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How I Improved My Self-Esteem

My journey, and the six steps that changed my life.


Meditation and Affirmations Are Key

Meditation and affirmations are proven methods of self-improvement because of their ability to rewire our brains, raise the level of feel-good hormones, and push our brains to form new clusters of “positive thought” neurons.

Meditation can give you the ability to step back from situations and see both the situation and yourself in an objective way, giving you much more perspective and helping you to react more calmly. It also enables us to meet, greet, and make friends with ourselves. I know it sounds silly, but once you start meditating you’ll see what I mean. Meditation allows us to get to know who we really are and to accept and embrace ourselves just as we are. We soon find that our doubts, insecurities or fears are really only superficial. This allows us to replace those things with a deeper place of trust, dignity and self-worth.

I like to start my daily meditation with affirmations. It has helped me to rewire my brain to be more confident and break out of negative thinking. Basically, whatever you tell yourself will become true in your own mind, which will also make it far more likely that other people will believe is, and it will manifest in your life.

How I Improved My Self-Esteem

What You Eat Influences Your Emotions

Modern science has proven that the microbiome in your gut (that’s the pounds of living bacteria in your gut that influences most functions in your body) have a huge effect on our emotions, energy, irritability, and even brain fog. Integrative doctors are now recommending a vegan diet instead of antidepressants. I know, it sounds like science-fiction — but it works!

Not sure where to start? There are lots of vegan cookbooks, but the one that made me feel great is called Eating Clean, by blogger Amie Valpone. I followed the Eating Clean detox diet for three months, combined with the following three tips, and felt like a new, much healthier and happier person at the end of it.

What do you do to boost your self-esteem?

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A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she spends most of her time in France, NYC, London and Switzerland, and travels extensively around the world. Hilary spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always looking for hot new topics, destinations, and brands to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 156 Comments

  1. Eleanor Honea

    A lady who wears too much makeup everyday screams that she doesn’t have self-esteem. Society has put too much pressure on our women.

  2. Jennifer Baker

    They encourage pretty girls to be confident, but when a simple girl is confident but not that pretty, they bring her down. Wtf! Of course, everyone did this. But did that help you become better?

  3. Janice Way

    What is self-esteem and how do you take care of it? every time I get one, it dies within a few minutes. am I not feeding it correctly? LOL

  4. William Dean

    I wanted to build up my self my self-esteem and confidence, but I don’t know what to do! How and when do I start? How can I help myself?

    • Caroline Soloviev

      Start now! Trust yourself, make something that makes you feel good! Do something unusual that empowers you !

  5. Jamie Wurst

    But how can I change the way people treat me? Because that’s how I manage to fix my self-esteem issues.

  6. Alta Johnson

    I always doubted the compliments I received. I always thought of them as sarcasm. How can I determine the truth from a white lie?

  7. Laverne Pollard

    My friends knew about my anxiety but, they kept on bringing me down. Then one time, I took time for myself and they hated me for it. it ended our friendship, but I learned to be independent. But how can I express or share my problems when I don’t trust those people around me?

  8. David Robinson

    These social media are also one of the causes of a low self-esteem. People brag about themselves, which belittles those who have a low profile.

  9. Deanna Hurt

    I grew up alone since I’m an only child. I found it hard to talk to people because I had 0 confidence in me. I even hated talking in front of a crowd. But I was determined and I helped myself to overcome my shyness. Now, I’m a public speaker.

  10. Mary Fisher

    How can I remove those people who bring me down when they’re the only people I lean to? I don’t want to be alone.

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