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My Adventures in Speed Dating

Three personas, three events. The experiment begins.


Here’s how it works: When you enter the venue you are given a paper that has 25 blank lines and one ‘Yes’ and one ‘No’ box next to each. You are also given a name tag with your name and your assigned number. When the dating begins you sit down and either stay sitting or move from table to table (follow the numbers on the tables). After each ‘date’ you record the person’s assigned number on one of the blank lines and tick either ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ (to signify whether you’d like to exchange emails). There is one break (like an intermission) half way through for drinks or the washroom.

My Adventures in Speed Dating

Pretty much all of the services gave the same stats as far as average success rates go: About 80% of people have at least one match. The average person checks six YES boxes (for people they would like to see again.) Of that six, about three match up, with the other person also checking YES.

My Adventures in Speed Dating

Here’s a quick summary of the pros and cons of speed dating:


  • If you don’t have a way to meet potential dates, this is a great way to get a very quick overview of 20 or so people who are also looking for a relationship.
  • You can ask pretty much whatever you want right away. If you don’t like the answers, you don’t have to waste any more time talking to the person.
  • In comparison, with Internet dating a person’s whole identity (not to mention their sex!) could be completely false or fabricated. With speed dating at least you pretty much know that their motives are sincere (not to mention that yes, they are in fact male or female.)


  • It can be superficial, as the way someone looks and dresses is a big part of what you’ll have to go on since you’re not going to get an idea of the person’s morals or character in a few minutes of small talk.
  • You (or they) may check ‘No’ to the nicest person there, as a good talker and dresser would have more success at these events than someone who may be a bit shy but has integrity.

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Sarah enlightens us on a daily basis with the newest trends as (and often before) they transpire. She is the consummate globe trotter. Having traveled to over 70 countries, she earns her living writing, blogging and modeling while on the road. In her spare time she gets manicures, suntans on yachts in Greece, shops for even more shoes, and lives in the limelight. She loves photography, elephants, sailboats, bangles and ballet flats.

Reader Discussion: 101 Comments

  1. Cindy Hulsey

    I used dating agencies in the past. The worst thing I have ever done. All I can say is, I’ve regretted ever since and never again. Unfortunately, I am not particularly good looking and hate mirrors.

  2. Connie Collier

    So what if every guy will be asking hypothetical questions?? I’m going speed dating next week for the very first time. And I am having the awkward feeling that I am just going to simply crash and burn, LOL. perhaps I can use these tips to my advantage.

  3. David Terry

    The problem with me is I am not a picky man, I got rejected more than 50% of the time. And when I look around in the city, I see girls hanging around with muscular, dark-skinned guys. Men that are little less good-looking are outdone apparently.

  4. Ora Lambert

    As a still single, busy Mom with a hectic lifestyle, I actually like the concept of speed dating. Being able to go on several mini dates in one evening. Let’s face it dating is exhausting, so if I can meer an array of men in one night, I’m all for it! šŸ˜‰

  5. I love meeting new people and although I wasn’t in the market to find anyone I can definitely see its appeal. I met 20 lovely and very different guys and it’s something I’ve never done ticked off my bucket list. If you’re feeling shy about it, I’d advise going with the girls as I did, that way it’s a fun night out to share together.

  6. People who go on speed dating always question: How much you can find out from a person in 4 minutes?, but I beg to differ. I like to believe I’m a good judge of character and I know straight away if there’s vibe there or if they’re a good person. šŸ˜‰

  7. Nancy Garrett

    This sounds great. I always wondered about speed dating and how that experience would pan out. It always reminds me of the movie, The 40 year old Virgin meeting all these different kind of people, and having that experience give you a lot of writing material.

  8. Alice Wood

    So why did I decide to sign up for speed dating? I had a few reasons actually, the first was curiosity after reading your article. You really never know what might happen when you are meeting 10 new people over the course of an hour. The second reason was that I have never tried it and I want to experience a bit of everything this year (Hilary should add this to her bucket list article!). The third reason was that part of me hoped that I might make another friend or two with similar interests. In case I don’t meet the man of my dreams at this type of an event, that doesn’t mean that I won’t find new people to hang out with in town. My last reason was because I want an excuse to get dressed up and finally have a date! So I signed up and wanted to thank you and encourage others to do the same! šŸ˜†

  9. Rita Taylor

    Meeting someone for the first time and making a good first impression can seem challenging at the best of times. Human being can be very judgemental, judging each other’s appearances, career choices, financial status, social graces, intelligence,humour,- the list goes on and on. Be open minded. šŸ˜‰

    • So true! But it’s important not to worry about their judgement. It’s about them, not you. Remember that! šŸ’–

  10. Charlene George

    Remember to dress up. Yes, speed dating is a group event but it doesn’t mean that it’s not an actual date. Your clothes should make you feel like you’re the hottest person in the singles market because if you are wearing something that makes you feel attractive, you will naturally exude confidence. Others will recognize it and will find your confidence attractive.

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