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Men Answer Your Questions About Love

Is your man in love? Will he fall for you? Men answer: How to tell.


Think of a great relationship as though it were a great meal: A delicious, meaty (veggie) steak of sexual passion accompanied by a fine, delicate wine of romance and commitment. Both men and women want it all — the perfect, satisfying course. And we need both — steak by itself is dry and unsatisfying; wine will get you tipsy, but it won’t satisfy your hunger. Now, before the metaphor police revoke my license, let me simply push this analogy a little further: men are a little more focused on the meat of the relationship, and women a bit more on the wine. But both sexes want to get up from the table completely satisfied.

Men Answer Your Questions About Love

Need evidence? More than three-fourths of men believe in soul mates. And when we asked our guys to choose between meeting the love of their life or having amazing sex for six months, 92 percent chose falling in love. (The other 8 percent were probably Maxim readers.) Consider what these three men said about the experience of falling in love:

“We need to feel love, loyalty, and chemistry above all else,” says Ian, 31.
“Men also feel the butterflies and giddiness that women do when they’re in love,” says Robert, 26.
“Women don’t realize most guys are in love long before they are willing to admit it to anyone,” says Drew, 30.

So, why then does it always seem like women are leading the relationship toward commitment, and men need to be dragged along like a preschooler to a dental appointment? Because in the early-on strategic game of dating, men need to feel secure in how their girlfriend is feeling first. Consider this: less than half of men say they’re typically the first ones to say “I love you” in a relationship, and more women than men initially broach the subject of taking the relationship to the next level. That points to the notion that what men really want when it comes to love is their girlfriend’s assurance — your permission, really — that it’s okay to let the butterflies out of the cage.

Question: Guys, do you believe you’ve met your soul mate?

  • Yes, I’m with her right now – 53 Percent
  • Yes, but we’re no longer together – 14 Percent
  • Yes, but we were never together as a couple – 9 Percent
  • No – 24 Percent

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Reader Discussion: 80 Comments

  1. I believe men need more understanding when it comes to matters of the heart. They do not speak what they feel which usually cause miscommunication.

  2. Thanks for writing, Sarah! Men and women need to meet halfway if they want to succeed in love!

  3. Men are completely different from us, women. And it’s essential that if you love your man, you need to understand him and make sure he knows you do.

  4. Jamie Wurst

    I’ve observed that often times falling in love leaves a man completely vulnerable which is somehow frightening him…

  5. Alta Johnson

    Oh love! Sometimes, I find it hard to communicate and compromise with my man.

  6. Laverne Pollard

    I know for a fact that relationships need a LOT of effort but most of the time, it’s not easy to figure out where I should be directing that effort. This article is extremely helpful!

  7. Jennifer Baker

    Great article, Sarah! Men are “seen” less emotional and I find it fantastic you’re able to come up with an interesting piece like this 👌

    • Deanna Hurt

      Hmmm… very interesting!

  8. Jennifer Baker

    Girls, in general, are curious creatures, and guys are the biggest mystery. Thanks for unfolding the mystery 😉

  9. Janice Way

    Thank you! This truly is enlightening. Questions I’ve been wanting to ask my man are answered. This will wipe away my insecurities!

  10. Loretta Alexander

    I can imagine how lucky their partners are. Claiming that they finally found their soulmate is very sweet. I hope my boyfriend thinks of me that way. Lol

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