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5 Signs He’s Lying To You

How to know what you’re really getting from him.


After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it! Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:

5 Signs He’s Lying To You

He Keeps on Moving

When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”

He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna

If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.

5 Signs He’s Lying To You

Don’t Break Eye Contact

When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.

Catch the Defensive Stance

Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.

5 Signs He’s Lying To You

Keep Your Voice Down

Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.

If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.

Sarah enlightens us on a daily basis with the newest trends as (and often before) they transpire. She is the consummate globe trotter. Having traveled to over 70 countries, she earns her living writing, blogging and modeling while on the road. In her spare time she gets manicures, suntans on yachts in Greece, shops for even more shoes, and lives in the limelight. She loves photography, elephants, sailboats, bangles and ballet flats.

Reader Discussion: 111 Comments

  1. Myron Stephens

    You might end up ruining a perfectly fine relationship because of these stupid “tips”. Hate how every girl always seems to push this cheating problem over to the guy. In my country, There are MORE women cheating than men :O shocking huh? I bet my country ain’t the only one with a scale like this. Instead of saying “he” you really should be saying “your partner” etc. This feminism is getting out of control. You want Equality: try thinking.

  2. Leah Steele

    Cheaters from my experience fail to realize THEY ALWAYS GET CAUGHT maybe not today or tomorrow but the truth always comes out in the end. That is why I choose not to even go down that line, the lies and the secret and hiding it just toooooo much work and stress and the betrayal especially if it comes from friends, who shouldn’t be sleeping with your partner or ex-partner behind your back. Why have an HOURS PLEASURE for a WHOLE lot of stress and fear of getting caught? IT IS JUST NOT WORTH IT.

  3. Marty Cummings

    WHO ELSE read this just so they could watch out to not do any of this nexttime they were in a situation where they lied !? LOL me

  4. Faye Phillips

    Yeah, I know it’s weird, but a new study from the University of Granada found that lying makes the tip of your schnoz heat up. You can grab his nose after you ask him a pointed question, and you can pull him in for a kiss and feel it up against your cheek or see if it gets redder than usual when you think he might be fibbing.

  5. Neal Chambers

    I think my friend needs to see this because every time I tried to tell her she wouldn’t listen and I’m a guy just to let u know. And she’s dating a cheater and she won’t listen.

    • Bobbie Gilbert

      Sometimes we have to let our friends fall, and be there to pick them up. Sometimes people are caught up in wanting that person, it doesn’t matter what you tell them. She will leave him alone when she is tired of getting hurt. Deep down, she knows you’re right, she’s just in love with the wrong guy. One day it will end, just be there as a shoulder to cry on, not one to say ” I told you so”.

  6. Maryann Ramsey

    A good way to tell if a guy is at least trying to hide stuff on his phone and a red flag for possible cheating. Take his phone and run to the bathroom. Don’t look through but if he basically tries or actually breaks the door down. u might want to really think about shit.

    • Dianne Alvarado

      LMAO. I will TOTALLY DO THIS!!!

  7. Sheryl Martinez

    I am planning on using these tricks to find out if my guy is lying. I hope it will work.

  8. Elisa Chambers

    I’ve been lied to many times, and I’ve lied more than that. It’s an inevitable part of life. We lie to protect our loved ones, and we lie to protect ourselves. Unfortunately, lying is almost always never a good thing. I was wondering what to ask a guy to detect a lie Thank you for these tips.

  9. Gretchen Evans

    This was perfect, glad I already knew he was a jerk before I saw this.Thanks

  10. Courtney Higgins

    I’m so glad I came across your article. A week ago, I finally found the courage to walk away from a relationship that had a number of these signs. I should have broken it off sooner, but I stayed because I had no real proof of shady behavior. It was time to reevaluate things and trust that gut feeling.

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