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Slut Shaming & Porn Stars

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Whores, tarts, hags, strumpets and mistresses are all names from the Victorian era, given to female aberrations. This is not the bad girl who after a few beers on a Friday has wild sex with a stranger then swiftly back to routine by Monday morning. No, I am directing you to those who loiter at the outer reaches of society. The women who we love to hate; who are lost in a chasm; in no (wo)man’s land!
Slut Shaming & Porn StarsThe fear is that once a woman has moved outside of society’s acceptable boundaries, she isn’t allowed back in. To the patriarchal world, these women and ‘sex’ are synonymous — but not in an acceptable way. Take the fear, when we were growing up, of being seen as a slut for sleeping with a guy too soon; the worry that he would judge us and think we weren’t worth the second phone call. If it got out about our promiscuity, socially, we might as well be dead.

At thirteen years old, I remember feeling suicidal from shame after one night of fornication in a fishing tent. The boy was fifteen, confident, and with his friend. They bantered whilst smoking cigarettes as my friend, Angela, and I tried to appear cool. The guy who she fancied suddenly started kissing me. I didn’t enjoy it but I didn’t have the guts to say no. His hands darted down there. I shoved him off and ran all the way home, leaving a scowling Angela behind. It was only a few days before the whispering began. I was suddenly branded Angela’s slutty ex-friend. And while I was tortured, the boy who caused me so much shame gloated, happily.

This level of degradation should never be accepted.

Slut Shaming & Porn StarsThroughout history, the bad girl has been portrayed as a depraved outsider. No matter what people say in public about how they think porn isn’t a big deal, I bet I’m right when I say that they likely find those exact porn stars just too much too bear. They are, after all, conformation of absolute misogyny. Sex on camera per se is not problematic, but the dominant (violently misogynistic) form of porn is. Any movement, no matter how purportedly ‘liberating’, that portrays men as dominant is hardly radical.

If we look around, we can see how society has arranged itself around men’s wants. The sex industry fulfills the whore narrative and lets the wives and girlfriends remain chaste. Although these ‘chaste’ wives and girlfriends are now being encouraged to act like the whore — or risk him having love affairs with porn under the banner of male entitlement.

Slut Shaming & Porn StarsTake Charlie Sheen’s porn star ex, Bree Olson, and her recent confessions via YouTube. In the video, which went viral, Olson bemoans ‘society’ and its lack of acceptance of her past work, and in particular her troubles when trying to forge a mainstream career. Bree is quick to add that there’s nothing wrong with porn. She’s just frustrated by how people will treat her for the rest of her life.

The porn star is ripe for public revulsion. Their sexuality is imprisoned by men, labelled forever as both desirous and disgusting. Many women, like Bree, entered the industry thinking that they were embracing their sexuality, but it merely emerged as a trick that’s restricted her options forever. Although this is sad for her, and other women in this situation, the truth is that what they represent is deeply oppressive.

Ask any female porn star and they swear they’re empowered every-time, with mentions of $20k monthly paychecks, but that’s the only thing they do get. Money comes and goes but their degradation is crystallised. This should never be accepted.

Slut Shaming & Porn StarsAs young women, we quickly learn that our value is in our sexual offerings, and our search for validation is set up to align with this. The industry works in synergy with these preconceptions, with promises of adoration and money for the starlet. Little do they know that this bonus was collateral damage for future ostracizing. At the grand age of 29, Bree has had to return to sex-cam work, with the hope of crossing over into ‘the movies’ one day. Due to her big profile, this is all but impossible, despite having amassed six years worth of filmed footage. She sums up her experience: ‘The words (on the internet) are something I didn’t expect to affect me in my everyday life. When I go out, I feel as if I’m wearing ‘slut’ across my forehead.’

The saturation of porn has laid ground for multitudes of instances where people are living in regret — as more are entering the sex industry than ever before. When Bree Olson bewails society, she should really turn her rage to the industry that normalized her downfall.

Vikki Dark is a British writer and academic whose oeuvre spans erotica, biography and transgressive fiction. Her latest book, about an adult film star, focuses on contemporary feminism relevant to cyber culture and sex.

