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Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

Don’t all women really just want to make babies, cook and clean?

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In the age of Trump, it seems as though we’ve slipped backwards in time. It’s once again assumed that if you’re a woman, you must be good at cooking, cleaning, and making men happy. Unfortunately for my hubby, I wasn’t blessed with the motivation to work on these domestic gifts. If it wasn’t for UberEats and the pre-made food section at Whole Foods, I’d probably have died well before I had the chance to get hitched. Luckily for me, my hubby is a feminist so he’s happy to cook, clean, make me smoothies, and still be my big strong, sexy (and breadwinning) man.

Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

Society encourages young girls to turn on their Easy-Bake Ovens and dress up their American Girl dolls, all in preparation for a life of housekeeping and child-rearing. I may’ve gone down that path myself, if not for the time I burnt my hand trying to make a brownie.

Aside from Trump trying his best to drag us all back into the dark ages, as time passed, thoughts have slowly progressed about the roles of women in society. Bursting out of their kitchens, women broke into the business world and turned perspectives upside down. Breaking barriers that once seemed impossible for women to do, you’d think that most men would now have no choice but to see women as equals in the workplace, and soon, the home. But do they?

Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

As women began to be taken more seriously, the myths and stereotypes about women have been consistently called into question. Gone, it seemed, were the archaic ideas that all women want is to get married and have children, as more and more women these days are satisfied with putting their careers first.

 

I don’t feel any shame about being bad at “women’s work,” and I’m not convinced there’s any reason I should be.

 

Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

Buttttt, based on the fact that so many white women voted for Trump because their husbands wanted them to, it seems we still have a long way to go. So this seems like an opportune time to clarify a few things, in case Trump or any of his followers are reading this:

 

Myth: All women are good cooks.

Truth: This one is definitely not true — just ask my husband! In our home, my hubby does the cooking, but across America the task still typically falls to women. A survey by the Bureau of Labor Statistics reported that on an average day, 83% of women do some sort of housework, compared to 65% of men. With respect to food preparation and clean-up specifically, only 40% of men, compared to 66% of women, take responsibility for it. So, it’s not so much that women are good cooks as it is they tend to get saddled with that task more, because of our still-sexist society.

Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

Myth: All women are good at cleaning.

Truth: We all know the gender roles when it comes to cleanliness for boys and girls: boys are expected to be filthy while girls are expected to be prim. As for adults — how many times have you seen a man pushing a vacuum around a room or cleaning up after kids in a TV commercial? Exactly.

Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

Wondering why a vacuum cleaner is still in the portrait of a standard housewife? One women’s magazine article said cleaning is a form of meditation. Another article said that women just have higher standards of cleanliness. They both go on to say that if a house is a mess, the woman living there is the one who’ll be judged, not the man. Yikes!

Myth: All women are all feminists.

Truth: I wish (!!), but clearly not — as IMHO a feminist wouldn’t vote for Trump. Not because Trump is a man who ran against a woman, but because Trump is a sexist pig who thinks it’s perfectly acceptable to sexually abuse and objectify women.

The definition of feminism comes down to the fact that women are equal to men and deserve every opportunity to prove it, not that feminists think men are scum (they don’t! that’s missing the point!). Feminists aren’t a different breed of person, they just demand the acknowledgement that anything a man can do, a woman can do.

I want a man to hold a door open for me, but I also want women to get promotions for their hard work, and not be judged based on how we look in a skirt. Empowering organizations such as Lean In aren’t trying to make women kick all men to the curb, but instead give them the tools to realize they can and should stand on their own two feet without feeling inferior to men in and outside of the workplace.

Myth: Women don’t enjoy sex as much as guys.

Truth: Just because I’m not running around trying to sleep with everyone that looks good doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy sex. Women are just a bit more reserved about it, or at least they tend to be. Maybe if we weren’t pressured to be a “sexy virgin” by society, we’d act more like men do. Plus, we don’t have sex just to make the other person feel good (unless we’re deep down the rabbit hole of self-objectification); it’s about us, too, and don’t you forget it.

Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

Myth: All women love to shop.

Truth: Personally, I hate shopping. The minute I’m inside a mall or clothing store, I want to get out. That’s why I do all my shopping online.

