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The Sex Industry, Gonzo Porn and Me…

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I met the sex industry at the age of sixteen. I was in a local diner when a short, tubby woman approached me and handed me her business card. She asked if I wanted to join her glamour model agency. It sounds ridiculous now, but I was elated – I thought it was such a compliment. Then, when she told me I would get three to five hundred pound (that’s about $450 to $750) per shoot, I was completely sold. Like many girls who sign up for the sex industry, I was living hand to mouth. To me, $500 was a fortune.

A few weeks later, I went to my first job. I arrived at a Tudor-style house, hundreds of miles from where I lived. I remember a tanned, bare-chested guy of about twenty-five opened the door and gave me a cheery grin. I was led into the kitchen, given a glass of champagne and guided to a stool to have my make-up done. As I drank the champagne, I watched two men set up the shoot around a grotto-style pool.

The Sex Industry, Gonzo Porn and Me…

The guy who answered the door then –very casually– pulled his penis out of his pants and started tugging on it, to the amusement of the rest of the group. Horrified, I asked the makeup artist what was going on and she said, “that’s what you’ll be screwing, honey”.

I was totally shocked. I had no idea I was expected to have sex with someone on camera. I told them that I couldn’t do it because I had a boyfriend. They were cross with me but even angrier with the woman who had sent me. Apparently, this wasn’t the first time a girl had turned up quite unaware of what she was actually going to be required to do.

One of the men told me I wouldn’t be paid for the day and nor would I be given any money for my travel expenses. This was a huge issue for me. After paying for the long cab ride out, I no longer had enough money to get back home. I started to panic. I didn’t know where I was. I couldn’t order a taxi. I didn’t even have enough money for the train. Looking back now, perhaps I should have walked. But I didn’t. Feeling trapped, I very reluctantly did what they asked of me.

This was the start of my career in the glamour industry and the beginning of my desensitization. Lured by money, numbed by alcohol, and paralyzed by the lack of other employment opportunities, I ended up staying in it for a decade. During those ten years, I experienced the sex industry in all its manifestations. I was used, raped, became a functioning drunk and lived through two drug overdoses. I now think of myself as a rehabilitated victim of sexual abuse, even though I gave my consent.

The Sex Industry, Gonzo Porn and Me…

When I finally escaped, I made it my mission to change my life through education. I studied for a degree, then got my MA and finally a PhD. During this time, I began to realize that even the act of identifying myself as a glamour model had oppressed me. I wore the glamour girl’s uniform of short skirts, low cut tops and brash make-up — which inevitably invited a certain response. When I dressed this way, men treated me like an object and women hated me. Many glamour models convince themselves it’s because women are jealous of them, but I don’t think that’s the case. In reality, we were pitied for being a plaything of the patriarchy.

The sex industry turns the naked female body into a platform for perversion. Women are presented as sexual objects to be used (and abused). This is in stark contrast to the male performers in the industry who are dominating, seemingly in control, and allowed expressive range.

The sad thing is that women as object is a perspective that bleeds into the mainstream. Women are either hot or invisible. Sure we can recognise a hot male, but we don’t vilify the not-so-hot in the process. Porn amplifies this objectified perception of women, making many feel pressurised into catching the wondering eye of their partners — and allowing men to feel entitled to stray.

True gender equality is not going to be achieved by simply revealing more flesh in new forms. We’ve been there, done it. It’s not radical. True freedom is in refusing to participate and covering up for a change.

Know that you deserve to be seen as sexy because of the things you have to say — not because of the curve of your cleavage or the cling of your skirt.

Women should recognise that they are being duped by the sexual entitlement culture into thinking that this vast sex market is somehow beneficial to them. True radicalism is refusing to be an ‘ornament’. Be good looking, sure, but dress for yourself. Porn and the ‘glamour model’ have changed women’s positioning in relationships. I’ve heard many stories of husbands expecting gonzo porn to be a regular feature of the bedroom.

