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The Art of a Mid-Life Rebellion

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Something magical happened to me when I turned 40. I stopped caring. I literally stopped giving a shit. No, I didn’t have a nervous breakdown or stop being concerned about myself, my family or friends. I stopped caring about the mythical “they”.

You know who I’m talking about.

The “they” that says you can’t wear white after Labor Day. The “they” that says as a woman in Corporate America, you have to dumb yourself down to allow the people around you to be a bit more comfortable in your presence. The “they” that says you have to stay in the career in which you’ve already invested two decades. The “they” that says you can’t love curse words and God at the same time. What the hell ever.

It was an epic, soul searching, gut wrenching shit fit of a moment.

The Art of a Mid-Life Rebellion

The year I turned 40, I embraced my authentic self, instead of only occasionally visiting her.

So there I was, in Corporate America, after almost two decades in financial services — and I was having a moment. It was an epic, soul searching, gut wrenching shit fit of a moment. I literally felt like flipping the desk over in my cubical. I mean, I probably would have if it wasn’t screwed into the wall. But I digress…

I was pissed and having a one-sided conversation with God. “Surely you created me for more than this foolery. This cannot be what you meant my life’s work to be.” I had just finished having yet another asinine conversation with a “leader” who had asked my opinion and then had the audacity to get pissed when my opinion didn’t line up with his. Seriously, I lost track of how many times, through my actions and words, I conveyed that my ethics were not up for sale. My constant & consistent mantra had been, “If you are looking for a yes person, buddy, I’m not it.” And yet here we were again.

The Art of a Mid-Life Rebellion

I began to try to figure out what’s next for me? What in the hell comes after this?? I cannot –I will not— have this life for another 25 years. I allowed myself to be open to the possibilities and, after much going back and forth with the big guy, I reluctantly decided to embrace entrepreneurship.

Entrepreneurship — who would want that burden? You’re exposed, every mistake available for dissection by sideline critics. My dream had always been to be a part of Corporate America.

Corporate America was, to me, the land of paid-time-off, paychecks every two weeks, and lots of policies and procedures. While other little girls were playing dolls and pretending to cook, I played business woman. I had my pens, paper and a rotary phone that wasn’t hooked up to anything. I wanted to be in Corporate America chasing that title, being in control and running stuff. I would be the first in my close-knit family to work in Corporate America. I pursued that goal with a laser focus, through two degrees, several companies, relocations, and motherhood.

The Art of a Mid-Life Rebellion

Imagine my disappointment to discover that I had finally gotten everything I ever wanted only to find that it left me completely empty. I wasn’t happy, not even a little bit. Thank goodness I had a friend who had begun to teach me about the law of attraction and mindset. Thanks to her, I slowly worked past my resistance to thinking about the world differently and opened my mind up to the possibilities.

I considered that maybe –just maybe— the life I had been pursuing wasn’t the life that I was supposed to have after all. But it was a catalyst to finally get me on the right path. So on that day in my 40th year, I decided to take responsibility for intentionally building the life I wanted.

Imagine my disappointment to discover that I had finally gotten everything I ever wanted only to find that it left me completely empty.

I would create an amazing legacy for my family and others by being a servant leader. I would design an existence of which I could be proud, making up the rules of how my life would work as I went along. I would bravely rewrite the script of my own life. And so I quit Corporate America. I left it all behind and launched a personal concierge/lifestyle management firm. I changed my life completely, and now, finally, life feels like it is moving along quite splendidly.

The Art of a Mid-Life Rebellion

If you are in the market to rewrite the script of your life, here are three things I highly recommend that you do/embrace:

Get ready to turn your current mindset on its ass.

I heard this quote somewhere (or maybe it’s the name of a book), but the gist of it is this: what got you here, won’t get you there. You have to be willing to do some heavy lifting, read some books, make some new friends, get rid of some lifelong friends. This is about going to a new level and unlearning some stuff that has been blocking you and holding you back. Everybody is different but, for me, this journey started with purging, decluttering my house and no TV watching (I know; this was in the 2nd or 3rd season of Scandal!! Talk about agony!).

Invest in yourself.

Again — buy a book, read it and actually implement the practices. Attend a seminar, listen, take notes and actually implement the practices. Pay for a coach, engage your coach, and actually do what he or she says. Have you noticed a theme? It’s not enough to just spend the money. You also have to strengthen your commitment to execute.

Embrace self-care.