61 Comments

  1. Thank you for continuing to speak up about the harms of the porn industry! It’s very important that everyone regularly learns about, thinks about, and discusses this important issue, and particularly how it affects women and girls. It’s also very important that young women who are pressured by their partners, women’s magazines, pop culture and others to emulate porn performers sexually and in their appearance, think about what they’re doing and hopefully decide not to do so. Most importantly, though, it’s vital that young women who are considering entering the porn industry become informed about the very serious long-term negative consequences of doing so.

    Keep up the great work, Vikki! 🙂

  2. Slut shaming women is the no. one cause for under-reported rapes. It’s about time that society steps out of this patriarchal circle that was created centuries ago.

    • Its quite complex. Slut shaming derives from archaic religious control mechanisms. It posits female sexuality as dangerous and consequently shapes it as forbidden and therefore exciting. In the contemporary age slut shaming holds fresh meaning. Where once it was a deterrent against women initiating courtship, it now acts as a euphemism for excusing extreme pornographic replication. Never should we slut shame women, but we should not be dictated by masculine discourse either. Our sexuality should not be governed by expectation founded by sociopathic porn producers.

  3. Monica Collins

    How about we “slut shame” the boys, as well as the girls? Instead of saying that girls could behave in any way they want – the same as boys, why don’t we try and get better behaviour (and dress codes) out of girls AND boys. I, for one, object to having men’s buttocks staring at me. And their underpants. Not much into girls’ bosoms staring at me either.

  4. Bethany Miles

    I don’t agree with slut-shaming, but I think we should discourage promiscuity in both men and women. Sure, you have the right to sleep with how ever many people you want, but if everyone sleeps around indiscriminately the percentage of unwanted pregnancies and the risk of catching sexually transmitted diseases would increase, creating a huge burden for society. It’s wrong to shame people for their sex lives, because obviously that their prerogative, but children should be educated about the very real consequences of a promiscuous lifestyle and be encouraged to take sex seriously and not see it as a plaything.

  5. Ariana Rhyder

    Thank you so much for this article. I have been saying that for a long time and nice to hear it coming from someone else.Women are never “asking for it”, NEVER! How dare people say that, and to hear it coming from other women is the most disgusting thing in the world. If a woman wants to dress in “skimpy” clothes, heels, hair done or whatever it may be, it is her choice! Any woman can do what she wants, if you wanna sleep around – go for it, wanna have a one night stand – go for it! I am a woman and yes I like to dress up, I wear heels everyday, I do my makeup everyday, my outfits looks amazing and I am always looking done up. I have faced slut shaming from so many girls who judge me before even talking to me and what I want to say to them is GET A HOBBY or something other then talking shit about other girls. When I get called a slut, a whore, or anything else I just cant help but laugh at those PATHETIC GIRLS.

    • The majority of women are equally subject to the patriarchal sex paradox of encourage and shame. It’s part of the wider control mechanism. Many women act parasitical, vying for the attention of men and hating on each other. It’s not their/our fault. We’ve been conditioned to believe our value is gauged by how men see us. They seized the means of control, both materialistically and ideologically.

  6. Charleen Washington

    People will always have preconceived notions of who you are based on your appearance and your actions. Especially if you are female. It’s always been true, both men and women contribute to it and I ask you to show me one person who doesn’t think that way. People will always use appearance as their first line of judgement because that’s what animals do. But armed with the knowledge of how society will react to one’s specific actions, they can’t be surprised when there’s backlash as a result of their actions. Obviously no one has the right to touch another human being without their consent, and I am in no way implying that anyone is “asking” for anything.

  7. Jane Troper

    Women should not have to adjust their behaviour to be complacent with men’s expectations and they should not have to . That is not respect, that is not moving forward. A few decades ago, a white person and a black person couldn’t use the same drinking fountain. That was the world they lived in; just like this current world is the world that women live in. Unfortunately for women, we live in a world where we have to be careful where we go, what we do and how we dress because we’re women. It wasn’t all that long ago we weren’t even allowed to vote. Just because it’s crappy and difficult to change doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t try to change it.