In fact gonzo porn (sex focused on men provided by objectified women and shot from a solely male perspective) has done a huge amount of damage to society. Men are finding it harder to get turned on by real sex, too often needing the woman to behave like a slut with some anal chucked in. The come-guzzling, double-penetrated spunk dump has replaced the Playboy model as man’s best friend.

The Sex Industry, Gonzo Porn and Me…

Studies have been conducted which show that children as young as eleven years old are regularly consuming porn. These children are learning the ridiculous gonzo narrative that all women love being gang-banged. Unless something changes, these kids are the next generation of warped sex addicts, logging on and getting off in the wee hours, whilst their girlfriends sleep.

Gonzo now dominates the internet, representing almost 70% of porn traffic. Alternative porn is a genre that at least tries to show both genders equally and from conventional camera shots, but it’s not popular because the mainstream porn industry wants power and domination over women. It wants to hurt women physically, emotionally and societally whilst making money from their suffering at the same time. Gonzo porn is now so widespread and damaging that it has got to be stopped.

Women in the sex industry rarely truly consent to participation. They are either pressured, drugged, brainwashed, or feel they have no other choice. The majority of the women in porn suffer through it because they’re in a desperate situation. In the end, we all feel ruined by it. The only people who are really in control are the producers — and they are in no hurry to point out that most so-called “porn stars” end up regretting it. Those of us lucky enough to break free end up living with constant reminders of our mistakes. Thanks to the Internet, the pictures and videos that we’re now ashamed of will inescapably live on forever; making money for our oppressors and shining on as examples of very values we now despise.

Vikki Dark is a British writer and academic whose oeuvre spans erotica, biography and transgressive fiction. Her latest book, about an adult film star, focuses on contemporary feminism relevant to cyber culture and sex.

59 Comments

  1. Curtis

    I would like you to address a concern I have in my dating life and the dating lives of my friends. If we behave like gentlemen, we are overlooked. If we treat women like objects, we get laid. This spans all demographics and body types. It seems as though men are being asked to be upstanding and virtuos, but the abusive degrading males are rewarded with sex. This sends guys a mixed message and when women ask for respect, but reward degradation, men will opt with what gets them laid, which is basically validation of their worth as men. Porn in general is destroying love and reducing sex to “using another person for masturbation.” In talking to women, I have found that they are as clueless about sex as men are, mostly because their sex education is based on watching porn like men. Im also confused by women’s need for respect, but also their need for domination. This is exemplified by the Fifty Shades of Grey series success as well as conversations with women. On multiple occasions I have been told by a woman how much she loves a hot guy (hyper masculine, angry, aggressive, uncaring) dominating her.The messages that men are receiving as the standards that they are expected to strive for are in opposition. How do we choose?

    • Curtis

      I’d like to add that I became addicted to pornography at age 9. I have managed to overcome the programming it installs, but with the porn becoming more extreme and being acceptable to younger and younger children, I see a danger coming that could destroy our ability to see each other as anything more than subhuman sex toys. I see this happening with women’s attitudes as well as men’s. It’s not as one sided as it sometimes appears in print.

      • Kiki

        It’s confusing for us too! Me and my friends have realised that we chased men who treated us like shit and looked at us as objects because it maybe confirmed our own insecurities that we had naturally as young, naive girls, and also the message of low self esteem that we are constantly broadcast by society. I’ve learned to stop looking at the dickhead who likes to make me feel bad about myself, and seek out guys who know who the fuck they are emotionally. The sex is way better when you’re not emulating some fake video with a thousand fake orgasms, and you can actually have a real friend in the person you’re shagging! Don’t give in to the temptation to act like an arsehole just because it gets short term results. Think about the long term implications for yourself, for your girlfriends, and for society!