You simply cannot rewrite the script if you don’t put caring for yourself and your health high up on your to-do list. You won’t have the energy for it. I hate the gym, and I’m not a fan of working out. My trainer assures me that I will fall in love eventually, but it hasn’t happened yet. I work out because I HAVE to do it. I’ve noticed when I’m not doing a good job of taking care of myself, mentally and/or physically, my body will call me out and just not participate in my plans. I’ll start to get sick or start to get migraines.

My body is very clear about who is in charge, so to co-exist with it; I have to do my part by making good choices. Spa days have found their place on my calendar, as have frequent walks in the park. These are appointments with you, for you. Don’t be one of those people that are great at taking care of everyone but you.

Changing course at 40 or after isn’t for the faint of heart, but it is absolutely worth it. I am happy and free — and you will be too once you get out of your own way.

Be brave!

Jamie is a lifestyle strategist that provides "the gift of time" to busy people through her company, The LifeStyle Group. Jamie has 20+ years of process improvement experience that she leverages to help her client’s lives run more efficiently. She is an avid reader, an active volunteer at her son's school.

96 Comments

  1. Elise Godenot

    People get into midlife crisis because they realize at some point they aren’t satisfied with their lives. They want to change that and become “rebels”. They want to start everything from scratch and sometimes they act childish. That’s why many people start playing in a band or do some other activities they never did when they were young. Like they are going back to puberty.

  2. Lesley

    First, I want to thank you, Jamie, for sharing your story, and for loving yourself, and women in general, enough not to settle, for anything. Thank you for delivering your story with the realness and grit it deserves to make us think about what we really want and how we can go about getting it. We work so hard to support our families and our lifestyles and, though it works for many of us, we often sacrifice our peace as a result, which leads us to our MLC’s. We get to a point where that’s no longer enough and realize we have 2 choices; we can keep going down this road of “Ok”, or change course and find that road to “Oh yeah!” I thank you for encouraging me to find that “Oh yeah!” road and look forward to all life has to offer me, and you. Keep us posted on your journey and keep writing, too! You’re touching and changing lives and I love it!

  3. Congrats Jaime!!! You are definitely shining!!

  4. Alice Harris

    In the next decade of my life I’m looking forward to praying more and worrying less. I am declaring that by 40 this will change for all woman. The women that I know who are 40 & over are so sure about themselves, what they want out of life. We will be stronger in our convictions and unapologetic about wanting what’s best for us. Thanks for helping to bring clarity back in my life! 🙂

    • You are so welcome Alice. It’s my pleasure to share my story in hopes of helping someone figure theirs out!!

  5. Rosemary Robles

    Beautifully simply stated.I think with every birthday, we find ourselves re-examining our life progress. In doing this we re-examine ourselves and build a better understanding of who we are and what we want. We will discover new things and some things may change. I love what you do but if you do nothing all year and re-post this message then the world will be infinitely better(laughs).

  6. Mary Johnston

    Thank you for posting this great insight. From what I’ve read, you don’t need any advice. I felt like when one person turns 40 they’re finally ready to live. You seem to have a healthy attitude and perspective about aging. I still haven’t turned 40, but i’m ready and i think it’s wonderful.

    • Thanks Mary. I’m loving life, it took me awhile to get here but I’m happy!!

  7. Shirley Fuchs

    Thank you so much for being you! Much love and blessings, Shirley.

  8. Lela House

    I’m 29 and I’m working on living in the moment and appreciating the small moments God has given me.

    • Absolutely,Lela, this process can start at any time. I’m glad you are appreciating life as it comes.

  9. Charlene Campbell

    I have read this several times and keep getting more out of it. I think that it is always important to have a vision of who you want to be at any age. Consider the last 39 years of your life as a foundation built for the next 40 + years of your life. So as long as we are taking care of ourselves and being true to our “best self” we will be at peace no matter what age. This is amazing! Thank you!

    • Thank you so much, Charlene for taking the time to read it, again and again!! I agree with you totally, have a vision and then work diligently towards it. Then have the courage to change it, if you decide you don’t want it anymore.

  10. So, so good..I did the first part…the shit fit part at 50…wish I had done it earlier like you did. You’ve given me a lot to think about…thanks so much for sharing!

  11. Tia Alvarez

    Amazing and inspiring Jaime! Congratulations and thank you for sharing. I have been on the verge for a while, but after chasing the title and money in “my career” I want more for me and my legacy. Guess it’s time to start digging.

