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The Feminist Guide To Keeping Chivalry Alive

How you can do your part to keep him doing his part.


Be the wooer

A friend of mine refuses to accept gifts from guys. Whether it’s something a bit cliché like roses or something extravagant like a necklace — she rejects all of it. She doesn’t want to be perceived as “needy,” she says. It’s always been the guy who’s expected to give the girl gifts — never the other way around. (This is comically ironic, because we’re the ones who are supposedly better shoppers.) It’s no wonder that women like my friend are now trying to reverse this image of female docility by shunning gifts altogether. But that sounds like no fun to me. I’m not ashamed to say it: I love getting gifts. (Hell yes, I would have taken that CD.) But I love giving gifts as well.

The Feminist Guide To Keeping Chivalry Alive

Graciously accept gifts from guys, but also don’t be afraid to assume the role of gift-giver. Surprise him. Show up at his doorstep with a grungy t-shirt you found at the flea market with his favorite band on the front, or show up with the entire Lord of the Rings series because he’s adorably nerdy and the DVD pack was $5 at a garage sale, or show up with food (they never say no to food).

If you like a guy then be bold and show him. Sweep him off his feet. We live in an age where men and women alike can be both the wooer and the wooee.

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Sarah enlightens us on a daily basis with the newest trends as (and often before) they transpire. She is the consummate globe trotter. Having traveled to over 70 countries, she earns her living writing, blogging and modeling while on the road. In her spare time she gets manicures, suntans on yachts in Greece, shops for even more shoes, and lives in the limelight. She loves photography, elephants, sailboats, bangles and ballet flats.

Reader Discussion: 78 Comments

  1. Kimberly Shaw

    Chivalry comes naturally. It is the way men are meant to be, just as women are meant to be ladies. It is the way of the world. It opens up to love and leads the way for respect. It creates foundations and builds beauty in lasting relationships.

  2. Ashley Thompson

    Chivalry is not an archaic, medieval concept. It’s something that should be alive and well in our culture today. Our world needs more civility, common sense, kindness, and chivalry. Chivalry is displayed when a man honors a woman… is courteous and polite to her. I would never date a man who wasn’t chivalrous.

  3. Justin Carter

    I love how this article is written, Chivalry is manners. It’s a way to show respect. It’s an entire demeanor and way of living that extends far beyond opening a door for a woman. It extends to how you treat everyone in your life, including other men. 🙂

  4. Rosett Armendariz

    I’ll share this article because a lot of people need to read this. They think that chivalry is just for men. But it’s not.

  5. Ida Reeves

    Gread read! Very interesting topic to talk about since I do hear a lot of complaints about the younger generation that chivalry is dead. I think that they’re missing the point on what chivalry actually is.

  6. Kath Brantley

    Since women can do anything that men can do, let’s not act like we’re not capable. We’re no longer 10 year olds that need constant caring. We can take care of ourselves but it’s good to let others take care of us as well. Balance!

  7. Michelle Lee

    It doesn’t look nice when men bring women’s bags. Let’s not make them look stupid. Nobody wants that.

    • Carla Peters

      I totally agree with that. But you cannot deny holding a purse looks good on dudes.

  8. Kathryn Gibson

    We’re also knights in shining armor. Let’s not forget that. We’re not princesses or queens that men need to serve. We are responsible for all our actions and we should be careful about how we project ourselves.

    • Mildred Davis

      Thank you for commenting this! It’s true!

  9. Monique Malick

    Thanks for this article.

  10. Ashley Wilden

    I have always disagreed about men carrying women’s handbags. I don’t even know why it’s a thing. It’s a little degrading.

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