    • Jesse Bolinder

      Because if sex, aka “getting laid”, or as it can otherwise be thought of, using a woman to masterbate, is your only goal then sadly societies horrific norms may actually be the way to get that. But, that goal is fundamentally flawed and will always lead to disaster. So, as someone married for 13 years to the greatest woman alive, the choice is obvious. Respect and love, gentleness and kindness, learning to cherishing her for every inch of her being leads to a feeling of acceptance, belonging, oneness, joy, and freedom, as well as plenty of great sex. Marriage can take work and compromise and self-sacrifice, but living one night stand to one night porn binge and on and on is like gorging yourself on just crappy cookies at the worlds greatest seven course dinner, a committed mutually respecting, gentle relationship. Now, if that’s long gone, ok. I know many a great friends who willingly or unwilling feel they lost or gave up that option. But, a new start is available. I wonder if a first step is accepting that lots of sex is never going to leave you satisfied.

  2. Cheryl Angle

    Vikki,
    I signed your petition and this rational approach brings me great hope that we can protect our children.

    I’m 63 – I came of age when porn was Playboy and my early sexual explorations were direct experience between myself and a young man (at that time) NOT filtered through the Invisible Porn Agenda hard-wired on the male brain – and increasingly – on the young female brain to go along with this violent bullshit.

    Medical doctors are saying a huge increase in teen girls asking for anal numbing agents to tolerate the anal sex as now promoted by porn and enforced on our at-least-recent virgins on a male laundry list of notches in their porno belt.

    I found a list written on a scrap of paper in my 16 year old daughters pockets doiing laundry – honestly – her 17 year old boyfriends list of sex demands. #1 was anal, #2 was facial, on and on. I never told her I’d found that, but I did initiate a conversation saying that a girl can say NO to anything she finds objectionable, which is not pleasurable and that sex never means hurting or shouldn’t include bad words/namealling as that is NOT LOVE and stupid porn based acts demanded by young men these days can be declined once and for all.

    I very much applaud your BRAVERY, Vikki. I am inspired myself to become a more brave outspoken critic of this hypersexualized for-profit commercialized sex insanity. Aren’t our gonads flogged enough already? Are we not seeing rise in hostility towards women/girls? Isn’t the world a more dangerous fascist controlled male autocracy every day? Look at Weimar Germany – corrupt and very pornified. Resist pornification!

    Porn definitely is driving sex trafficking of girls and women. All women need to face their intimate partners and tell them why porn has no right to live in their bedroom. Or, else.

  3. John Keenan

    Anything to save young children and adolescents. To keep their innocence to a point where it should be and not lost in the haze of bad folk… We need to keep our young girls safe and well. The sex industry has a lot to answer for, and we all know children can be curious at times, but it’s wrong to just say ‘roll with the times’. I also don’t think that children should be given mobile phones or computers at an early age. Technology can be a good thing but it’s also an evil dark place.

  4. Well done, Vikki, on sharing your important story! 🙂 We hope many young women learn from everything you’ve been through.

    You are also doing an excellent job in educating people about the current state of the porn industry, and its many horrific harms to women and girls. Please continue! We hope many men and boys hear you and chose to no longer use or support pornography.

    We urge everyone to sign your petition to help enact vital legislation to lessen the worst harms and abuses of pornography.

    PETITION:

    http://www.petitions24.com/protect_human_rights_from_pornography

    STORY BEHIND PETITION, PLUS WISH WALL:

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    We also urge everyone in the UK and Europe to support and get involved with these feminist UK organizations, who are fighting against the harms of pornography and porn culture, as well as sexual objectification and exploitation.

    http://www.resistpornculture.org

    http://ukfeminista.org.uk

    http://objectupdate.tumblr.com

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    In North America, there are only two feminist or truly nonreligious charities that are fighting against the multi-billion dollar porn industry. We are one of them, and are the only one to give support to survivors of the porn industry, and to provide a platform for them to share their vital stories and voices.

    http://www.AntiPornography.org

    However, if we don’t acquire major funding in the next few months, we won’t be able to continue to provide this important service to these survivors in need and the public.