  8. Winona Miller

    I want a world where people care and care enough to take personal responsibility. It’s true you can’t control outside forces, but that doesn’t mean you should numb yourself to outside influences. For both men and women. In the end, the question everyone needs to ask themselves is ‘but does that make it right?’

    Depending on the person you are, it will give you a different answer, but the deeper you delve, the more you realise it’s through your own differences, your own personal responsibility, your own choices that make you unique to who you are while we’re alive.

    People often don’t think about things for the right reasons, but I know that giving everyone special treatment, or ‘self-entitled freedoms’ only means that people will take it for granted down the line. So what does it truly fix? If people want respect, it’s through constant effort and the will to live. And it’s through caring that shows how worthy you are and how strong your will is to live.

  9. Ingrid Winston

    This has got to be one of the best articles I’ve read on Urbanette. Thank you Vikki. This was a fantastic article and sums up everything I think every time I see a slut-shaming post, comment, or article.

  10. Shelley Donalds

    It’s time to stop slut shaming women. Unless we are going to slut shame men too. It does not make sense at all!! And it men want to lay around with any woman, the how the hell can they slut shame women?

  11. Christina Norelli

    Name calling is childish and it’s demenaing to the person who does the name calling as well.. So fed up hearing women calling each other derogatory names as bitch, slut, or any other demeaning name. It’s just wrong. And I won’t watch a show that calls women these names. Too many tv shows and movies that perpetuate it. Grow up and realize you are being one if you call someone a name just to try and make yourself feel better and make them look bad. It’s disgusting. I had a friend that called another of my firends a bitch and I unfriended her in person. It doesn’t fly with me. Just don’t tolerate it from anyone, period!

  12. Lena Dzeko

    Things slut shamers really need to understand:

    We do not give a single ef whether they respect us or not. The point is not to gain their respect. The point is to dismantle a system that justifies and encourages violence against women by policing and denouncing female sexuality.

    Strangers can and do have sex with each other. if you don’t like that idea, then don’t have sex with strangers. MORALITY IS SUBJECTIVE.

    Sex life has nothing to do with how much self respect women have. Except maybe that as the self esteem grows, they are more comfortable doing pretty much anything sexually. Even if they had no self respect at all, THAT’S NOT THEIR EFFING BUSINESS.

    The amount of respect someone has for themselves should not impact whether you respect them or not. They need to think about that for a second.

  13. Pearl Nguyen

    I’ve always been of the conviction that no person should be told what their sex life should be like. Having more then one partner is just as valid as having one, and nobody should be obliged to be married. As far as I can tell these are all shamed because of social traditions that exist for the sake of tradition, and dare I say traditions that are in place thanks to the patriarchy?

    I am all for the elimination of slut-shaming, as far as sexuality goes people really need to learn to mind their own business. Sex can be a beautiful thing it does not need to be treated with such scorn.

    • Elin Hanks

      I absolutely agree! I think the world would be a much better place if people could simply learn to NOT CARE what others do privately. So many problems would be averted if people could just learn to mind their own business once in a while.

  14. Emma Blackwood

    We live in a double-standard society. Men can be called sluts, whores, etc and be praised because it shows off their masculinity. Yet, for women, it is just the opposite. Slut has such a negative connotation when it refers to women but positive for men. Its sad to live in a world that has such double standards but i think what its worse is that women, themselves, are enforcing these double standards. 99% of the time women are the ones referring to each other as sluts in a negative way. In order for things to change, women have to make the first move by removing the the negative connotations with the word slut.

  15. Delilah Peyton

    I I think everyone has a right to express their sexuality, but no one has a right to label someone’s actions. I agree with the article about this being a double standard. For women it’s a negative thing. Yet women are the ones who seem to use this type of language on each other even when the other isn’t even showcasing their sexuality. it’s become a word simply used to degrade another woman just simply because she’s prettier or attracts more guys.

