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10 Tips to Help You Find Your Soulmate

Actionable ways to help you meet your soulmate — much, much faster.

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Don’t Let The Internet Decide For You.

We live in a culture where we share every thought, emotion and activity with as many people as possible via social media. Take the time to get to know him before making up your mind based on the information you found during your Google search. Nothing can substitute a face to face interaction. Be careful not to hide behind your smart phone too long as you’re in danger of creating a false sense of intimacy.

10 Tips to Help You Find Your Soulmate

Hatch a Plan.

Accept that finding a quality man requires a realistic plan of action. In today’s world, it is unlikely that it will happen organically. A combination of online and offline dating is the best way to increase your chances of finding The One. There are plenty of dating sites available. However, it’s important that you are clear about what you are looking for and don’t stop when it takes longer that you thought (or settle for casual hook ups) if you want more than just physical attraction.

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A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she spends most of her time in France, NYC, London and Switzerland, and travels extensively around the world. Hilary spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always looking for hot new topics, destinations, and brands to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 123 Comments

  1. Marina

    Thank you for offering the advice to not sleep with someone for at least 10 dates. I used to be a “sexually liberated woman” and would sleep with a man when I felt like it. It got me in trouble because I would become emotionally attached to men that were wrong for me. I slept with my soon to be ex-husband almost right away because I felt such a powerful attraction. The sex was absolutely mindblowing and the best I had ever had. I was sucked in and fell in love immediately. He was selfish from the very beginning, but I kept overlooking his self-centeredness because I wanted it to work, and I wanted more sex. 5 years later, I am in the midst of an ugly divorce after complete betrayal and abandonment by the man that was my whole world, that I made countless sacrifices for and that I loved as deeply as a woman can love a man. I always knew that I loved him more than he loved, I knew he was selfish, and I allowed him to disrespect me from very early on in the relationship because I was hooked with the sex. He broke my heart into a million little pieces and I am struggling to put my life back together. I haven’t turned cynical and I still believe in love. I’ve now made a decision that any man I date, I will get to know for a few months before making love with him. Yes, I love sex, but I have had enough of it in my life that I am willing to sacrifice it for some time to find my soulmate and avoid more failed relationships with the wrong men. I don’t know how anyone could possibly survive heartbreak this bad more than once. I don’t know if I’ll adopt your 10 date rule, but I would need to feel confident that I know someone before having sex.

  2. George Sumanta

    You calmed my stormy heart. Thank you so much for this motivating article! I suddenly felt I owe myself a big HUG

  3. Jeweli Prater

    🤔 So now, how do we define soulmate?! Does it necessarily mean romantic partner?! 🤔

  4. Luthi Sanders

    May I suggest a follow-up article, “signs that I’ve found my soulmate…”?!

  5. Jessie Fernande

    I agree with making a list but I’d make a list of characteristics I love about myself, things that generate good feelings. I might sound narcissistic, but I just believe in self love…

  6. Reid Hooks

    Soulmate, I’ve seen her and she knows how I feel about her, just waiting for her to make up her mind, on what to do next.

  7. Angelo Henderso

    “If you truly are looking for love and want to find that person that you can spend the rest of your life with, remember that it is YOU who creates compatibility.”

  8. Honey Smith

    Oh well, I used to believe in soulmates and thought I had met mine. To me, he was perfect, I thought he was everything I ever wanted, and we were inseparable from the day we met. Unfortunately, he was a clinically-diagnosed psychopath…

  9. Juli Woods

    I think you should change the title. To me, the article suggests ways on finding a “romantic partner.” A soulmate doesn’t necessarily mean a romantic partner, right?! It may be a close friend…

  10. Anila William

    Relationship is a process, it is important to learn how to overcome obstacles for it to work.

    • Lusi Martin

      Yeah, both should communicate and understand!

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