    So we urge any of you who are able to, to please donate to our organization:

    https://www.paypal.me/AntiPornOrg

    http://www.antipornography.org/donate.html

    Also, if any of you know of any potential funding sources for us, either charitable foundations or wealthy individuals, please feel free to refer us to them, or refer them to us. Thanks!

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    Thank you again, Vikki, for all of your much-needed efforts for this critically important cause! We also are very grateful for your caring support of our organization and our work. We appreciate your kindness and your helpful writing and activism very much! 🙂

  5. ‎If you want to support this cause please sign my petition: ‎http://www.petitions24.com/signatures/protect_human_rights_from_pornography/start/60

    And to offer support visit AntiPornography.org‎, a non-religious charity that works on the front lines of the devastation caused by the sex industry.

    All help is needed to fight this.

    Thank you Ladies ‎

    Vikki

  6. Porn destroys lives. They degrade women. Porn has nothing to with love and affection. Simply it is demonic . If anyone supports the practice of pornography they should be ok if their sister, mother, or daughter go into pornography. If they would not want their loved ones going into porn then they should not endorse others going into it. Everyone knows that the porn industry is a dirty filthy, greedy criminal machine. Porn shouldn’t even be legal. it’s addicting and it degrades the people doing Porn and it makes everyone look like objects. it has to be physically damaging to them, not to mention mentally. plus if they are on drugs that’s even worse.

  7. The porn industry is full of the worse kind of human filth and scum. I am referring to the producers and executives, not the actresses who fall prey to these vultures. Please people stop watching and buying this filth. I know it’s hard but get out of your seats and go meet someone and have real life experiences. Don’t make these women suffer any longer.

    • This is so true. I didn’t meet anyone of integrity in it.

  8. Domestic violence and assault are 100% illegal but it’s acceptable to violate women on-screen for money? How are those guys not getting arrested? Anyone who watches or supports this stuff should be treated just like those who watch child porn–like dangerous criminals. This isn’t about fantasies or whether ythey’d violate a woman in real life. It’s about the women who ARE getting abused on screen for their pleasure. Remove the demand and the supply will dry up.

  9. Apart from the violent stuff, having all the girls auditioning lined up nude on cardboard boxes in a manky old warehouse pretty much says what the men in porn think about women.

  10. I was under the impression that there are laws about this- for instance, they can only show what is obviously FAKE or “play” “violence” (or “rape”). Anything that is obviously (or apparently) too real is NOT allowed in porn- it’s illegal. Or am I wrong in regards to the laws?

  11. Great article! So many people are afraid to talk about the adult industry and it needs to be done. I’d love to see more unbiased research of the field.

  12. Interesting article. I agree that porn is becoming more extreme. It is worrying that boys and girls are viewing it at even younger ages. This is very sad. It highlights the extremes of sad human behaviour. It is sad that it is almost entirely male behaviour at the saddest end of the spectrum.

  13. What to do about porn? Well, I’m afraid I see no alternative to a return to some sort of classification. Decisions have to be made about what counts as pornography, and what counts as extreme pornography, and these have to be made illegal, with appropriate sentences. We do it in the case of child porn, we must do it for all porn.

  14. I very much support the movement against violent porn, and the pornification of main-stream sex. Great article, and good to see so many supportive comments!

  15. I applaud this article! I swear to god the arrogrance of some men is unbelievable. I think it is a damaging thing on the whole. My question is why do the women agree to this level of degradation? Money firstly. But I am amazed that so many have such little sense of self worth. I suspect there are a lot who enjoy it too. This then massively complicates the issue. Male sexuality is blunt and dumb. It gets titilated by power and control. The way to make this less damaging is on the female side. Respect yourselves. Don’t do anything you don’t want to and no man worth being involved with will argue about how you define your boundaries.

  16. http://www.desideriamo.it/desideri/protect-human-rights-pornography/ Ladies, please follow this link and comment with your views. We are building a campaign.

