the media, is clearly in on these mind-games and is well aware that he gains supporters (and his female opponent loses) with every bigoted and sexist comment that escapes his hateful orange head.

The very fact that a sexist bigot like Trump is so popular says a lot about the misogynistic undertones that are pervasive in America.

The media is also no stranger to the effect of harping on his sexist comments. By constantly repeating them, and sometimes even commenting on their validity, they are reinforcing his words and influencing the vote. And they know it. The sly part is that, all the while, they claim to be calling out sexism.

The United Boy’s Club of America: Beauty Queens, Bad Mothers and Bitches

Perhaps most frustrating is the fact that many people don’t even realize they’re sexist. They actually think that they’re open-minded and gender-neutral. Yet they don’t like Hillary because she’s “crooked” or had a personal email server (which, BTW, most politicians do). They can’t really make a solid, rational argument to justify why they hate her so much. But the truth, for most of them, is that cultural bias forced them into that opinion. In other words, women as a concept are competent and should be able to hold political office, but when a real woman tries, there’s always something wrong with that specific woman.

The United Boy’s Club of America: Beauty Queens, Bad Mothers and Bitches

Study after study demonstrates this bias, and how the brain can be easily manipulated into thinking it’s in control when, in fact, the media is subconsciously manipulating our opinions. Case in point: You’d think that a woman would be less likely to throw sexist insults, but the media continues to pit women against each other and brainwash them into unknowingly exhibiting sexist behavior against each other. For example, Carly Fiorina may not have even realized that she was being horrendously sexist when she blurted out that Hillary Clinton will play the “woman card” every chance she gets and that “Republicans should get used to it”.

It didn’t come as a surprise when Kellyanne Conway, Trump’s campaign manager, told Ryan Lizza that being a female consultant in the Republican Party means “when I walk into a meeting at the R.N.C. or somewhere I always feel like I’m walking into a bachelor party in the locker room of the Elks club.” As long as we let men like this fill our screens, women will never be seen as equal to men.

How the media feasts on their delicious double-standards:

The media masquerades as an unbiased reporter, but let’s not forget that 90% of the media in America is owned by six squid-like corporations — all with men at the helm. Trending opinions believe that female leadership is stalled, and possibly declining. Credit goes to media’s barrage of subtly misogynistic messages.

The United Boy’s Club of America: Beauty Queens, Bad Mothers and BitchesWomen are constantly challenged and criticized based on their supposed inability to juggle family and politics, whereas their male counterparts are never called into question in regard to their abilities of being good husbands and fathers, good little-league coaches or household handymen. American society is set up to hate and oppress women who are deemed as “bad mothers”. It’s part of the culture, and it’s not the same for men; parenting is rarely deemed to be the man’s responsibility, and ambitious workaholic men are revered in America. The media knows this; at the root is the fact that media, like politics, is male-dominated.

Clinton is consistently portrayed as being filled with testosterone and exploiting her family for power, while Palin’s devotion of time to the vice-presidency was scrutinized based on her having five children. If Palin’s husband had been the candidate, would he have been asked the same questions? Bill Clinton wasn’t. Due to the focus on irrelevant issues for female politicians, additional barriers are created, her voice is belittled, her policy ideas go unheard, and she’s forced to jump through far more hoops than her male competitors.

The United Boy’s Club of America: Beauty Queens, Bad Mothers and Bitches

Interview questions on major news shows range from “Everyone wants to know: Have you had plastic surgery?” to “What would you wear to the Inauguration?” That, or they harp on Hillary’s (but, oddly, never Trump’s) “sense of entitlement”. The media machine wonders aloud: Is she riding the coattails of her husband? Clearly there couldn’t be love in a relationship with such an ambitious woman. When Bill could have traded her in for a younger model (a la Trump), why wouldn’t he? They must have some sort of “agreement”, right?

Trump supporters routinely tweet #repealthe19th (the constitutional amendment giving women the right to vote). One example, reported by CBS News: “Give out nice enough handbags and most broads would gladly trade their voting rights for one. #repealthe19th.”

The double standards imposed by media are endless, and the disempowering effect they have on the way society views these women is subtle – unless you’re looking out for it. How can female candidates –for any elected office– be truly successful if they are set up for failure from the beginning? It seems that these women are unable to command the same respect given to their male counterparts, and are often seen as riding the coattails of their husbands or running mates.

The United Boy’s Club of America: Beauty Queens, Bad Mothers and Bitches

When was the last time you saw a cover criticising a male politician for their emotions instead of their views?

The media’s gender-based discrimination continues to hinder the progression of female leadership.