  16. Kimberley Foulkes

    I definitely agree with the article. he real question I’d like to ask here is “why?” Why does our culture and the society, in which this “slut-shaming” aroused from, seemingly seek to look down upon women as inferior, while the men become the forces of dominance day by day? This “slut-shaming” terminology does absolutely nothing but inflict further damage upon the conscious of women. It’s highly controversial yet hypocritical that when a woman’s sexuality (regardless of her race, class, and or ethnicity) is looked down on as slutty or whoreish, while male sexual encounters are consistently praised and rewarding with terms such as player, playboy, pimp, etc.. Women and men are equally given the right to make their own choices in life. I mean who we are and how we are defined as are ultimately based upon the choices we make, right? With this in mind, I ask you, who are we to berate and shame people for the choices that they make, especially women? Are we not the socially immoral ones here?

  17. Kaitlyn Barrett

    It has different effects on men and women when called a slut. When a man is called slut, there seems to be a sense of pride and joy when heard. When a women is labeled a slut, it’s more palpable and more damaging; almost as if it’s leaving a scar for others to see. I don’t understand the need to be labeled for the pleasure of sex. It’s the 21st century, the choice is personal and private.

  18. Sibel Jenkinson

    With existence of insults such as “slut”, it came up to me that since this derogatory term and practice had existed along our culture and society. Its up to us whether were going to be affected by such name calling.

  19. Shannon Bradley

    Iit saddens me that that women being the victim of slut-shaming and within their same like are also perpetrators of slut shaming. That couldnt get it around their minds that the term Slut shouldnt be used to castigate or even shame women. What ever she did. Such act causes women to shut themselves from further development, experience and expansion. They would fear of doing lots of things that can further enhance their individualities.

  20. Andrea Mitchell

    Thank you for putting this issue so eloquently. I’ve used the term ‘slut’ in the past to describe males in an effort to demonstrate how disempowering and derogatory it is. You’ve brought to my attention that it’s not necessarily as effective because the context is entirely different for a male being called a slut than it is for a female being called a slut.

  21. Lana Urie

    Slut shaming is sad and unnecessary. I remember when I was at coed boarding school a girl was found in a boy’s study at night. After we were all told by our teachers what a complete slut she was, she was expelled and made to walk out of the school to the waiting taxi in front of the whole school. Not one person said a thing as she held her head up high and got into the taxi, but if you could read our thoughts at that moment it was if all 250 of us were one. I never forgot that.

  22. Pamela Sanabria

    The people that think slut shaming is a bad thing are usually the sluts themselves. Defense mechanism in action. [sarcasm] Oh and obviously it only applies to women. Cause men are *supposed* to spread their seed, so apparently no such thing as male sluts. [/sarcasm] ??????

  23. Debbie Jones

    Slut shaming IS a good thing in most peoples’ eyes. And that’s the problem, when in reality it is a bad thing because it’s usually motivated by hate, envy, self-righteousness, competitiveness or dogma. People shouldn’t disrespect the joy and success other people get up to unless they harm someone.

  24. Lin Del Rey

    hat could possibly be good about foisting shame on someone because they don’t meet some arbitrary moral standards? Condemning other lifestyles has always been risky business because it creates a greater separation among people, instead of bringing them together. Shaming is hurtful, arrogant, and unacceptable adult behavior. Nobody has the right to do it.

  25. Slut shaming is not something that should be going on in modern times at all. Very few people would shame a boy for the same behavior that would supposedly bring so much shame onto a girl. It’s a ridiculous double standard and there is no valid reason for it. There is nothing wrong with having sex if it’s safe.

  26. Sonja Fallow

    Of course it’s okay to have your own personal opinions on sex, but these should not be an excuse for making others feel like crap. Sex is not always a sacred thing. Its the 21st century! Sex can just be for fun and having sexual freedom does not mean that an individual doesn’t respect themselves! Slut shaming is merely a form of social control, used by those who are scared of people (often women) expressing a healthy, sexual desire. Also I see that a lot of people using the spread of STD’s and unwanted pregnancies as an excuse. Newsflash!! Contraception can be used! Yes they don’t work 100% of the time, but they definitely decrease the likelihood of these things occurring. Two adults having consensual sex is not a bad thing.

