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The Real Reasons Behind Violence Against Women

The ugly underbelly of society, and why women are constantly being dominated by men.


Whenever someone says that women have reached equality in today’s modern society, remind them that 1 in 3 women worldwide have experienced violence perpetrated by a male in their lifetime. That oughta shut them up.

The Real Reasons Behind Violence Against Women

Being manipulated into trying to look like Barbie isn’t the only form of oppression women have to deal with

Maybe you’ve never experienced violence perpetrated by a male. Maybe you’re not aware of the connection between violence and equal pay for equal work, or the right to make decisions for your body. No worries. The connection is about as clear as a morning after taking tequila shots. But I got you, girl.

The truth is, violence a way to keep the gender status quo. To keep men in charge and women subordinate. Similar to slaves in the American south, men who commit violence against women do so in order to control us. They do it because of –and to sustain– the manufactured gap in human value. To sustain the rationale that you deserve to earn less money for the same work. To sustain the institutions that believe you’re nothing more than a baby vessel. To root ideas that women and men are not equal and therefore undeserving of equal opportunities, including the opportunity for safety.

The Real Reasons Behind Violence Against Women

This article focuses on the left side of this picture, but both sides display forms of oppression…

The problem is an enormous one, and it’s not one-size-fits-all. Women in every country experience violence in different ways, from genital mutilation in parts of Africa, Asia, and the Middle East (and even certain western countries… you know who you are) to domestic violence in, well, every corner of the world.

The most extreme form of violence against women, of course, is femicide. The World Health Organization defines femicide as the “intentional murder of women because they are women,” but they also mention that broader definitions include any killings of women or girls. The Guatemalan Human Rights Commission takes the definition further, calling it an “act of terrorism that functions to define gender lines, enact and bolster male dominance, and to render women chronically and profoundly unsafe.”

The Real Reasons Behind Violence Against Women

Nearly 1 in 2 women have experienced sexual violence. 1 in 5 women in the USA has been raped. Children under twelve years old account for 34% of sexual violence against females.

But it’s not just murder we have to worry about. Violence committed by men against women is a multi-tiered, multi-faceted, multi-nuanced issue because of the surrounding factors that make violence against women acceptable. In the United States, we call this rape culture. Rape culture is when female victims of violence and sexual assault are blamed, while the violence perpetrated by men is normalized. You see it in the way female rape victims are blamed because they were drinking, or the clothes they were wearing were “too revealing”. In the way that people joke about how the victim was “asking for it”. In the manner that world leaders *cough cough* are allowed to “grab women by the pussy” and brush it off as locker room chit chat.

The Real Reasons Behind Violence Against WomenLearning about rape culture is like waking up in the morning and seeing Donald Trump naked, looming over you. Once you see it, it can’t be unseen.

To combat inequality and violence, UN Women puts on 16 days of awareness every year, known as the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence Campaign. The campaign spans from November 25th (Elimination of Violence against Women Day) to December 10th (Human Rights Day) each year. Because, you know… women’s rights are human rights and all that.

Every country and city will be trumpeting these 16 days in their own way, so go to the UN Women website, find your city, and find out how you can participate in spreading awareness about violence against women.

The only way to end violence against women is to change the concepts that deem women as lesser than men. Violence against women by men is often a show of dominance, intended to keep women in their place. Thus, changing the normalized concepts of inequality between men and women is the most powerful way to eliminate the violence, and even get that promotion you’ve been salivating over.

Ariana is a writer and world traveler. Her writing covers her three main passions: women’s empowerment, travel, and culture. The beauty of the world is not just in scenic mountain views or turquoise waters; it’s in doing the thing that gets you out of bed in the morning. For Ariana, that thing is stringing words together.

Reader Discussion: 19 Comments

  1. Sasha Smith

    A man’s act of violence against a woman may result from his individual psychological problems, sexual frustration, childhood abuse, unbearable life pressures, drug or alcohol abuse, or an innate urge for aggression. All these factors may contribute to the dynamics of violence. But these “reasons”, often given to explain or even justify violent actions, oversimplify a complex reality: that violence against women is about power and control.
    The sad reality is, anyone can hurt us. We just need to LEARN to FIGHT and DEFEND ourselves in the right way.

  2. Catherine Gashegu

    Change of “normalized concepts of inequality between men and women” as a way of eliminating violence AND increasing women empowerment as well. Absolutely spot on!
    Must admit sometimes though, that we women are willingly still stuck in male dominance whether we are empowered or not. We still have a lot of work to do on ourselves to break that cultural imprint.

  3. It’s great that you ended this article with an actionable way that Urbanette readers can help. I wish more blogs were like this! I’m so sick of the same-old consumerist garbage!

  4. Sibel Jenkinson

    Violence?! Yes, I’m a victim!

    No, not physical, but emotional and psychological. I’m strong willed and powerfully say what I want and need to. My opinion is, if we want to end this violence, then we need to change social and global norms. As long as communities share the expectation that men have the right and superiority over women, then violence is a never ending problem…

  5. From child marriage to sexual harassment to objectification, it is obvious that women violence happens everywhere — across the globe. An alarming truth is that millions of girls and women’s lives are devastated. It is both a cause and a consequence of the “social norm” that women are “less” than men.

    More powerful articles like this are needed! Thanks for writing!

  6. Jae Medina

    I appreciate your writing! Women are violated not just sexually, but emotionally and psychologically 🙁 Your article reminded me of my favorite quote from the book “Debbie” written by Sierra Waters.

    “He told me that if I hung up, he’d do it. He would commit suicide. He told me that if I called the cops he would kill every single one of them and I knew that he had the potential and the means to do it.”

  7. Roberta Bennett

    Even in this modern age, where progress is being enjoyed and experienced, women are “still” being silenced and punished for trying to claim power, voice and rights to be involved and participate.

    Great article, BTW

  8. Melissa Princeton

    An extreme piece on the topic! A sad truth is that VIOLENCE don’t have a race, nationality or religion BUT always have a gender…

  9. Julia MacLean

    The most intellectual writing on the topic! You’re the best, Urbanette!

  10. Grace Stirling

    Violence against women continues to be a global pandemic. By the way, this is the best thing I have read in a long time. You are so clever. Your perspective and advice is so helpful and appreciated. Thank you for sharing your heart and wisdom with the world.

    • Angela Freeman

      I agree that this has become a global pandemic. Sometimes, I can’t help but ask, “Why is there so much violence in our world?”

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