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The United Boy’s Club of America: Oppressed by the Media Octopus

5 reasons why the men in charge are trying to change the conversation, and how we can change it back.


You know the stats. Men get paid a 40% premium over women’s salaries for the Exact. Same. Work. The glass ceiling has barely been cracked; women are still not promoted to management positions anywhere close to as often as men are. In fact, women hold only 16% of the top four positions under American CEOs. You can’t open a magazine or turn on the TV without seeing a women being dominated or objectified. Even little girls are being taught to self-objectify. And we STILL haven’t elected a female president. To wit, less than 20% of elected offices in America are held by women.

Clearly there’s work to do.

The United Boy’s Club of America: Oppressed by the Media Octopus

The next time you read the paper, notice how women versus men are portrayed, and the adjectives used to describe them.

Historically, when an oppressed group wants to enact change, their oppressors manipulate them into believing that the change is done, even when it’s barely begun. Or they convince them that their oppression is really liberation (as is the case with self-objectification).

Ninety percent of the media in America is owned by six squid-like corporations with men at the helm.

The United Boy’s Club of America: Oppressed by the Media Octopus

In the case of women in America, the more powerful group [men who own the media and run the government] are constantly trying to trick the public. They’re trying to convince us that A) we no longer need feminism, and B) our value is in the shape of our butt (or boobs, or face), rather than our ambitions. Why? Because A) they don’t want the full extent of their oppression to be publicly acknowledged, and B) they don’t want women to enter their control room and steal any of “their” power.

So they try to change the conversation.

The United Boy’s Club of America: Oppressed by the Media Octopus

They do their best to convince us that there’s no glass ceiling (“Look! Here’s a female CEO — see? It happens!”). They remind us that the change is not status quo, and if you participate in this fringe movement, you make yourself into a weird and unattractive outlier. They try to take the power of the movement away by distorting the meaning of feminism; changing it into a dirty word that women are afraid to be associated with.

And I’m not so sure that most people realize what a huge impact this octopus of a media machine has on pretty much every aspect of our lives. I can’t think of a more influential force in our everyday lives. Even the way people around you act is tainted by the media. Its tentacles are everywhere.

The United Boy’s Club of America: Oppressed by the Media Octopus

Wondering why they’d go to all this work? Men in power oppress women for several reasons:

  1. These men are sexist (similar to racism, they view women as inferior to them) and want control over women,
  2. Their ego enjoys the power and the game of oppressing,
  3. They don’t want women to get in the control room and shake things up, challenging their power and the status-quo they’ve carefully crafted,
  4. They want to run the world the way they see fit, without the challenge of other perspectives and opposing ethical viewpoints,
  5. The media’s income is largely based on advertising, and advertising is largely based on making women feel inferior and insecure, because that’s when women buy the most products.

Despite what we’ve been told, feminism is about equality. Contrary to the media’s misinformation, it’s not about domination over men. Quite the opposite — it’s an anti-domination movement.

The United Boy’s Club of America: Oppressed by the Media Octopus

Want to enact change? Step one is researching and knowing the issues; recognizing how you, and other women, are affected. We need to start calling out the manipulation. Step two is being proud to call yourself a feminist and talk about the issues. Step three is being consciously supportive of other women, and quashing the instinct to be competitive with each other. Step four is participating in local elections, and electing more women into office.


Read more in the ‘United Boys Club of America’ series:

Also, check out: Is Feminism a Dirty Word? and Is Feminism Still Relevant?

Join in the comments below and let us know which of these four steps you’ve taken!

A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she spends most of her time traveling around Europe, with pied-a-terre's in Zurich, London, Milan and Lyon, France. Hilary spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 165 Comments

  1. Danielle McSweeney

    Well, that’s bullshit. Don’t be a misogynistic piece of shit. Men and women have identical IQs. Men are not superior to women in any way, Women is as competent as men and they have proven this. There are women presidents, prime ministers, supreme court judges, executive directors etc. The more democratic and egalitarian a country is the more women participate in every layer of the social and political life. there are countries that have laws designed specifically to restrict women’s freedom. See how much effort it takes to oppress women. Men often use our ability to give birth to us. You said giving birth id disadvantage because you’re subconsciously jealous of that fact. Our ability to give birth is not a disadvantage, Only a retarded like you would say this. So stop being a chauvinistic ass. Shame on you. COme to the 21st century and respect women’s contributions. Don’t call us a disadvantage.

  2. Joy Greenough

    The so-called “oppression of women is not originating from the supposed deplorable conduct of men. women are not represented equally because they are biologically disadvantaged in certain areas.

  3. Alisson Tallent

    It must be very difficult for a feminist who has walked so far down this particularly destructive path to acknowledge how misguided they have been.

  4. Tiffany Wafer

    Feminist is pretty strange. Men have created so many things to improve the lives of women from birth control to labor-saving devices. why do some women feel the need to blame their freedom on their liberators? It seems they don’t want to be free. Women are turning the world towards totalitarianism, either communism or Islam. Women don’t like separation of church and state. Women don’t know what they want.

  5. Tania England

    WOW!! This is so good. Thank you for talking about this subject.

  6. Bryan Kyle

    This article is very convicting. Thank you for helping me realize that without me realizing it, I have been objectifying women.

  7. Brittany Gowins

    These days you have to be perfect for everything it’s ridiculous. Guess that’s what media does to people.

  8. Bobbie Seddon

    This is exactly why I am hesitant to participate in social media. It has millions of people, to the point of being obsessed with a false reality and being so taken with an image of a person they barely know or have zero interaction within the real world. And then to take it so far and to be so fickle. you can follow or unfollow a person at the click of a button. It’s going to be heartbreaking when these social media users wake up one day and realize the likes and comments weren’t real and did nothing to help them progress in life. Seeking validation through a false world is overtaken by narcissists and shallow loners will always lead to dead end.

  9. Claire Vega

    Because way back ago, men are powerful. It’s just now that women can work, and fight with men. What’s the problem?

  10. Jacqueline Pierce

    Men always do that. They always change the topic if they know that they are wrong. Typical men style ya know. 😉

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