  12. Olivia Peterson

    Thank you for writing this Jamie. This is an extraordinary post. I am so inspired by women like you!

    Age is just a state of mind. And it’s never too late to start doing things your own way. 🙂

    • Yay, I’m so glad that it resonated with you. It took me a minute to get here, but I’m delighted to be facing the world on my own terms.

  13. Delilah Peyton

    Thanks for writing this! My friend and I were just talking about this over dinner last night! There needs to be more write-ups on this. 100 percent true of what my sister is going through. A bad recent break up started it though.

  14. Nicky Bryan

    This is incredibly timely, and gives a voice to a lot of the issues i’ve been grappling with the last few years, especially the privilege of having the space to even realize one is unhappy and unfulfilled, and to figure our why.

    • Yes, Nicky!! Take the time for yourself to figure out your why. We have a right to be happy and fulfilled without apologies to anyone.

  15. Pearl Nguyen

    What a pleasure to read, thank you for sharing. I take breaks from focusing on helping others in my life by spending time on myself, by myself and for myself. These activities do not hurt other people, but they do not serve them either. I used to feel guilty about taking time for myself, but since I’ve realized that, as you stated, we only love and understand others to the extent that we can love and understand ourselves, I can appease my sense of guilt by remembering that by loving myself I am allowing myself to love others more fully.

    • You are so welcome Pearl!!It is so important to not leave yourself out of the equation. I’m all for loving on my friends and family, but I’m no good to anyone if I fail to take care of me.

  16. Emma Blackwood

    only you can control it, that’s the thing. I remember them telling me that anxiety will do no harm unless you have had it for twenty years or more. I have now. I also have high blood pressure which I think may be caused by it. Wake up with jaw locked tight, and feel ill frequently.

  17. Amanda Roberts

    Hello, Jamie. I think this was an amazing article! I am really impressed by the depth of knowledge and experience you have dealing with MLC. Hats off to you for helping people going with MLC by sharing your experiences and advice.

    • Thank you!! I don’t even consider myself an expert. I just felt like I was going to lose my mind if I had to suppress my personality for one more day.

  18. Diana Hewitt

    I’m not middle aged or in crisis yet, but I’ve been reading this page over a few times and I am sure this is what is going on with my husband, who is 42. I know this is about women, but do you think your advice here could be useful for men too? I am so scared I am going to lose my best friend! I don’t know what to do!

    • Oh yes, this advice applies to anyone who feels like it’s time to change the life they’ve been living. I’m not a relationship expert by any means but what has meant the most to me is that my family & friends gave me space to change, even when they didn’t completely understand it.

  19. Lynn Hayes

    That’s exactly what my aunt is going through right now. I thought it might have something to do with menopause, but apparently not. your article has been a great eye opener. I’ll share this article with her. And hope that it helps. 🙂

    • Absolutely. LOL, I’m not at the menopause milestone yet. But I do hope it helps her find her way back to her happy self. That is the goal.

  20. Very interesting story, I can really relate. I was hoping to hear more what exactly happened… the career changes and the journey there. Maybe a part 2? (I couldn’t find a website too for a bio or something…)

    • Angela, well here is the update. I now have two companies, The LifeStyle Group (wemanagelife.com) which is the personal concierge/lifestyle management company that I talk about in the article. The second company is the JB Consultant Group, under which I provide business mentoring and HR consulting. I don’t have it all figured out, but I am so damn happy. I’m also building my professional speaking career, so maybe, just maybe you’ll see me on a stage somewhere soon. 😉

      • I love the fact that you said that you have two companies. I have been struggling with selecting one or another company. As a midlifer, your article resonated with me.

        • Yay, I’m so dang on excited that this article is resonating with everyone. Yep, I decided, I don’t want to choose one company over the other, so I didn’t. 😉

  21. Amelia Beckons

    I can definitely relate! It feels like you hit the bulls eye with everything that I have been observing. Thank you for this article. It helped reaffirm that I am not alone in my journey – and sometimes that is the the best therapy.

    • Yay Amelia!! You are definitely NOT alone. There is a whole tribe of women out here trying to figure this thing out!!

  22. Susanna Milton

    Thanks so much for your brilliant article. I feel like I have so many of these “symptoms” I am going through now. I do hope that I can be true to myself soon and find the right path. Thanks again, for the great advice.

    • You are very welcome!! I’m sending you positive energy in the hopes that you are able to be true to yourself and find the right path.

  23. Kim Hartford

    Thanks so much for this amazing article! I’ve been going through it myself, and your advice is definitely a great help.

