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Men Answer Your Questions About Love

Is your man in love? Will he fall for you? Men answer: How to tell.

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Should I give him an ultimatum?

My live-in boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for about a year and a half, living together for somewhere around six months. I’m 31 and my family is giving me a hard time — like I should just go ahead and move on if he’s not going to be the one because I’m wasting time. My best friend even says to me that there’s no way he’s going to marry me because he’s getting all the sex of a non-married relationship without the commitment. I’ve debated a lot about giving him an ultimatum or a deadline, but something tells me that’s a bad idea. How will I know if he’s ever going to be ready to make the next step?

Men Answer Your Questions About Love

Men Answer Your Questions About LoveYou may think that men are afraid of the marriage commitment because we want to leave options open, because we’re waiting for something better, or because we fear it’ll be the official end of hot-tub sex. Jay, 30, says a man’s hesitation isn’t about indifference; it’s actually the opposite. “Men are just as unsure about the relationship thing as women,” he says. “I’m getting married in a couple months to a woman I love deeply, who I know will be a fantastic wife and mother to my future children. Is she my soul mate? Tough question, but if not, she’s pretty darn close.” When we decide we want to be married, we want to do the right thing — for both of us. So should you give him an ultimatum? I don’t think so. If you’ve been honest with him about your feelings for him — for him, not for “the relationship” — then you’re probably at the point in your relationship where you should be able to ask him straight up about his feelings for you. If he can’t tell you what he thinks and what he feels, well, that’s probably your answer.

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Reader Discussion: 41 Comments

  1. Angelo Henderso

    Don’t be too futuristic when dating. Let men handle your relationship. Don’t rush them into things that they are not yet ready, because it may ruin the relationship you are building.

  2. Juli Woods

    To all women out there. Please don’t give us false hope. I’m saying this, on behalf of the men all over the world. Not all men are the same, and not all women are the same.

  3. Lusi Martin

    I agree with those men. I don’t believe that women love us after three weeks of dating. Of course, we are careful too. We are prone in rejection, we don’t want to get hurt all over again.

  4. Honey Smith

    Don’t get straight to the point. Give men some thrill. If you’re easy to get, they may take you for granted. Not all men flirt for a serious relationship. Some of them are just playing.

  5. Anila William

    If women wants to get compliment on how they look, men want that too. A long lasting relationship consists of two person with deep understanding.

  6. Nancy Smith

    I get your family’s point. You are 31, and you need to settle down, or you’ll end up alone. Lol

  7. Quin Meri

    As men, I will stand for our side. It’s hard to tell someone you love her, because we may get rejected at the end. Women don’t know how difficult to us to keep the feelings we tend to expose and tell.

  8. Jenifer Jeni

    Yes, men and women are like steaks and wine. They are compatible with each other. It’s a perfect combination, just ensure that you are choosing the right wine, or steak. Lol

  9. Linda Williams

    Lol. I like how you compare the women to wine and the men to steak. XD Men are like meat! I like it. Lol

  10. Mildred Davis

    Imagine you’re the man in the relationship. What type of feeling do you want to feel? We are just the same, we all have hearts.

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