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My Adventures in Speed Dating

Three personas, three events. The experiment begins.


My Adventures in Speed Dating

Speed Dating: Professional Chef Persona

Speed Dating Event #2: Professional Chef

The Event: Simple Date – age category 28-38

The Persona: Professional Chef


Not much preparation needed for this one. Fairly natural makeup and hair down but straight (basically wash and go.) I wore my Diesel jeans and a plain fitted white collared shirt that was cropped at the waist. Overtop, I wore a funky Chanel-type blazer. Simple and elegant but with a touch of personality.

The Schtick

“I’m a sous-chef at Truffles. A sous-chef. No – SOUS. I’m an assistant chef. The restaurant at the Four Seasons. I work there on weekends and I work at Canoe for weekday lunches. No, I don’t really have a specialty – I try to mix it up so I keep learning. About eight years if you count training. At the CIA in New York. Culinary Institute of America. No, it’s about three hours by train from Manhattan. Yeah, it’s a lot of fun.”

The Talent

First, I’ll say not great in the looks department, but we’ll keep an open mind anyway. At least most of the guys were from Toronto this time. There were a few out-of-towners (again, why bother, guys?) but on the whole most were from around Eglinton or Sheppard (about 20-30 min from downtown.) Things were going okay, despite the fact that everyone except for one guy (a doctor!) worked in the computer software or finance industry, until the halfway break whistle when everyone stood up I noticed that half of the men I just talked to were about a foot shorter than me!

My Adventures in Speed DatingBelievable?

I didn’t stumble upon any problems until my ‘date’ with a guy who’d managed a restaurant for four years. I bluffed my way through the conversation (yeah, I wish I had a set of Sabatiers, too) and made it through the five minutes unscathed.

The next road bump came when my next ‘date’ just happened to have also attended the last speed dating event I went to (hmmm…) I tried to talk about my flights to London as little as possible for fear that someone would overhear and it would blow my cover. At the end of that endless five minutes, if anyone overheard they didn’t say anything, so I didn’t worry about it.

The last snag hit when I met a fashion editor who just happened to work for a magazine that I had just done a shoot for. And he told me this after I told him I was a professional chef. Yikes! Damage control! I had no choice but to let yet another unsuspecting victim in on my little secret.

The Verdict

Better than the last event but not a great selection in terms of looks or career. Was it worth the $20? Let’s put it this way – if it wouldn’t have been unethical, I would have split at the first break.

Dates: 20

YES responses (from them): 11 / 55%

Interest (from me): Zero – The two guys who seemed like potential date material (the cute blonde guy and the doctor) both lived in the middle of nowhere so the transportation issue arose again.

Results: 9 of the 11 people emailed within the first two days.

Summary: Not bad – especially since the men were older and some may have thought I was too young for them… or maybe I’m just rationalizing about the nine who ticked ‘No’. One thing I didn’t like is that they made the women switch seats after every date instead of the men. In my humble opinion, the men should be the ones moving because the women have purses, skirts, etc. Not to mention that the men could order food because they stayed at one table and the women couldn’t!

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Sarah enlightens us on a daily basis with the newest trends as (and often before) they transpire. She is the consummate globe trotter. Having traveled to over 70 countries, she earns her living writing, blogging and modeling while on the road. In her spare time she gets manicures, suntans on yachts in Greece, shops for even more shoes, and lives in the limelight. She loves photography, elephants, sailboats, bangles and ballet flats.

Reader Discussion: 101 Comments

  1. Cindy Hulsey

    I used dating agencies in the past. The worst thing I have ever done. All I can say is, I’ve regretted ever since and never again. Unfortunately, I am not particularly good looking and hate mirrors.

  2. Connie Collier

    So what if every guy will be asking hypothetical questions?? I’m going speed dating next week for the very first time. And I am having the awkward feeling that I am just going to simply crash and burn, LOL. perhaps I can use these tips to my advantage.

  3. David Terry

    The problem with me is I am not a picky man, I got rejected more than 50% of the time. And when I look around in the city, I see girls hanging around with muscular, dark-skinned guys. Men that are little less good-looking are outdone apparently.

  4. Ora Lambert

    As a still single, busy Mom with a hectic lifestyle, I actually like the concept of speed dating. Being able to go on several mini dates in one evening. Let’s face it dating is exhausting, so if I can meer an array of men in one night, I’m all for it! 😉

  5. I love meeting new people and although I wasn’t in the market to find anyone I can definitely see its appeal. I met 20 lovely and very different guys and it’s something I’ve never done ticked off my bucket list. If you’re feeling shy about it, I’d advise going with the girls as I did, that way it’s a fun night out to share together.

  6. People who go on speed dating always question: How much you can find out from a person in 4 minutes?, but I beg to differ. I like to believe I’m a good judge of character and I know straight away if there’s vibe there or if they’re a good person. 😉

  7. Nancy Garrett

    This sounds great. I always wondered about speed dating and how that experience would pan out. It always reminds me of the movie, The 40 year old Virgin meeting all these different kind of people, and having that experience give you a lot of writing material.

  8. Alice Wood

    So why did I decide to sign up for speed dating? I had a few reasons actually, the first was curiosity after reading your article. You really never know what might happen when you are meeting 10 new people over the course of an hour. The second reason was that I have never tried it and I want to experience a bit of everything this year (Hilary should add this to her bucket list article!). The third reason was that part of me hoped that I might make another friend or two with similar interests. In case I don’t meet the man of my dreams at this type of an event, that doesn’t mean that I won’t find new people to hang out with in town. My last reason was because I want an excuse to get dressed up and finally have a date! So I signed up and wanted to thank you and encourage others to do the same! 😆

  9. Rita Taylor

    Meeting someone for the first time and making a good first impression can seem challenging at the best of times. Human being can be very judgemental, judging each other’s appearances, career choices, financial status, social graces, intelligence,humour,- the list goes on and on. Be open minded. 😉

    • So true! But it’s important not to worry about their judgement. It’s about them, not you. Remember that! 💖

  10. Charlene George

    Remember to dress up. Yes, speed dating is a group event but it doesn’t mean that it’s not an actual date. Your clothes should make you feel like you’re the hottest person in the singles market because if you are wearing something that makes you feel attractive, you will naturally exude confidence. Others will recognize it and will find your confidence attractive.

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