    Take time to live, find some exercise to keep you feeling your life. Be ready to take a few years to find your course in life. Trying to force it or rush it doesn’t work.

    🙂

    • You are so welcome!! Absolutely, be willing to go thru the process to figure this thing out. You owe it to yourself. 😉

  24. Monica CONOVER

    I appreciate all the advice throughout this blog. I didnt realize that Mid Life Crisis was such a serious thing until I realized myself that this is what I was going through. I find myself in limbo a lot during the course of the day.

    • Mmmhmm Monica. I didn’t realize what was going on at first. It took me a minute to figure it out and decide that I owed it to myself to be open to the possibilities.

  25. Leslie Williams

    If we look at it pragmatically, it is easy to discover that most of the things we desire are programmed into us at an early age by society. In our minds a virtual checklist appears and rather than ticks in each box we have big red X’s in most, and that to us says we are a failure. The reality is that we are not focusing on the things we are doing well, instead we are dwelling on our failure to meet up to the norm. 🙂

  26. Melissa Princeton

    Hello! This is the best article on mid life crisis I’ve seen yet. Very informative and helpful. Will be sharing on Facebook so it could be useful to my friends too.

    • Yay!! That makes me happy. I’m so thrilled that you are willing to share. I hope it helps someone in your circle.

  27. Molly Twain

    This article was an eye opener for me to realise that me and my partner are going through this. I have learned lot from this post. Will want to know more how as partner can resolve and move on. thank you so much for the wonderdul tips.

  28. Evelyn Sandler

    Thank you for this article and thank you to all people who have commented. I’ve read through this article and the comments, and though I find it comforting that I’m not alone, I’m at a loss as to what exactly to do.

    • You are very welcome Evelyn. You are certainly not alone. I recommend the book, The Dream Giver by Bruce Wilkinson, it helped me to get out of my own way.

  29. Hi, firstly I would like to say what a great site this and already after reading this article and comments, I am feeling a lot better about what is happening to me. I am 32 and feeling really down and out about life. I work full time. I feel in the past year that everything has gone hill for me. I hate my job I just want to quit. I find it hard to get out of bed. If it wasn’t for my child coming in a poking me in the eyeballs I wouldn’t get up. I find no joy in doing anything I used in enjoy doing. I just feel lost and empty. I feel scared because I feel I no longer have any hopes or dreams or goals in life. I am literally living each day as it comes and somedays I don’t even want to see the day out and it scares me.

    • I’m glad that you enjoyed the article. I’m sending positive energy out to you to help you do the work of figuring out how to get back to what makes you happy. In fact, there is a book I would like to recommend called “The Work” by Bryon Katie. You deserve to be happy and don’t let anyone convince you of anything else.

  30. Lena Dzeko

    Thank you so much for this concise and gentle article. I feel a bit like I’m losing my mind after spending 15 years in a career I never really wanted — I only did it to support my family. I’m very good at it and make a great salary. But for the last few years, I’ve been tweaking my life outside of work, trying to do all kinds of extra-curricular stuff to make up for my discontent. But I just can’t do it anymore. I’m taking a leave of absence and am going to try to discover my next career move.

    • I’m sending you positive energy as you go on your soul searching journey. It may not be easy, but it will totally be worth it. Wishing you the best.

  31. Elin Hanks

    Thank you for this article. It helped me put things in perspective. You have clarified many things for me. Your work is really good and as a person experiencing “mid-life crises” , some small , some big, I really appreciate what I have learnt from your perspective!

  32. Matilda Parker

    After reading your articles it’s clear I am going through the midlife criss. I am doing things that are out of character. Trying to deal with these emotions is confusing and crazy causing sleepless nights, anxiety and depression. I have never acted in this way before.I know I need to work through this till this is over but I am struggling.

  33. Sabrina Wellington

    A midlife crisis is not a problem. It’s a critical step in burgeoning self-awareness and individuation. It’s only perceived as a problem from the perspective of social norms that rest on expectations of your conformity and obedience.

  34. Sabrina Grattidge

    Now THIS is an article that very succinctly expresses my current feelings around my age. Thanks for the great advice. I’ll be definitely trying it for myself.

  35. Celine Carter

    Whenever mid life crisis is the topic of a conversation, people always suggest being grateful is the best way to deal with it. I think just being grateful is not always enough. When you start out in life they don’t tell you to just be grateful they say reach for your dreams. To me “Just Be Grateful” is like just settle which is what most of us do.

