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5 Signs He’s Lying To You

How to know what you’re really getting from him.


After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it! Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:

5 Signs He’s Lying To You

He Keeps on Moving

When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”

He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna

If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.

5 Signs He’s Lying To You

Don’t Break Eye Contact

When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.

Catch the Defensive Stance

Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.

5 Signs He’s Lying To You

Keep Your Voice Down

Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.

If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.

Sarah enlightens us on a daily basis with the newest trends as (and often before) they transpire. She is the consummate globe trotter. Having traveled to over 70 countries, she earns her living writing, blogging (InsiderDiva.com) and modeling while on the road. In her spare time she gets manicures, suntans on yachts in Greece, shops for even more shoes, and lives in the limelight. She loves photography, elephants, sailboats, bangles and ballet flats.

Reader Discussion: 122 Comments

  1. Victoria George

    I’ve always dated men who cheated once in their lifetime. I don’t know why but I seem to attract men like that. Or maybe there isn’t a man who has never cheated in their life? Don’t hate me for that comment! Anyway, because of that, I’m always battling with the thought of “Am I being cheated on, again?” I really do believe that cheaters will always be a cheater because it’s a familiar thing to them already and indulging themselves to something like that no longer requires a second thought.

    • Jackie Chavez

      You might want to consider your own thoughts as well. Paranoia about being cheated on is possible and it may not always be because your partner is cheating on you. It can be because you’re just so scared of getting hurt so you constantly think you’re being lied to.

  2. Cathy Daniel

    If someone has mastered the art of lying, there’s barely any possibility that you can catch that person. They’ve been doing it for such a long time, enough for you not to notice their inconsistensies.

  3. I’m bi and I’ve honestly noticed that women cheat more than men do. We just don’t see it clearly because most of the commenters here are female and we all see them referring to men as cheaters.

  4. We all have to keep in mind that people (men in particular) will vary. So don’t judge almost instantly just because this article says that a man is lying to you if he does this or that. I just wanted to point out that trust is one of the foundations of a relationship. You don’t have to NOT trust your instincts but you also have to let your guard down sometimes. If by any change you were lied to, take it as a learning ground for a better you or relationship. Take all of it with a grain of salt. Don’t break the trust almost instantly.

  5. Leona

    It’s so difficult to find honest people nowadays. May it be a woman or a man, we’ll find liars everywhere.

  6. Juana Gross

    I need proof before I assume that my partner is lying. Don’t we all?

  7. Jeanette Schneider

    This worries me. I always ask myself why my man’s facial expressions don’t match his words. I actually tell him that outright because I’m a very transparent person and I always say what’s on my mind in order to encourage being truthful. However, I just can’t seem to decode his nonverbal actions. He’s not very expressive, so it really confuses me. He’s the type that’s not good with words but whenever he tries, he manages to do it right. It’s so hard to figure out if you’re being lied to or not. The nonverbal cues aren’t always as accurate as we want it to be.

  8. Johanna Kelly

    Now I’m so confused. My guy barely has facial expressions LOL and I don’t even understand. He’s just always so calm even when I’m about to go Jurassic on him.

  9. JUTHI

    When I’m angry, I usually have a defensive voice or a sarcastic tone. But it doesn’t mean I’m lying! ?

  10. Anna Anthony

    I would have made the biggest mistake of my life marrying my former spouse but before the marriage I hired a professional that specializes in exposing cheating spouse and every other hacking and tracking related issues. He helps catching cheating spouses by hacking and tracking their communications like calls, whatsapp, Facebook, text, emails, Skype and many more.

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