  17. Yes, no doubt porn has a destructive effect upon our sexuality. Yet, if our culture possessed a HEALTHY sexuality to begin with, there would be no porn market.

  18. I absolutely hate the violent porn that’s out there and I totally agree with your view that it’s utterly distasteful and degrading to women.

  19. The more porn images filter into mainstream culture, the more girls and women are stripped of full human status and reduced to sex objects. Correct, but how about the way women are portrayed nowadays in most advertising, fashion shoots, pop videos, movies and so on?

  20. there isn’t enough money in the world that can buy my agreement, participation , support or tolerance for a diseased part of society that allows PORN/SEX INDUSTRY. criminality isn’t given license to grow itself yet this form of abuse of women and the greater public is. pop culture feeds it. films glamourize it. we leave a legacy of vulgarity as the offense to our future young women that will become mothers. we make their lives difficult and dangerous. we enable rapists and predators. we profit the makers, creators and PERFORMERS. we award their lives and talent with fame and more money for the disease they spread. we think we can’t change it. we’re all responsible for the problems it’s brought our lives and we can all live from the possibility of freedom from it. start boycotting anything vulgar sold in the way of womens fashion. celebrate your daughter’s virtue, praise her for her modesty. buy her clothes that protect her innocence. keep out the noise of the sex industry from their lives as long as possible however it has to be managed from computers to what magazines you support. tell editors and producers and actresses and singers what they are doing to damage your children in the name of entertainment. and while you men say it’s YOUR civil rights and freedom of speech to choose porn or not. well it won’t bring back the murdered young woman left mutilated in the woods after being raped. it won’t repair the trust of the ones that survived rape and violence. it won’t insure it can’t happen to you or someone you love..

  21. Couldn’t agree more with you! All that beingsaid, I was delighted to see the porn director ‘Max Hardcore’ get sent to prison for four years for what he produced. That was vile stuff, was barely consensual and he was rightly sent down.

  22. I’m so pleased there is an article like this. I never thought of porn as being damaging to society in any way, never dreamt of it before, and I’ve never liked porn but I though it was more a male thing anyway and being a woman I just accepted that. Threre are such strange things out there in porn, and I think it’s terrible how it’s got to the point where some men are only aroused by certain specific things and cannot see past the choreographed pornographic ideas.

  23. I do wonder with gonzo porn whether it is really MEANT to be arousing or whether it’s more like something people sit around laughing at with their “crew” in a manner similar to Jackass or You’ve Been Framed but with intravenous heroin injections and specula rather than dogs playing pianos. I must admit that I’ve never seen any of the aforementioned (though I have seen trailers), but the market seems to be there.

  24. Dana Rosatti

    I cannot see anyone ever being able to outlaw pornography, but it will help if lots of people speak out clearly against the violent fringes of it. Maybe if they then say which parts of the industry they find acceptable, the vulnerable viewing public won’t be left with “all porn is ok” or “all porn is violence” as the only choices.

  25. Lucretia Asher

    Pornography is often linked to violence. I know there is a lot of debate about permission in S&M, but the fact is that sex is linked to violence and it is made sexy. Leather crops become normal sex toys. Those who object to it, are not seen as anti-violence, but as anti-sex. This means sex is used to sell violence. And that is definitely not okay!!!

  26. Samantha Anthony

    There is most likely a cultural aspect to this too. In the UK I saw an advert recently for mouthwash that showed a naked woman swaying through a wheat field. Now, do I really need to know what she looks like when being sold mouthwash? If women are agreeing on such a small level to have their bodies used to sell things, what hope is there of stopping porn?

  27. Debbie Jones

    i agree with this wholeheartedly. im an older sister ( 10 years between us) and some of the things my sisters male friends say they want to do to a woman shocked me. when i was at school very very rarely i heard boys wanting to do some of these things.

    as ive got older i have noticed a massive change in the attitudes of men i have dated. so much so i left my last partner because of his desire to do certain things i was not comfortable with or even deem appropriate in a ‘healthy’ relationship.

    sex is a part of a healthy relationship but what i see in porn films is clearly not healthy or normal and to ask a woman to partake in some of these acts is almost as bad and humiliating as a public lashing.