  27. Dana Rosatti

    Slut-shamming is outdated. Centuries ago, promiscuity caused overpopulation and std’s which caused people to starve and suffer. It would make sense for that society to repress sexuality. Now in this day in age where we have condoms, birth control and technological advances to prevent std’s, people should now be allowed to express their sexuality as long as it does not harm anyone.

  28. So true!!!! If slutshaming was about decency and self respect wouldn’t it be equally common amongst men and women? If it is merely criticism then why are people calling victims of rape sluts who were asking for it?

  29. Colleen Frasier

    Well, let’s see.. What could possibly be wrong with labelling someone and making them feel small?? (hint the sarcasm). Slut is mainly aimed at women… It is WRONG, sexist and shouldn’t be used AT ALL. Since when does somebody else’s sex life effect us in the slightest ?

  30. Emily Wentz

    I don’t see why people do it. It just causes hate and evil in this world. Like evil spelt backwards is live… And thats what we need to do. ?

  31. Anna Kaplan

    Let people do what they want. Simple as that. Alas, it is the 21st century and if I want to have sex with 7 guys in two days, I will. It is nobody’s religious duty to call me a whore because they think it is disgusting. It is, however disrespectful. So instead of shoving their beliefs on someone and just straight up being rude, they need to learn to respect other people’s choices.

  32. Frances Seifert

    Men get sexually frustrated- THEY THINK WOMEN CANT?! “I’m waiting till marriage because I’m not a slut” “we had sex but now I feel like a slut” WHY BECA– USE YOU HAD SEX? Why are we shaming sex? Slut shaming only does more harm than good. Instead Society should teach men and women self awareness, healthy sexual habits, fact based sex ED, and that SEX IS NOT ALL CASUAL AND FUN- you can get pregnant!!! These are some of the most important issues that society should really be stressing on, not condemning women- but providing them more knowledge, more wisdom, more REAL LIFE IMPLICATIONS. Not “if you have casual sex then your a whore!”

  33. Monica CONOVER

    People can slut shame as much as they want, and guess what- problem not solved. It didn’t work on males, they think females are going to not sleep around? Not dress how they want? Not go wild? Hook up ect ect ?. Nope, they’re still doing it. Just like men, except men don’t feel the need to hide it. What’s the purpose of slut shaming? To restrict females from access and limit their freedom?

  34. Sydney Nowak

    Slut-shaming is not right as it is a clear way of disrespecting women’s choices. If a women wishes to be a particular way, we have no right whatsoever to belittle her and disrespect her self-made decisions. That said, there is a part of our society, both younger and older generations, who are badly affected by certain acts or images of those people. In the long term, they might make decisions they’ll come to regret. So, maintenance of proper conscience is a must. At the end of it all, if we can respect ourselves and our decisions, we’ll stop shaming others. Dignity in life is the key to self-discipline. Women who have chosen such a lifestyle have chosen it by choice. We should not question their dignity but accept them as they are. It’s our own mentality that requires moralising.

  35. Franny Pimms

    You could prove male porn consumer’s hatred of the women whose prostitution they get off to just by analyzing the comments you see all over the internet: “Porn business is bad for women and they suffer and are violated but it turns me on, HUZZAH!”

    I bet it’s even worse on free porn sites. Once I read a comment saying that a clip depicted something “almost like rape” (paraphrasing) because of the legal grey zone when it comes to the “casting” of porn performers (no standards for the employment procedure). Rape obviously made it totally sexy… How psychotic is that?!

  36. Danielle Wilson

    Pornstars get shamed for carrying out the most natural human function in public yet soldiers, bankers, and lawyers are regarded as heroes and accomplished individuals for breaking some of the most simple rules, lying/stealing/killing. People who think less of someone because they’ve done porn are people I have no interest in knowing.

  37. Hello, Vikki. Big fan of your articles and Tweets. I admire you for standing up for what you believe, and you have my complete support. I recently saw a documentary called “After Porn Ends”. Just wondering, if you’ve seen it. If you haven’t you definitely should. It was very heartbreaking.

