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Men Answer Your Questions About Love

Is your man in love? Will he fall for you? Men answer: How to tell.

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Michael, 37, a restaurant owner in North Carolina, says he’s cautious about expressing himself early on — not because he’s complacent or wants to play games or wants to make the woman squirm like a mouse in a cat’s mouth. He holds back because he’s waiting to get the signal that it’s okay to press the accelerator. “I love to hear that I’m her dream come true, or some version of that, if that’s the case,” he says. “I need a little praise and attention, just as much as she needs it from me. That’s the sign I need. Then, I know I can give her what she needs.”

What men really want when it comes to love is your assurance — your permission, really — that it’s okay to let the butterflies out of the cage.

Chris, 29, a recently married public defender, agrees. “Men need to be told that they’re wanted,” he says. “Women forget that if they like a nice guy, that the nice guy might be too nervous to tell them what he feels.” And then he added this interesting insight: “Women need to be more open to being hurt the way guys are every day.” Hold on a second. Guys are hurt more often than women?

Men Answer Your Questions About Love

Think about it: In the romance game, it’s usually the man who makes the first move (usually after you’ve dropped him countless hints waiting for him to finally pick up on them). But in doing so, men open themselves up to more rejection than a telemarketing trainee. And believe me, even George Clooney has a psychic master list of turn-downs that he still winces over from time to time.

So once a man has crossed that first barrier — okay, you like him, it’s safe — he’s reluctant to cross the next. Like monkeys in a lab, we’ve been shocked plenty of times before, and if we’re in a safe place with you, we’re happy simply to stay there. So it’s a delicate balance — a woman needs to signal that it’s okay for him to take the next step, without making him feel as if he’s being pushed toward it. Let him know that you feel there’s something really special between you. Let him know it’s okay if he lets himself feel that, too. But proceed cautiously — there’s danger ahead, as you’ll see.

We asked the most insightful men we know to answer our readers questions about, well, men. Here’s what they said:

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Reader Discussion: 41 Comments

  1. Angelo Henderso

    Don’t be too futuristic when dating. Let men handle your relationship. Don’t rush them into things that they are not yet ready, because it may ruin the relationship you are building.

  2. Juli Woods

    To all women out there. Please don’t give us false hope. I’m saying this, on behalf of the men all over the world. Not all men are the same, and not all women are the same.

  3. Lusi Martin

    I agree with those men. I don’t believe that women love us after three weeks of dating. Of course, we are careful too. We are prone in rejection, we don’t want to get hurt all over again.

  4. Honey Smith

    Don’t get straight to the point. Give men some thrill. If you’re easy to get, they may take you for granted. Not all men flirt for a serious relationship. Some of them are just playing.

  5. Anila William

    If women wants to get compliment on how they look, men want that too. A long lasting relationship consists of two person with deep understanding.

  6. Nancy Smith

    I get your family’s point. You are 31, and you need to settle down, or you’ll end up alone. Lol

  7. Quin Meri

    As men, I will stand for our side. It’s hard to tell someone you love her, because we may get rejected at the end. Women don’t know how difficult to us to keep the feelings we tend to expose and tell.

  8. Jenifer Jeni

    Yes, men and women are like steaks and wine. They are compatible with each other. It’s a perfect combination, just ensure that you are choosing the right wine, or steak. Lol

  9. Linda Williams

    Lol. I like how you compare the women to wine and the men to steak. XD Men are like meat! I like it. Lol

  10. Mildred Davis

    Imagine you’re the man in the relationship. What type of feeling do you want to feel? We are just the same, we all have hearts.

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