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How to Shame Haters + other Weekly Discoveries

Mastering work/life balance, how to shame haters, a life-changing video, and more…


We’ve all dealt with haters. I know I’ve had my fair share. I even wrote an article about how to overcome haters after a particularly bad hater experience. IMHO, in life, it’s not what obstacles you have to endure, it’s how you deal with them that determines how happy and successful you’ll be in life. Check out how these people are dealing with the obstacles in their life, and society:

How to Shame Haters + other Weekly Discoveries

How this Startup is Revolutionizing Fake Meat

This guy is proving that meat doesn’t have to come from an animal to be nutritious. His company that makes fake meat from plants caught the attention of Bill Gates and the founders of Twitter. Stay tuned, because this could really shake things up!

How to Shame Haters + other Weekly Discoveries

9 Ways Europeans Have Nailed the Work/Life Balance

The health and wellness industry is experiencing a surge in growth, but the American work/life balance seems to be more strained than ever. Let’s take a lesson or two from our friends to the East, shall we?

This video will change your life:

When you’re done watching this, make sure to watch and share this video too.
How to Shame Haters + other Weekly Discoveries

This Woman Flawlessly Responded To Her Boyfriend’s Fat-Shaming Haters

The Internet can be a cruel place. Luckily, people like Ashley Stevens know how to take that hatred and turn it on its head.

How to Shame Haters + other Weekly Discoveries

Why Good Girls Have Become Unicorns: A Response From A Unicorn

An interesting diatribe… “I have just discovered my life choices have categorized me as a unicorn.”

‘I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have.’
– Thomas Jefferson

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  1. What a beautiful message and I’m completely in agreement with you! Haters will always hate, but what’s important is to stay focused on your journey and ignore them!

  2. I always used to laugh away unneeded and hateful comments, while I felt horrible on the inside. But now, I’ve come to realize the best way to deal with a hater, for me, is to just pick out their comment until I find the constructive criticism hidden deep down. This way, I can make myself better without ever falling for hating myself.

  3. Olivia Peterson

    I find that one of the best ways to deal with haters is to thank them. Seriously, whenever a hater feels the need to publicly point out something they don’t like about me, I always make a point of thanking them for their feedback and for helping me make the best that I can be. Shuts them up every time.

  4. Colleen Frasier

    I thought that I was the only one who thought Mcdonalds was disgusting. Can’t wait to show this video to my sister who always wants mcdonalds.

  5. Emily Wentz

    Eating meat is disgusting, and fast food is even more disgusting… To think we ‘share’ a world with animals…. We don’t share, we fatten the up then KILL THEM. Why cant’t people understand this is WRONG, and is MURDER!!!

  6. Danielle Wilson

    The only way a hater wins is with acknowledgement. If you ignore them, it devastates them, even if they don’t show it. Anyways, I will keep this in mind. I’ve only had one semi-hater so far. ?

  7. Frances Seifert

    Here’s the story of how I became a vegan: Bought a pure bred German Sheperd. The lady was raising her on real raw meat and suggested I keep with that diet. One day I was out and about and had my dog with me. Figured I would buy two McD’s hamburgers to tie her over til we got home. Bought the burgers and put them on the ground. She sniffed them and looked at me like,”what?” I figured the bread was throwing her off. I removed the buns , she sniffed again, sat down and just looked at me. That was about 10 yrs ago. If a dog raised on real meat wouldn’t eat a McD’s hamburger I knew something was true to the claims about their food.

  8. Christina Cavanaugh

    McDonalds and every other fast food chain are all so nasty!! My brother was given a rotten egg in his Egg McMuffin…. it was disgusting.

  9. I don’t get the point of veggie meat substitute. There are so many lovely vegetarian dishes out there which don’t require anything remotely like meat: why not enjoy those instead? You can do nice things with tofu, lentils, and the like.

    • Lydie I. Merrell

      This is just my opinion but I think some do that trend since they want to experience how is it like to eat meat. Maybe because they just miss the feeling. Maybe they just became vegetarians. I also asked this question to my friend but she gave me a vague answer. So I understood that they want to pursue being a vegan but still misses meat so they find alternatives but they don’t want to be judged by non-vegans. With this I respect my friend for her decision.