“Women candidates pay a real price when they are covered in a way that focuses on their appearance,” said Celinda Lake of Lake Research Partners. “Even what we thought was benign coverage about how a woman dresses has a negative impact on her vote and whether voters perceive her as likable, in-touch, confident, effective, or qualified. And, in close races, sexist coverage on top of the attacks that every candidate faces can make the difference between winning and losing.”


Read more in the ‘United Boys Club of America’ series:

This is a very powerful speech from Michelle Obama about the sexism in this election, and the dangers of gender bias in American culture:

Do you vote in local elections? Have you ever voted for a female politician?

A writer, artist and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary spends most of her time in France, but still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. Hilary spent the past decade living in NYC and has traveled extensively around the world, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and brands to bring to Urbanette readers.


  1. It’s really maddening that, in this modern day, women are still second-class citizens. I hope more blogs write about these issues, rather than the usual crap about the latest mascara (we wear that crap for men, anyway, so all that is essentially part of the problem, right?!)

  2. Thank you for discussing this issue! As a woman and mother, my opinion is: we need women in positions of power as well as powerful women role models for young girls to look up to. This way, progress as a society can be achieved.

  3. There is an injustice to women because media apparently “misrepresents” women politicians. These criticisms are creating a barrier from equality while strengthening the idea that men should hold power and women are just to be looked at (they can’t lead and formulate policies).

  4. Delilah Montero

    Thanks for writing about women in politics! I feel strongly about this topic because objectification, sexualization, and media criticisms about women politicians are in fact preventing worthy, skilled and intelligent female candidates from being elected.

  5. Yes, I aim and dream to be President-elect someday! But an alarming observation is that when there is a woman in power and in the public eye, the American media never fails to critique her appearance. And it’s irrelevant and inappropriate whether they are insulting or flattering comments about physical appearance.

  6. Gregor Perry

    Your article very much reminded me of “When the Media Compliments a Female Politician’s Looks, She Loses the Election” which addresses the typical pattern of Americans to critique the appearances of female politicians.

  7. Celine Carter

    YES! I vote, participate and take part in local elections. I want my voice to be heard, no matter how small it might seem!

  8. Ziri Digne

    “Politics remains one of the most rampant breeding grounds for misogyny.” — Sam Bennett, Women’s Campaign Forum Foundation

  9. Sabrina Grattidge

    Multiple countries have achieved electing a woman into an executive office. However, it cannot be denied that discomfort in the general population remains: a female leader cannot be easily trusted when it comes to handling foreign policy, enacting legislation among others.

    • Keisha Fry

      Perfectly said! I totally agree!

  10. Helena Stevens

    News about women politicians… all about appearance, wardrobe, and personality… it seems that political agenda don’t exist…

    A bit frustrating…

  11. Melissa Mendez

    An interesting read that I’d like to share in relation to your post, The Economist’s “Wonder Women and Macho Men.” This article records that women in Latin America as now spending more years in school than men and it clearly suggests that leadership skills will and could improve.

  12. Lana Urie

    I feel bad that until today, in the age of modern technology, women still struggle to express ideas without being discriminated for their sex or having it rejected by a male counterpart… *sigh*

  13. Jeremy DeChad

    From what I see, it’s the women who set this mentality and cause their own failures in politics. They are obsessed or care SO MUCH about looks, fashion, hair and makeup. Men really don’t care much about this. Women are not really interested in politics as much as men are.

    Now, women fail in politics, but do we blame it all on media?

    • Martina Kelly

      Women play a different game in politics – the media will check our looks first – what we think Our political proposals ALWAYS come second. Women are taught since younger age that politics is men’s world – when it is not. So many men (and I think you’re one of them) hate women and try to diminish women’s efforts all the time, how will this world ever be a fair place for both genders?

  14. Lindy Gardner

    Women objectification is disgusting! Why do you think women have less interest in politics?! I guess many are put off by the system as it is now!

    • Emily Foulkes

      Oh yes! I totally agree with you! I hope more enlightening pieces about politics like this be written!

  15. It’s unsurprising how media talk about female politicians. They will be questioned not on their political beliefs and agenda but on their favorite designers. Duh! They will be criticized for being too feminine or not feminine enough!

  16. Shiela Williams

    Yeah!!! I hate the disempowering effects of media!!! More articles of this kind, please! Influential piece!!!

  17. Rosina McMillian

    I can’t even tell you how much I love this post. This is so fantastic and the timing couldn’t be better. I intend to read this again. All the candidates running for presidency would be terrible for women’s rights, but Donald Trump seems to take particular joy in disparaging women. If Trump gets in, racism in the US will deepen, which is terrible.

  18. Alice Harris

    Right! we can do better. I love what you write here. It’s such a breath of fresh air. I felt every sentence of this blog in my being, and I will re-read it as often as needed. Feminism isn’t a bad word and not all women bash men.

