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Is Impostor Syndrome Holding You Back?

Afraid you won’t live up to expectations and will be found out? You’re not alone.


When I got my first internship, I was elated for about twenty minutes. Then I called my best friend practically hyperventilating, sure I couldn’t do the job. Three months later, it was her crying on the phone because she was sure she was going to fail one of her finals. Never mind that I had all the necessary skills. Never mind that she’s never gotten less than an A- on any test ever (including the final that had caused so much anguish). Both of us felt that this next job, this next test, this next challenge would blow our cover and reveal our secret incompetencies to the world.

Is Impostor Syndrome Holding You Back?

She believes that she’s only succeeded in the past because of luck…

As it happens, this mindset is pretty common: 70% of people struggle with these feelings at some point, especially women. It’s the fear of being not enough to live up to the expectations you’ve set for yourself. The fear of being found out and exposed. It’s called Impostor Syndrome, and if those fears resonated with you, you’re not alone.

Impostor Syndrome leads to anxiety and low confidence, so overcoming it is the first step to a fulfilling work life. We’ve put together some tips to help you get started:

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Born in France but raised all over the place, Auriane has wanted to write ever since she was old enough to spell her name. In her spare time she loves reading, hanging out with her best friends (even when they’re not in the same time zone), and spontaneous singing with her Broadway-bound roommate.

Reader Discussion: 7 Comments

  1. Very informative piece! Among all my acquaintances I can count on the fingers of one hand the people who never doubt themselves or their decisions. I always used to envy the kind of faith they had in themselves. But with right advice and practice nothing is unachievable! I believe I learned how to handle job-related stress much better in the last couple of years.

  2. Challenges are healthy and good confidence builders. You prove to yourself that you can accomplish great things, even if you are not perfect and make mistakes. Women should love themselves for who they are and realize that imperfections are what make us beautiful. So take your mistakes and fall backs as a learning experience, and appreciate your strengths 🙂

  3. Randie Cadiogan

    I must admit that I'm extremely susceptible to comparing myself to others. But an important life advise I keep reminding myself is– other people's success are NOT my failures! I should never think that I’m doing something wrong if the people around me are gaining success “faster” than me.

    REMINDER TO MYSELF: Never ever compare! Success takes time and hard work!

  4. Courtney Watson

    Yeah, “stop or I should say, never every compare.” It might be a cliche, but each one is unique! I may not be good in Math like my Math wiz classmate but I’m good in Science (which is her weakness)! For me, it’s about learning to appreciate your skills and talents and enhancing them!

  5. Jen Spillane

    Taming the inner critic is an ongoing job, and this article offers some great suggestions. I find that reaching out to other people in my life is especially helpful. It puts things in perspective.

  6. Hannah Mayers

    I didn’t realize that there was a name for this! Admittedly, I do this to myself! I beat myself up over tests, meetings at work and any new projects that I have. Maybe I can let it go and get through them without all of the anxiety.

    Fingers crossed… LOL!

  7. Angela Davis

    I more often than not feel like I'm not good enough for what I am doing and wonder if my boss, friends, etc. will call me out on how bad I am at something. But I really am quite good at what I do. it's the 'others' in my head from when I was young that keep that keep me thinking otherwise. Thanks for reminding me that I'm better than I realize.

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