  28. Elin Hanks

    I agree completely with the article, but can’t we say the same about violence in the media. Primetime acts of violence are not only becoming more frequent and extreme. We sublimate violence in fiction to keep it out of reality, the argument goes. And I’m not saying it is a sound one. The question is: if (hopefully) everybody understands the difference between CSI and murder, why do we mix violent porn and sex? Frustration?

  29. Lin Del Rey

    As anyone knows who has had sex with a porn-fixated man – boy is it boring! I spent far too much time with a bloke who acted like a teenager with a continuous porn loop running in his head. Being with a bloke who has a received sexual choreography instead of a mature sexuality is a major BORE. Sex is (among many other things) an act of self-expression and inquiry. Porn makes people into unoriginal drones who cannot be themselves.

  30. Christina Norelli

    A study of the effects of pornography I know of was carried out in Sweden a few years ago.One of the conclusions were that men who view a lot of porn tend to demand that their wifes or girlfriends engage in activities they find disgusting or demeaning. It affects men’s expectations of sex. And that needs to be stopped.

  31. Sonja Fallow

    I completely agree!! I have to admit that the proliferation of porn is an absolute disaster especially for young children. I mean for God’s sake, I have heard a bunch of 10 year olds were listing off slang for various sex tecnhiques.

  32. Lena Dzeko

    Certainly porn itself does not cause men to commit male violence against women but these women-hating messages and male contempt for women reinforce long-held and long promoted claims that women are not human and only men have rights.

  33. Cassi Braun

    Excellent article focusing on how pornography which is now mainstream is not ‘fantasy’ but deliberate promotion of male hatred and contempt for women. Furthermore pornography is about the violation of all women’s human rights.

    We are not ‘recepticles’ for men to masturbate into and neither are we masochists who believe our only purpose in life is to submit to whatever sadistic sexual act(s) the men demand.

    Nor must we forget the huge misogynistic influence porn is having on boys and the age of boys watching porn is ever decreasing.

  34. Felicia Stewart

    There was an ad banned in Spain but shown in all the Brit media. It was a famous fashion icon that had a teenage girl in underwear (the latest trend) with her legs split open and full makeup, lipstick smeared and a bra for a shirt. She was smiling, and 5 men were approaching her, one with a knife opened, another with his fist and the others with zippers undone, the message of rape pretty clear. Gang rape. Not surprised this was allowed here while banned in the US and Spain.

    What message did these designers want to send? That only young girls deserve to wear high fashion underwear that gets them what they enjoy? Rape?

    It was highly irresponsible of UK media to allow that and worse that a company’s executive directors created it and SOLD it to impressionable youth.

    This kind of disgrace continues in media, on billboards and in movies with no censor or control being generated, It’s sends one message to young men: Rape is cool. That is so not okay! And need to be stopped!

  35. Matilda Parker

    What about gay porn? Is that anti-women or normalising certain acts within gay relationships? Surely that composes a not-insignificant percentage of pornography, yet is not addressed in this article. Pornography is an extremely abnormal and inaccurate representation of healthy human sexuality. And it’s degrading for both genders! NOT only towards women.

  36. Kimberley Foulkes

    Thank you for this brilliant article. Pornography is hate speech, and profoundly anti-sex and anti-human.

  37. Susanna Milton

    Such a timely piece. This article is perfectly right on. Please keep writing about this. Finally some truth out there! Thank you for this.

  38. Melissa Princeton

    The “freedom to explore men’s sexual fantasies” has turned into degrading violence. What do you think these guys are doing? They’re exploring their sexual fantasies and the people watching it are loving it and “exploring” their own fantasies. There can never be regulation in an industry that is disgusting in the first place.