  19. Tiffany Norris

    Wow! Just wow. Exactly what I needed to read today. So beautifully written. The content of the article is true and many can relate to some of these situations first hand. Thank you Hilary!

  20. Courtney Floxen

    Thank you for that very beautiful and inspirational message. This by far one of the most important posts in your mag. I have no problem with female allies or women who speak the truth. It’s sad to think that there are women who are not deeply in our corner that speak on our behalf. I also think that we need to be able to stand up for our selves and not rely on female spokeswomen.

  21. Fern May

    Sexism is still a big issue. Some people think that you are a lesbian if you’re a feminist. I find it ridiculous that there are so many male presidents and senators when plenty of women are experts in this area. Your insightful and dauntless message has reminded me to realize my potential and never be afraid to speak my mind. Thank you for breaking it down for us, Hilary!

  22. Esther Earl Harris

    Interesting article. We need more like this. Some of these highlight serious issues that need to be addressed. That’s why i’m drawing attention to these problems and ensuring that my son will grow up to treat women with respect, because it’s essential too!

  23. Kimberly Vigil

    This is so very well said. I am always grateful for you and your wisdom. Thank you so much for this, Hilary. I need to re-read it about a thousand times. I’ve been reading your blog, along with the writing of other people I admire, for a while. 🙂

  24. Cornelia Green

    This is a good informative article. I found this post resonated with me this morning as I lay here recovering from what ails me. As ever, a lot of men really have a problem with women standing up for ourselves. And they even call us the weaker sex. We need women like you to step up and be a voice for those that cannot speak.

  25. Cynthia Keller

    Hilary, this is exactly what I needed this morning.This is totally the biggest truth I’ve read lately. I really like how this article addresses the issue of hypocrisy in mainstream feminism. This was a real eye-opener. Thank you for this astute, clear message.

  26. Lela House

    I agree! The media isn’t for the thin-skinned, and the panic over trolls and online harassment often appears absurd.

  27. BRILLIANT! This might be the best article I’ve ever read. Period. Urbanette is officially my favorite magazine.

  28. Franny Pimms

    THANK YOU for calling attention to this issue and describing it so articulately. I’m SUPER impressed! I love the way you described the 6 men-led media corporations as squid-like. They affect every area of our lives. SO perfect!

  29. WOW – what a powerful article!! This is so clearly true, and yet I haven’t ever thought about it like this before. You really clarified how the system works and puts women at such a disadvantage. Wow wow. Keep on publishing articles like this — the world needs to get clarity on these issues!

  30. Courtney Watson

    Politicians and other leaders are expected to be “tough” and “strong.” Unfortunately, women are associated with being “compassionate” and “warm.” This stereotype is making politics very challenging for women.

    As a woman, I hate this! But it keeps me wondering, what simple ways can I do to change this?!

  31. Brana Dane

    Here in America, women can’t just win the corporate and political world. If women are being tough and take control, they will be accused of being bossy or bitch! If they stand aside, they will be accused of being weak and not a leader material. It’s really hard to win if you are a failure from the start… *sigh*

  32. Thanks for a very thought-provoking piece, Hilary!

  33. Sarah Evanston

    I hate it when media portrays women as weaker sex. Reading this article reminded me of this: “Wherever you find a great man, you will find a great mother or a great wife standing behind him — or so they used to say. It would be interesting to know how many great women have had great fathers and husbands behind them.”

  34. Gabby Williams

    Double standard… Too emotional… Stereotype… I personally think that we can create significant political changes if empower younger generations. Girls at early age should be taught worthy things — like becoming a leader. However, the question, HOW?! remains…

  35. Excellent article! I really appreciate how you’re able to express great points, Hilary! Unfortunately, double standard continues to exist and men take advantage of it.

    I feel terrible that media obviously displayed double standards when it comes to news coverage of politicians 🙁

  36. Lucy R

    It cannot be denied that women have come a long way. More and more women are proving that we are equally intelligent, innovative and strong as men. However, the question of work-life balance remains. I think, career interruptions related to motherhood is making it hard for women to advance more and compete effectively with men.

  37. Hannah Mayers

    Thank you for clearly expressing great thoughts! I’d just like to share a study by Pew Research Center (2015) that showed majority of American respondents consider male and female “equally” capable of leadership, HOWEVER, four in ten participants believed that women NEED to work harder than men in order to be successful.

    Unfortunately, stereotypes still exist 🙁

  38. Another interesting article from you, Hilary! The double standard is very exhausting! Words matter in political campaigns and it cannot be denied that male politicians get more positive words from media and other politicians. Well, I’m still hopeful that a woman politician can win that top political spot… still a long battle, though.

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