4 Steps to Reboot Your Self-Esteem
Somehow, I knew that any initiative to feel better would have to start with me.
Like most people, I’ve always been too modest to give myself much credit. It wasn’t until I started wondering why, and doing some research, that I learned that this modesty reflects my level of self-esteem. I would like to feel better about myself, more confident and capable–but ultimately, I need to love myself more.
Don’t get me wrong: people who boast and have a big ego also do so out of insecurity. It’s just a different way of manifesting it. It’s the people who can take a compliment gracefully and confidently talk about their accomplishments when asked, without over-stating or bragging, that have the most healthy self-esteem.
The dictionary defines esteem as “to regard with respect; to prize, to appreciate. To recognize the quality, significance, or magnitude of, to admire greatly; to value.”
Low self-esteem causes a spiral of insecurities.
Some years ago, I was going through a dark time in my life. I was broke — financially, socially, and even spiritually. While describing it to a friend, I said, “I had the self-esteem of a dead rat.” Clearly, I wasn’t doing too well.
Somehow, I knew that any initiative to feel better would have to start with me. It would have be an inner transformation first. Here are the four steps I took that were critical to getting me back on the right path: