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The Feminist Guide To Keeping Chivalry Alive

How you can do your part to keep him doing his part.


Pay for both (veggie) burgers

You’re a working lass who isn’t looking for a sugar daddy, so of course you can pay for your own meal. It’ll be a moment of pride for you to slam down your credit card and tell the waiter to “Please split the bill.” Your date will object saying, “No– please, I got it.” And you will give him a menacing death stare before you turn back to the waiter and say curtly, “Split. The bill.”

The message you’re sending to your date in this situation is one that says more about you than your financial stability. He’ll think you’re the type of person who doesn’t appreciate kind gestures. He is, after all, trying to show you he had a good time conversing with you over burgers. Nine times out of ten, the guy doesn’t think you’re a charity case.

I don’t know about you, but for me, kind gestures from anyone are always welcome. So let your date pay the bill and don’t forget to thank him afterward (and don’t forget to wipe burger off your face).

The Feminist Guide To Keeping Chivalry Alive

Here’s where your chivalry comes in: YOU pay on the next date. (Twist!) That’s right, not only for your meal, but his as well. It’s your turn to display a kind gesture. Now is the time to proudly slam down your credit card and tell the waiter “It’s on me.”

Splitting the check doesn’t work well because it implies that what’s mine is mine and what’s yours is yours. The taking-turns-paying system works better because it implies that what’s mine is ours.

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Reader Discussion: 78 Comments

  1. Kimberly Shaw

    Chivalry comes naturally. It is the way men are meant to be, just as women are meant to be ladies. It is the way of the world. It opens up to love and leads the way for respect. It creates foundations and builds beauty in lasting relationships.

  2. Ashley Thompson

    Chivalry is not an archaic, medieval concept. It’s something that should be alive and well in our culture today. Our world needs more civility, common sense, kindness, and chivalry. Chivalry is displayed when a man honors a woman… is courteous and polite to her. I would never date a man who wasn’t chivalrous.

  3. Justin Carter

    I love how this article is written, Chivalry is manners. It’s a way to show respect. It’s an entire demeanor and way of living that extends far beyond opening a door for a woman. It extends to how you treat everyone in your life, including other men. 🙂

  4. Rosett Armendariz

    I’ll share this article because a lot of people need to read this. They think that chivalry is just for men. But it’s not.

  5. Ida Reeves

    Gread read! Very interesting topic to talk about since I do hear a lot of complaints about the younger generation that chivalry is dead. I think that they’re missing the point on what chivalry actually is.

  6. Kath Brantley

    Since women can do anything that men can do, let’s not act like we’re not capable. We’re no longer 10 year olds that need constant caring. We can take care of ourselves but it’s good to let others take care of us as well. Balance!

  7. Michelle Lee

    It doesn’t look nice when men bring women’s bags. Let’s not make them look stupid. Nobody wants that.

    • Carla Peters

      I totally agree with that. But you cannot deny holding a purse looks good on dudes.

  8. Kathryn Gibson

    We’re also knights in shining armor. Let’s not forget that. We’re not princesses or queens that men need to serve. We are responsible for all our actions and we should be careful about how we project ourselves.

    • Mildred Davis

      Thank you for commenting this! It’s true!

  9. Monique Malick

    Thanks for this article.

  10. Ashley Wilden

    I have always disagreed about men carrying women’s handbags. I don’t even know why it’s a thing. It’s a little degrading.

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