  10. Lydie I. Merrell

    I’ve read about your “How to Overcome Haters” and I can say that, yeah, it’s true. People’s personality are so complex that you can never group them specifically and have a manual to deal with them. Some are with pure thoughts and good heart, helping you in their own way but sometimes misunderstood. Some are evil and clever enough to make you believe that they are good. You just have to choose the right words, timing, and facial expression. Just as a proverb says, “Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a ruling rightly given.”

    • Pam B. Klock

      Yes indeed. There are so many intelligent words to use against a hater but not all are effective in making them stop. You can always throw or trash them with a group but you can never make them like you, it’s their habit to hate specific people. Some are even harsh enough that they are beyond change. So if you find haters, while you still can, approach them with kindness, humbleness, and wise words. Nobody want’s to hate a peace loving person unless you’re that evil.

  11. Nothing to do with MC’Donalds, but, before we became vegan and started to make all of our food ourselves, I found a toenail in a frozen pizza. That was the day we became vegan.

    • Lara J. Rawlings

      That’s really horrible! I can imagine myself being enraged if I saw that one myself. How can they even place a toenail on a pizza? Are they making it on the floor? You should report that to the local authority.

  12. Hatred shows the hating capacity of a person. It has little to do with you or the outside world. If the hatred target is removed once by leaving, it will find another destination target. Unless the source hater learns to deal with it. People who hate others find reasons to hate and justify the wrongs to be right. Hate is like an acid in a vessel. Hate will burn the container from within. Hate can only be neutralized by loving compassion and learning to forgive others. We need to constantly GROUND ourselves daily and learn NOT to take all problems of this world as a personal insult. Love and peace to all!

    • Well said ! Even though the first couple of haters are harder to “swallow” than you smash it, but after a while it’s easy to focus on the “lovers” and ignore the haters.

  13. If a hater has really gotten to me then i’ll imagine the haters presence in my life as the cigarette in my hand. Then i’ll go ahead and smoke that cigarette, both relaxing me and burning the haters presence. ?

  14. One thing I learned from your collection today: It’s a choice and you have it!

    – You decide whether you ignore or shame your haters
    – You determine how you balance work and life
    – You have an option, go vegan / meatless or stay having your burgers
    – You choose if you want to be a unicorn!

    Decide wisely and responsibly 🙂

  15. I am guilty of eating vegetarian ready meals once a week or so, but tend to avoid the meat substitute ones. I’ve just been told to leave gluten out of my diet though, and gluten free ready meals are few and far between I think.

  16. Wasting time thinking about a hater is time you could be using for your much better things.

    I’ve never really had haters – at least not in-my-face haters, but I did have someone talk negatively about one of my articles in a forum today, and, as far as I know, that’s never happened before.

    I think that’s a good thing! It means I’m standing out. It means I’m different than the other people in my niche. And that’s EXACTLY what I want to be!

  17. As a vegan, I tend to avoid meat substitues when I am cooking; I use pulses and vegetables mainly. But I think the people who have to cook for me and aren’t used to a veggie diet find them a godsend, and they are good for quick and easy protein and bulking out curries and stir fries. The trick is not to expect them to taste like meat, and to cook them in a sauce with lots of flavour, or add loads of herbs and spices.

    • Satina E. Stebbins

      Hey, that’s a brilliant idea! I thought that in using a meat substitute, you must have one with good quality that it almost taste the same. I think my idea is a bit expensive. Having your idea much creative and produces different flavors. I’d like to try it out soon. Thanks a lot!

      • Danielle E. Singleton

        Yes, I agree. You can even find many recipes on the internet. Just believe that google is your friend. I have searched and tried too many combinations of herbs and spices which are available in our backyard. Some ingredients are easy to get but some are ordered but regardless, having them can produce many kinds of flavor. You can even produce a flavor you’ll never get tired tasting.

  18. Your title caught my attention and I did not expect to be finding interesting articles inside! Nice one!

    To me, the best way to shame haters is IGNORE them 😀

  19. Haters are just folks who are afraid to achieve and find it simpler to hate others than to put in the effort to succeed. ?

  20. “When you’re young you have time and energy but no money. When you get older you have money and energy but no time. And later when you finally have time and money, you no longer have energy.” —Annette Gulick

    And this is the reason why I’m struggling to have work-life balance. Yeah, I take vacations off from work!