  38. Samantha Anthony

    The porn performers I have met are not ashamed of what they do. Not everyone finds sex shameful.

    Many people in the world sometimes get criticism from others for the things they do. Porn performers, gays, lesbians, asexual people, people in interracial relationships, people who are non-monogamous, you name it–anyone who does anything unusual in their sexual or romantic lives will sometimes be criticized. Human beings are often narrow-minded, judgmental bigots. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t live your life the way you want to–it just means you shouldn’t hang out with bigots.

  39. Joni Cisneros

    You have made some very strong points here, and I do agree with most of them. I’ve seen a lot of girls shaming other girls in a lot of ways. Can we please stop calling others a slut, whore or bitch. The rule in our house is that we don’t ever call a girl or woman a slut, because it’s a code word for a double standard that punishes girls and rewards boys for the exact same behavior. Degrading a society means degrading women and degrading women means degrading a society.

  40. No matter where you are in the world, women are constantly being objectified. Even though here, in America, women are supposedly to be seen as “equal” to their male counterparts, it is nowhere near true. In other countries that are less developed, the situation is even worse. What qualifies as the perfect woman? Why does this scene force people to think of a 5’10 model weighing in to be less than 110 pounds with perfect skin and hair? Why is she always ready to conquer the world, yet not allowed to perform masculine duties as simple as changing a tire or understanding sports? Why is it acceptable for women to wear men’s clothes, yet seen as blasphemy when a man chooses to dress as a women? Why are women constantly looked down upon, when they are just as powerful and capable as men?

    Today’s society is one of the major culprits in this situation.

  41. Celine Carter

    You have made some very strong points here, and I do agree with most of them. We live in a world were guys do have power no matter how much we try to stop them, because not all women in the world are aware like we are. Unfortunately men misuse this, a whole lot.

  42. Catherine White

    Thank you for bringing this up Vikki. This “slut shaming” issue really bothers me, and I have some things to say about it…

    First off, slut shaming only belittles and insults people for things that aren’t even anybody’s business. It isn’t our place to critique, insult and/or abuse a woman based on her clothing, appearance, sexual interactions, or sexual interactions she’s RUMORED of or really having. Slut shaming is, in of its self, just a category of insults directed towards women. There is nothing positive about it. All it does is cause pain. Need I remind you of Amanda Todd? Phoebe Prince? Felicia Garcia? Sarah Lynn Butler? They killed themselves BECA– USE THEY WERE SLUT SHAMED RELENTLESSLY. It saddens me that the majority of people in our day say it’s a good thing.

    Slut Shaming KILLS!!!!

  43. Lela House

    No matter where we are in the world, women are constantly being objectified. 🙁

  44. Olivia Peterson

    It’s none of anybody’s business! Who a woman sleeps with is none of others’ business. How many people a woman sleeps with is none of the society’s business. Whether her sexual activities with someone was for love or simply for pleasure is none of anybody’s business. Nobody has the right in calling a woman a slut or shaming her for her decisions. Her sex life does not affect anybody in any way. Not to mention slut shaming could lead to suicide, depression, it could cause woman and young girls to have low self esteem, and could ruin her life.

  45. Lynn Hayes

    Slut shaming is pointless. It is so because as one or many others may have stated it doesn’t stop anything from happening it only hurts peoples feelings in doing so. Sex is a natural thing. Animals do it. humans do it. It is a part of existence. Just because one likes to have sex they should not be put down into a category which suggests they are not worth as much as someone who doesn’t or who values sex differently. Slut shaming seems to just be a revolting excuse to make someone feel bad about themselves and it is. Why is it that guys are pretty much praised for such but when a woman does so she is degraded. In my opinion slut shaming is just another way to make someone feel less of an equal. We were born to frig and have babies. Sleeping around doesn’t promote std’s not using protection promotes std’s. And sleeping around doesn’t break up families. It is the act of breaking a commitment that does so.