    • Andrea Mitchell

      I know what you mean. There are so many little sayings to help us feel a little better about where we are in life, like ‘don’t look back at your past or you can’t move forward’, etc. but then right after that you’ll see one telling you to never forget your past,etc.

    • Frances Seifert

      You got that right. We get older and realize we just “settled” and tired of just being grateful. I’d rather be fruitful instead!

  36. Roberta Bennett

    Wow. Reading this makes me wonder if I’m going through midlife crisis. I think I am there on a minor level. I have been having those feelings, there’s got to be more than just serving my family and my work… what about me?!

  37. Ayla Pennington

    Magnificent piece! So many good points and amazing advice! Midlife is a huge transition that requires complete awareness. Look back and remember what you loved, what gave you joy, what your dreams were, and go out and do it. Listen to your soul now, so you will not have to start adolescence all over again at 40’s. 🙂

  38. Ultimately, acceptance is the key to escaping a mid-life crisis, and not giving a rat’s arse what anyone else tells you should be doing or thinking – and having the freedom from work to adopt that position. 😉

  39. Christina Norelli

    So many valid points! Work is undoubtedly THE source of female mid-life crisises. But what can you do, with the need to have a job and earn money, and commitments to meet. That’s the source of the mid-life crisis and the ‘trapped’ feeling.

  40. Debbie Jones

    Mid life crisis is merely an aphorism for a period of existential contemplation brought on no doubt in some form by hormonal changes and the gradual decaying of the brain and body; the realisation that life is temporal.. The only good part is that some of the big responsibilities are largely gone – it is easier. But death awaits round the corner. Material considerations don’t deal with the reality of that; many/ most people I know when they are at funerals treat it like a more sombre version of a wedding ignoring the ugly reality of death. It is ducking the question & chickening out of the issue. There is no satisfactory answer to it.

  41. Lucretia Asher

    Absolutely correct! So you can be depressed about it, do something about it that in all likelihood will make things worse, or just accept it and take pleasure when and where you can. One of the most inspiring articles on this which offers the best solution to the situation.

  42. Dana Rosatti

    Finally realised that the route of my crisis was my pointless career; working for socially awkward cretins with as much common sense as a piece of wood. Sound familar? Its very liberating when you finally realise that its just a means to an end and not worth getting stressed about.

  43. Franny Pimms

    Everything you said here is so true!! I would also encourage becoming totally free of debt. Otherwise the job which has now become meaningless also enslaves you and there is no joy therein. I also like Socrates saying, “The unexamined life is not worth living”, so I tend to constantly learn, and think…

  44. Betty O'Leary

    Stunningly brilliant article. The older we get the less there is that is new. The less we have to look forward to and so we need to do something new.

  45. Julia MacLean

    Such a great point. It should be all about you. And it’s nothing to feel guilty about. It is actually possible to care about oneself and others without making any sacrifices at all. If one feels that helping others must involve sacrifice then perhaps one is not really helping others at all!

  46. Sydney Nowak

    Amazing article! I agree with every point! I think if you have an aim it helps. If the aim is intellectual improvement and becoming as physically fit as possible that helps a lot as well. The safest way to get fit is yoga, body weight resistance exercise and plenty of walking. No matter what age, feeling attractive is also important. Intellectual improvement can be easily achieved by teaching yourself chess (on the internet) and learning how to make music in flstudio. These two pastimes will exercise both left and right sides of the brain and aid concentration.One has to build oneself up in one’s own mind and learn to love oneself. But most of all one must stop feeling guilty.

  47. This are great tips! Will be really use to me. You’re such a great writer. I can feel how geniune and real you are from the way you write. 🙂

    Any tips on how to deal with the mid life crisis as a couple? I think my husband is having it worse than me.

  48. Cornelia Green

    I’ll keep this article and I’ll go back to it when I need to be reminded of this. You’re the best!

  49. Ashley Moore

    Growing up and adding to numbers to our age is wonderful! It’s another day that the Lord allowed us to see. I look forward to what God is going to do in my life in the future. Let’s us all be happy and enjoy this day along with many others. Thanks for sharing your reflections. I always look forward to more of your inspiring posts. 🙂

  50. Helen Dark

    This totally is the biggest truth I’ve read lately. It’s an amazing article, which left me to think about my purpose after i turned 40. I would like to think of the 40’s as the new 20’s but with greater Heavenly wisdom based on life experiences. Your post is exactly what we needed this morning and this year. Thanks for your words!

    xoxo,
    Helen

  51. Christina Brown

    Hi! 40 means so many things. Other people’s opinions are less urgent. Your post really spoke to me. And you have set me on my mission to open my heart to myself. When I was lying in bed last night I was thinking that exact thing. I’m not yet 40 but i’ll join the club on the next few years.