But the sad truth is that women are pressured by society to shop because they’re held to higher standards than men regarding appearance. The fashion industry aims their advertising mostly at women, in an effort to create insecurities. And –amazingly– in Trump’s America it’s still hard to be taken seriously when you’re a young woman getting started in the business world …especially if you aren’t well dressed. When it comes to appearance, women are expected to be on top of their game at all times, while men are allowed to simply slide by. #SoNotFair

Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

The Bottom Line

I don’t feel any shame about being bad at “women’s work,” and I’m not convinced there’s any reason I should be. Women have a lot more opportunities these days, but that’s not to say you’re any less of a modern woman if you fit this “traditional” mold. Feminism is about choice.

The fact of the matter is, women have other things to do in life besides cooking, cleaning, and giving birth. As times have changed, so has what’s expected of women. These days, women are able to juggle all of that and more while still being happy. Some are stuck in the past, but progressive women all over the world are changing how women are perceived and refuse to be held to old-timey standards.

A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she spends most of her time in France, NYC, London and Switzerland, and travels extensively around the world. Hilary spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She’s always looking for hot new topics, destinations, and brands to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 79 Comments

  1. Oh wow! The myths of womanhood. Thanks for this enlightening post. Sustaining a myth means having a culture of ignorance and ways of controlling those who would question that myth… which reminded me of the child in the fairy tale who exclaimed “the emperor has no clothes!”

  2. Jossen Row

    As a man who knows how to cook, I do not really judge a woman based on her lack of skills in cooking but honestly, it is a plus if you can. I don’t want to cook 100% of the time!

    • This is true! A lot of men are good at cooking now, some even study to just know how to cook well. It might not be part of the criteria when you apply for a job, but it can and will always help you in your daily life. 👍

  3. Ofelia Ruley

    Not all women are good cooks, let me tell you all that now because I am not, lols! And I tell it to the people around me every time. And I also tell them that they should not expect me to be a good cook in a matter of time because I may not be. Luckily, they do not take it against me. Personally, I just invest my time more in my work than to learn to cook. But this is just me, please do not hate me. Haha! #iamnochef

  4. Zoraida Martin

    When I was younger, my mom was the one responsible in the house. Back then, my mom would always tell me that I needed to learn all the things around the house since I am a woman. I thought it’s normal for the woman to do all kinds of things in the house because we were titled to be at home. But growing up I have seen so many women who excel in different fields and it opened my mind to how much a woman can do outside the house. I am still thankful to my mom because she has taught me a lot, but now that I have my own career, I do not see myself staying at home. I guess, I just enjoy working.

    • Carmen Griffin

      Being a career woman will take you to places but having the skill to work around the house is a plus, too. You would know what I mean when you have your own family. ^_^

  5. Alena Martin

    Despite how society dictates on how women should live, it is still and will always be our choice to choose how to live our life. We can be the the stereotype kind of a woman or the modern one. Whatever path you choose, what’s important is you are happy and contented with your life.

  6. Della Martin

    No matter how people assumed or expected you to become the “traditional” woman, in this modern society, you are now given the chance to choose which path you will take. You can either be the traditional or modern kind of woman, or you can also be both. It is all up to you.

  7. Chris Moris

    Since my wife and I got a baby, we both decided that she needs to stop working so she can look after our daughter. The decision is not because she is the woman but because we both know that she has the most capable to stay at home with our daughter. I love my wife before and I every day I see more reasons to stay in love with her and being a stay at home wife did not make her less of a woman to me.

  8. Rosalia Russell

    Regardless of where we are, women are expected to do things like cleaning, cooking and taking care of the kids. But if there is one thing I am grateful for, that is the way my husband values my position in the house and never see me less of a person than him.

  9. It is just good to know that women are given more and more opportunities and roles outside home. Regardless if they decide to be a career woman or a stay at home wife/mother/woman, each one should still be treated as equal as the others.

  10. Elizabeth Gonzalez

    As an American, I feel lucky because I can live freely in our society. I have learned that women in other countries can only live with limited rights and it is just disappointing how culture can cage a person from the things she can and may do.

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