Your One-a-Month Sex Bucket List
20 creative things to do every month to spice up your sex life.
Whether you’ve always stuck to the basics in bed and you’d like to try something new or your previously exciting sex life has fizzled, there are plenty of ways to shake things up between the sheets. Here’s our “Bucket List” of sexy activities. If you do even just 10 of these per month, you’ll be sure to have a happy partner and a hot sex life.
Try this: Print this page and cut each activity out separately with scissors so you have 20 little pieces of paper. Put the whole list in an actual bucket, and pull one out every few mornings, making sure your partner reads it too. That way, you can spend all day looking forward to participating in the chosen Bucket List item that evening.
Bucket List: #1. Wear Sexy Lingerie
To get your man’s pulse racing, surprise him at the door when he gets home from work in a lacy teddy or a corset, garter, stockings, and high heels—or whatever makes you feel sexy. If a very revealing get-up makes you feel too self-conscious, opt for a baby doll or chemise—these sexy garments tend to flatter every body type as they don’t pinch or squeeze in the wrong places.
Bucket List: #2. Perform a Striptease
While you’re wearing that lacy number, why not put it to good use? Pick your favorite sexy song (“You Can Leave Your Hat On” by Joe Cocker and “Pony” by Ginuwine are good choices), turn down the lights, and have your partner sit on a chair or the couch. Trace sexy circles with your hips, bend over and touch your toes, and straddle his lap—bring those moves you’ve seen in movies and music videos to life. If you want to tease him even more, tell him he’s not allowed to touch you until the striptease is over.
Bucket List: #3. Leave the Bedroom
If you wait until you crawl between the sheets at the end of a long day to have sex and go through the same old motions, you’re likely to get bored. Get it on in the kitchen, on the dining table, on the couch, in the laundry room, or anywhere else that feels new and exciting. Be spontaneous, but pick your moments wisely—if your partner’s finishing an important report for work, you might get rejected.
Bucket List: #4. Take it Outside
Having sex in a public place like a park, beach, public bathroom, or (parked!) car will add the extra thrill of knowing you could get caught. It’s a good idea to have a blanket on hand if you’re doing it in the great outdoors to avoid getting sand or twigs in your delicate parts. Plus, it will give you something to cover up with if someone shows up unexpectedly. But be aware that having sex in public is illegal in most places, so don’t blame me if you get busted!
Bucket List: #5. Get Wet ‘n’ Wild
Slip into the shower when your partner’s already in there for a wet and sexy encounter. Because the water is likely to wash away any natural lubrication, it’s best to arm yourself with a silicone-based lubricant, which won’t dissolve in water and will make it a more comfortable experience for both of you. You can also try having sex in a pool, lake, bath, or hot tub, but some health experts warn that it can cause chafing, vaginal infections, and condom breakage, so proceed at your own risk.