  46. Doris Tate

    I believe slut shaming is wrong. The biggest reason is because I believe it leads to rape justification. Slut-shaming is bad for two reasons: it fosters a terrible double standard and it attaches shame to a basic human activity. In my personal opinion, dressing immodestly is not asking to be raped. No girl deserves that kind of treatment — especially not a 13 year old girl.

  47. Betty O'Leary

    Slut shaming goes way beyond name calling. It’s a social attitude that comes in many forms, but it’s important to, well, not give a shit what they think. Move on with your life and they will move on with their miserable life.

  48. Hazel Collins

    Slut-shaming is bad. I hate that she has had to go through so much discrimination, but I commend her for how amazingly she’s handled it. “Slut” is a horribly obnoxious word that I hope gets re-framed in a positive light. Trafficking of women and girls for the purpose of commercial sexual exploitation is a pervasive form of violence against women. Every women has the same rights as every man with respect to express her sexuality in other ways.

  49. Cheryl

    It is grossly unfair that a huge majority of men view porn, of the abusive and violent type, but it is the object of their lust who should be silenced and shamed.

    Thank you, Vikki, for helping me understand how the shaming of filmed prostitutes works to keep male behavior permissable and their continued access to women’s bodies at their will.

    Exited survivors deserve their lives back.

  50. Okay, I’d like to admit that I have this belief that every woman in porn was put there against own free will. Being a woman, I’m honestly frightened to imagine that a woman would actually want other people watch her have sex…

    • Well, I don’t think so… I’ve read this Huffington Post interview with “Stoya,” a 28-year-old porn star and author and I quote: I was a personal assistant for a guerrilla marketer in Philadelphia at the time. And in my free time I would go and people would pay me to take pictures of me.”

      Things organically evolved from her decision to do erotic photoshoots. Yes, she found dark sides of the industry, but she still chose to work in it.

  51. I’m not a pessimist and I hate to admit it, but society will never be fair! Will we achieve fairness?! I don’t know.

    It’s a fact that porn is a booming industry, grossing billions of dollars a year. According to research, 70% of men admit watching porn on a regular basis (and almost a third of women watch porn every week). The sad truth is, women in porn are viewed with contempt and labeled as “sluts” BUT men in porn are viewed as champions or heroes.

    • Francis Woods

      I know right!!! FAIRNESS is hard and almost impossible to achieve!!! And I think, in the porn industry it will always be SLUT vs. HEROES!!!

      I don’t know but it’s really hard to think that there will be positive changes… *sigh*

  52. Brittni Ruiz

    I was part of the porn industry. It was torture for seven years. I was miserable, I was lonely, I eventually turned to drugs and alcohol and attempted suicide. I knew I wanted out, but I didn’t know how to get out.

    Luckily, I met someone who inspired me to get out. And yes, I successfully got out!

  53. I’d have to agree with you, Vikki that women who works in porn are blinded by temporary empowerment and money, disregarding the fact that this “career” will forever degrade them…

    I personally know some women who worked and left the porn industry. From my conversations with them, I can conclude that these women are numb to real life and are like “zombies” walking around. They shared some abuse they experienced and I found them completely ridiculous. Sadly, they are treated in a “brainwashing” way.

  54. Society in general thinks that porn is a harmless entertainment and view porn stars as “goddesses” — as they are marketed to be. You have written such an inspiring article, Vikki!

    However, regardless of countless personal accounts explaining and exposing the dark reality of porn industry, many still believe the “fantasy” that porn industry is working hard to maintain.

    “Porn hurts nobody” (this I often hear from porn consumers) but in fact, it always have violence, drugs, abuse, and disease.

    You’re right that if a female porn-star is asked, she’ll respond that she’s empowered, only to realize later on that she doesn’t have money but forever degraded…

  55. “Once a woman has moved outside of society’s acceptable boundaries, she isn’t allowed back in.”

    True! It seems that women has no right to experiment and learn from experience.

    I feel terrible that at an early age of 13, you had that “horrible” story. Thanks for sharing! Honestly, if I were on your shoes, I’ll never have the guts to write about it. I admire your courage!

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