    Even “empowering” or “feminist” porn for women is still degrading to women. Men do not think “wow, what a strong woman who is in touch were her femininity and sexuality and a lady who is worthy of respect and love” when they watch porn. They are purely looking at her as an object to be used at their disposal.

    Porn is pathetic and an addiction that goes against the laws of equality!

  39. Sabrina Wellington

    A a related question.. Wwho is getting the billions of dollars in the porn industry? Individuals? Corporations? heir names are never in print. I’m curious about the porno industry overall, the international element, the link to trafficking, the nexus of filmed prostitution and trafficking. The words of exited filmed prostitutes. The porn maetros live in gated communities, their kids go to high class schools. “What does your dad do?” would make their exposure a risk….as well it should be.

  40. Molly Twain

    I always really appreciate your writing on this topic. Please keep it up. I would love to see a piece about what specifically we can do to fight the porn industry, if you have any thoughts about that.

  41. Ayla Pennington

    I hate porn. It degrades women and gays. Whether it’s softcore or hardcore it’s degrading, abusive and humilating!

  42. Amelia Beckons

    Speechless! I can’t believe these men forget that glamour models, and porn actresses are human, and CAN NOT be treated like that. So happy for you that you got out, and built a wonderful new life for yourself.

  43. Lela House

    This is a brilliant and insightful article. Thank you for talking about this. It is much needed. It moved me. Vikki! You rock!

  44. ‎If you want to support this cause please sign my petition: ‎http://www.petitions24.com/signatures/protect_human_rights_from_pornography/start/60
     
    And to offer support visit AntiPornography.org‎, a non-religious charity that works on the front lines of the devastation caused by the sex industry. ‎

    Thank you Ladies for your positive comments.

    I believe we can make a change.

    Vikki

  45. Ashley Moore

    Vikki, I really admire you for your bravery! thank you!
    always keep inspiring women like me! 🙂

  46. Sarah Evanston

    It hurts that you have to go through this… 🙁 But I honestly feel thankful that you openly shared your experience, what you went through, how you stood up and redeemed yourself! This article is definitely worth-reading! Gonna share it through my Facebook!

  47. Wendy Hearn

    Uh-oh! What’s wrong with the world?! When can we have equality?! What can we do to achieve it?!… *sigh*

  48. Courtney Watson

    Yes, very young minds are polluted. It’s sad that innocent minds are consuming and are able to access porn materials 🙁 I strongly think that there should be stricter laws that would regulate such materials. They are very damaging — morally and socially!

  49. Carolyn Donovan

    You are a wonderful woman, Vikki! Thanks for sharing your story. I’m happy that you were able to use your past experience (no matter how negative those were) to be successful today!

    “It doesn’t matter how much you fall, it’s how high you bounce back that matters…”

  50. Melissa Smith

    I’m soooo moved! I hope more people would be like you, a courageous and inspirational woman!

  51. Hannah Mayers

    Thank you very much for writing about your experience! Very enlightening and seriously, I was teary-eyed… I feel bad that you have to go through all these but at the same time I feel good that you were enlightened and had the courage to change your life for the better!

  52. The truth is, everyday I wake up with a lot of fear that I won’t be able to hold my daughter’s interest and she would no longer listen to my advice and words. “Girls” of the new generation are easily influenced by what is seen and heard from various form of media. And more often than not, producers take advantage. I sincerely hope others would learn from your story, stand up for what’s right… and those who are victimized be able to escape…

    • Gabby Williams

      Yeah, raising a daughter (and a son… child, children for that matter) is very challenging! So many destruction, so many outside influence. But I guess, the key is to be strong despite all of these. As a mother, I make sure that I’m my children’s best friend whom they can share their secrets, success and pain.

  53. An eye opener! I adore you for having the courage to share your story. Very inspiring! Indeed, women are victimized and objectified 🙁 It’s high time that women inspire other women!

  54. WOW! Very heavy issue but thanks for sharing your story! Yeah, we may be oppressed in the past but what’s important is how we get up and redeem ourselves.

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