  52. Elsie Spurlock

    One thing’s for sure you are a strong positive woman. I appreciate your openness about you; this will sure help move me forward in a unstoppable life. Your advice is so measured, sensible and incredibly loving. You have really inspired me that I can have some control over my life and lead a purposeful life despite those kinds of circumstances that will come to us. Thank you so much for sharing.

  53. Kimberly Vigil

    You are right where you are suppose to be. Loving yourself more. Living and rewriting the script of your life. Can’t get any better than that at 40. You are truly blessed Jamie. You are an awesome inspiration to us all!

  54. Carolyn Donovan

    Great article! Very inspirational and motivating!

  55. Courtney Watson

    It’s all about happiness and freedom! If you have these, you’ll feel complete and contented 😉

  56. Susan Stewart

    Oh, midlife crisis… *sigh*

    As numbers continue to add up with my age, I can’t help but feel this article ring a bell not to far off…

  57. Francis Woods

    Okay, I have been hearing midlife crisis from relatives!!! And I don’t fully understand (probably because I’m young and still on the experimental age)!!! But I’d really like to know, is midlife crisis a depression or a transition?!!!

    I’m just confused because of various stories I’ve been hearing…

    • Francis, for me it was a transition. It was me giving myself permission to say, I don’t want this career, this life anymore and I can change my life’s work to something that makes me happy and I don’t need anyone’s permission to do it. Was it easy to leave a field that I worked in for 20+ years? Nope. Do I now feel like my two degrees are a waste? Nope, absolutely not. Every part of my journey was to bring me to this moment right here and I am thankful.

  58. Gabby Williams

    “Invest in yourself!” Focus on your “focus” and be aware of yourself! Make your personal goals be “vision driven” and NOT fear driven 🙂

  59. The midlife shift tends to happen in an instant. It is an event that will definitely change a person. It requires a lot of effort to understand the midlife and distinguish its blessings.

    I understand the need to eliminate “they” because trying to accommodate them can lead to loss of self-respect. The “key” to midlife endeavor is honesty, commitment and courage!

    • Anne Dawson

      I understand the need to eliminate “they.” But I personally believe that “they” can play an essential role. Finding a trusted community for support is important.

      As you said, “the “key” to midlife endeavor is honesty, commitment and courage.” Aside from honesty that comes from oneself, a person going through midlife needs “honesty” from trusted community.

    • To me, it’s defining the “they”. I have purposely surrounded myself with like minded individual who understand this journey. Everyone doesn’t have permission to speak into my life.

  60. Hannah Mayers

    Midlife crisis is the beginning of a new and better self in pursuit of personal aspirations. It is the time where a person realizes missed dreams, forgotten opportunities and wrong choices which cause some sorts of regrets. It is can be the time where a person feels that life is getting away.

    I personally think that it’s impossible to be satisfied in life unless one is courageous enough to evolve and change. Wonderful tips, Jaime!

    • Thank you, Hannah. That summed up things quite nicely, I couldn’t have said it better myself.;-)

  61. Shiela Williams

    Thank you for writing this article!

    Midlife crisis… I can relate. I woke up one day and realized that I did not achieve the person I dream to be. I realized opportunities I did not take and in a moment I was in a whiplash! I was left asking, where will my life begin again???

    • OMG Shiela, that is a great analogy. I kept asking myself what in the heck happened, how did I get here and how can I get out!! LOL.

  62. When I was young and under the roof of my parents, I longed for freedom. I want to be out and do the things I want. Then, the next stage of my life, I had to make lots of career decisions, experienced big mistakes and dated a lot — all because I was in search of things that would make me complete.

    My sense of self got lost along the way and it took me time to recover. I agree with your tips particularly investing in oneself. Life is an endless flow of opportunities and failures and if you fail to invest in yourself, you’ll be lost.

    • Susan Stewart

      Life’s hard to explain, when you’re young all you care is building a career and get ahead in the corporate world. When you’re older, you wish to spend and seem not to care what would happen in the next years of your life.

      Well, all I can say is: “Sure you can have a midlife crisis. You’re to it after all. Just don’t go overboard.”

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