    • Colette J. Beeson

      Hello, friend! I just like to share what I know with you. For me, vacation is a break that you have to wait year long. What we need in work is rest, a break every day and every week. First, you can say that you really don’t have time but that is subjective, you can choose to make time. Second, you find it a waste of time but our minds and body need rest. I assure you if you just give at least 15 mins a day to just sit in silence and go one day a week without work on that day, just spending it for recreational, you’ll have a transformed life.

  21. The article on Elite Daily couldn’t be more true! Glad someone had the sense to articulate the real nature of our societal evolution. Unfortunately, true to the their nature, guys like that probably don’t look beyond their own self-involved reasoning.

  22. Haters are just jealous people who want to achieve what you are achieving. They can’t handle their own failures, so that want to bring other people down.

    I have had my own experiences with haters and it just fires me up to prove them wrong. Realizing that what other people says cannot and will not impact your path to greatness will do wonders for becoming successful.

    Thanks for the awesome shares. Have a good one. 🙂

  23. Sarah Anne Trevor

    You go girl, Ashley Stevens! The truth is, I find her story a light read but it’s definitely inspiring!

  24. Following a low sodium diet I find most of the processed mock meat products are way too salty. Even without reading the sodium level on the box, I could tell some non-meat sausages were too salty because I got a raging thirst an hour or so later.

    • Maud H. Hartmann

      Then that’s not a good thing! Is there a customer service that you can contact? If they don’t then you have to choose another brand or just give up on sodium sausages. It’s scary to think that you’ll have raging thirst after eating it. That really proves that it’s too salty of a meal.

  25. In my humble opinion, the best ever fake meat is that found in Ikea vegetarian hot dogs. It’s almost good enough to justify a visit to the hell that is the customer-unfriendly-Primark-for-furniture. ??

  26. You’re right! You’ve compiled the most-interesting articles readers MUST read! I’m not vegan, but I’m adventurous when it comes to food so I would love to try meatless products. Who knows, I might love and appreciate the taste and might be a start of something “new” in my diet…?!

  27. One tactic of haters that I found to be quite common is the “persuade and isolate” technique. The female haters I know have been very successful with persuading others to go against the one been hated, and leave the one being hated on with no one to talk to. The hater is always manipulative, and manipulative enough to form “the clique”. So then you have a pack of haters, instead a just one. Adult women can be so immature!

  28. Read ingredients carefully, many meat impersonators have egg in them (used as a binder)!

  29. Roberta Bennett

    I’ve been vegetarian most my life- I never liked meat, especially anything pork, like bacon. Yuck. So most of these lookalikes (tastealikes is going a bit too far) don’t appeal to me. Quorn isn’t suitable for vegans (which I am now) and some of the Linda range isn’t either- the non-vegan stuff usually has egg in it, and the Linda lasagne obviously has cheese. My boyfriend quite likes the Linda sausages but I find them far too stodgy. I much prefer homemade nut/pulse burgers when I want something a bit heavier on my plate. At a pinch, we prefer to eat bought nut and bean burgers to mock meat. However give me a lentil curry any day:)

  30. More and more people are going vegan everyday and I love “Beyond Meat.” It’s definitely the “WAVE” of the FUTURE… MEATLESS!

  31. Melani Kalev

    Although the info wasn’t anything new, the video still managed to break my heart. I’ve thought about making some changes in my food choices…for me, this video is definitely a push towards a better direction.

  32. Arabella Clarington

    The article about Ashley Stevens is very nice. She is young but confident and eloquent.

    We really need to let our girls be aware of what’s really important and what to look for in a man.

  33. Wow, that Cody video was really powerful. I’m still crying…

  34. Hannah Mayers

    That video! I can’t even begin to fathom what to say…

    • Francis Woods

      You commented twice, Hannah. But zee OMG!!!!!!! SERIOUSLY, THAT VIDEO. I ALSO DON’T KNOW WHAT TO SAY.

  35. Hannah Mayers

    You go Ashley Stevens! That should show some people who opens their mouth (or in this case types too much), too fast before thinking.

  36. Fake meat from plants? This is the best news, ever.

    • Gabrielle Williams

      I agree! “Beyond Meat” is inventive! “Plant power” is really something that should be supported. I guess it’s the reason why Bill Gates, a leading thinker, is jumping on animal welfare and environmental pioneers like Beyond Meat.

      Now is really the time to start eating vegan!

  37. That is a seriously great quote.

    • Were you talking about the quote, Angela? “Are boys like me also able to become unicorns?” asks Mick in his really cutey-patooey voice. 😛

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