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Men Answer Your Questions About Love

Is your man in love? Will he fall for you? Men answer: How to tell.

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Think of a great relationship as though it were a great meal: A delicious, meaty (veggie) steak of sexual passion accompanied by a fine, delicate wine of romance and commitment. Both men and women want it all — the perfect, satisfying course. And we need both — steak by itself is dry and unsatisfying; wine will get you tipsy, but it won’t satisfy your hunger. Now, before the metaphor police revoke my license, let me simply push this analogy a little further: men are a little more focused on the meat of the relationship, and women a bit more on the wine. But both sexes want to get up from the table completely satisfied.

Men Answer Your Questions About Love

Need evidence? More than three-fourths of men believe in soul mates. And when we asked our guys to choose between meeting the love of their life or having amazing sex for six months, 92 percent chose falling in love. (The other 8 percent were probably Maxim readers.) Consider what these three men said about the experience of falling in love:

“We need to feel love, loyalty, and chemistry above all else,” says Ian, 31.
“Men also feel the butterflies and giddiness that women do when they’re in love,” says Robert, 26.
“Women don’t realize most guys are in love long before they are willing to admit it to anyone,” says Drew, 30.

So, why then does it always seem like women are leading the relationship toward commitment, and men need to be dragged along like a preschooler to a dental appointment? Because in the early-on strategic game of dating, men need to feel secure in how their girlfriend is feeling first. Consider this: less than half of men say they’re typically the first ones to say “I love you” in a relationship, and more women than men initially broach the subject of taking the relationship to the next level. That points to the notion that what men really want when it comes to love is their girlfriend’s assurance — your permission, really — that it’s okay to let the butterflies out of the cage.

Question: Guys, do you believe you’ve met your soul mate?

  • Yes, I’m with her right now – 53 Percent
  • Yes, but we’re no longer together – 14 Percent
  • Yes, but we were never together as a couple – 9 Percent
  • No – 24 Percent

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Reader Discussion: 41 Comments

  1. Angelo Henderso

    Don’t be too futuristic when dating. Let men handle your relationship. Don’t rush them into things that they are not yet ready, because it may ruin the relationship you are building.

  2. Juli Woods

    To all women out there. Please don’t give us false hope. I’m saying this, on behalf of the men all over the world. Not all men are the same, and not all women are the same.

  3. Lusi Martin

    I agree with those men. I don’t believe that women love us after three weeks of dating. Of course, we are careful too. We are prone in rejection, we don’t want to get hurt all over again.

  4. Honey Smith

    Don’t get straight to the point. Give men some thrill. If you’re easy to get, they may take you for granted. Not all men flirt for a serious relationship. Some of them are just playing.

  5. Anila William

    If women wants to get compliment on how they look, men want that too. A long lasting relationship consists of two person with deep understanding.

  6. Nancy Smith

    I get your family’s point. You are 31, and you need to settle down, or you’ll end up alone. Lol

  7. Quin Meri

    As men, I will stand for our side. It’s hard to tell someone you love her, because we may get rejected at the end. Women don’t know how difficult to us to keep the feelings we tend to expose and tell.

  8. Jenifer Jeni

    Yes, men and women are like steaks and wine. They are compatible with each other. It’s a perfect combination, just ensure that you are choosing the right wine, or steak. Lol

  9. Linda Williams

    Lol. I like how you compare the women to wine and the men to steak. XD Men are like meat! I like it. Lol

  10. Mildred Davis

    Imagine you’re the man in the relationship. What type of feeling do you want to feel? We are just the same, we all have hearts.

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