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My Adventures in Speed Dating

Three personas, three events. The experiment begins.


My Adventures in Speed Dating

Speed Dating: Fashion Model Persona

Speed Dating Event #3: International Fashion Model

The Event: 25 Dates – age category 20-27

The Persona: International Fashion Model


First, I expertly applied my makeup, including black eyeliner and a small amount of golden creamy glittery eyeshadow. Next, I flattened my hair with a straightening iron and left it down. Lastly, I slipped on a tight black miniskirt, a black top, a skinny black belt, a black bag and black boots and I’m ready to go.

The Schtick

“Um… I model. Like in commercials and magazines. Uh, yeah. It’s okay… not really something I want to do forever though. Sure – Paris, Milan, Tokyo. I just got back from London. Yeah, it has its perks I guess. Um, maybe the Pepsi commercial I did. It’s on the air right now. What do you do?”

My Adventures in Speed DatingThe Talent

As soon as I walked in I noticed a difference. First, the venue was much nicer than any of the others. Secondly, since it is an upscale restaurant and also because it’s a younger age category I think it attracted different people – guys who weren’t desperate but rather came with friends to check it out, meet people and have fun. There were plenty of good-looking guys with cool jobs, including a firefighter, a cop, a university professor with a doctorate, a business journalist working for a very major newspaper, and the owner of a massage clinic (score!)


Despite the fact that, well, I am a model, a couple of the guys were like “Um, what do you mean ‘Model’? What kind of model?” Humph. I ran into a few snags throughout the night. The first came when two of the people were guys that I had seen at other events (which meant that I had already told them about a different persona – but I couldn’t remember which one!) I managed to keep cool and talk a little more quietly with them. Thankfully, I don’t think anyone overheard me talking about my trips to London as a flight attendant.

The next snag came when a cute guy in a green soccer jersey sat down in front of me and immediately said, “Didn’t you go on a couple of dates with my roommate?” Um, okay. I can handle this. Only problem is that he came with three friends! And I already had my ‘date’ with one of them. Tricky. So I told him the truth. It’s easier that way… keeping track of all these personas was starting to get confusing anyway!

The Verdict

Great event with much better results. If you have it, worth the $45. I had a fun time chatting with people who I felt were much more my peers then the men at the other events. I didn’t get nearly as tired by the end. This came as a surprise to me because I usually enjoy socializing with older people, however the guys at this event seemed to be on the ball with good careers and an optimistic outlook on life.

Dates: 20 plus two I had seen at one of the previous events.

YES responses (from them): 18 / 90%

Interest (from me): I would consider seeing three or four of the guys again. There were certainly quite a few good-looking guys at this event – including a few who also had pretty interesting jobs.

Results: 14 of the 18 people emailed within the first two days.

Summary: Great event and great results – maybe this had something to do with the fact that it was a younger crowd. Also, my fashion model persona was a huge hit (I wonder why?) It’s hard to say why this event was so much better than the others, but if I had to wager on another event, I would go for a younger crowd and choose the venue carefully.

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Sarah enlightens us on a daily basis with the newest trends as (and often before) they transpire. She is the consummate globe trotter. Having traveled to over 70 countries, she earns her living writing, blogging and modeling while on the road. In her spare time she gets manicures, suntans on yachts in Greece, shops for even more shoes, and lives in the limelight. She loves photography, elephants, sailboats, bangles and ballet flats.

Reader Discussion: 101 Comments

  1. Cindy Hulsey

    I used dating agencies in the past. The worst thing I have ever done. All I can say is, I’ve regretted ever since and never again. Unfortunately, I am not particularly good looking and hate mirrors.

  2. Connie Collier

    So what if every guy will be asking hypothetical questions?? I’m going speed dating next week for the very first time. And I am having the awkward feeling that I am just going to simply crash and burn, LOL. perhaps I can use these tips to my advantage.

  3. David Terry

    The problem with me is I am not a picky man, I got rejected more than 50% of the time. And when I look around in the city, I see girls hanging around with muscular, dark-skinned guys. Men that are little less good-looking are outdone apparently.

  4. Ora Lambert

    As a still single, busy Mom with a hectic lifestyle, I actually like the concept of speed dating. Being able to go on several mini dates in one evening. Let’s face it dating is exhausting, so if I can meer an array of men in one night, I’m all for it! 😉

  5. I love meeting new people and although I wasn’t in the market to find anyone I can definitely see its appeal. I met 20 lovely and very different guys and it’s something I’ve never done ticked off my bucket list. If you’re feeling shy about it, I’d advise going with the girls as I did, that way it’s a fun night out to share together.

  6. People who go on speed dating always question: How much you can find out from a person in 4 minutes?, but I beg to differ. I like to believe I’m a good judge of character and I know straight away if there’s vibe there or if they’re a good person. 😉

  7. Nancy Garrett

    This sounds great. I always wondered about speed dating and how that experience would pan out. It always reminds me of the movie, The 40 year old Virgin meeting all these different kind of people, and having that experience give you a lot of writing material.

  8. Alice Wood

    So why did I decide to sign up for speed dating? I had a few reasons actually, the first was curiosity after reading your article. You really never know what might happen when you are meeting 10 new people over the course of an hour. The second reason was that I have never tried it and I want to experience a bit of everything this year (Hilary should add this to her bucket list article!). The third reason was that part of me hoped that I might make another friend or two with similar interests. In case I don’t meet the man of my dreams at this type of an event, that doesn’t mean that I won’t find new people to hang out with in town. My last reason was because I want an excuse to get dressed up and finally have a date! So I signed up and wanted to thank you and encourage others to do the same! 😆

  9. Rita Taylor

    Meeting someone for the first time and making a good first impression can seem challenging at the best of times. Human being can be very judgemental, judging each other’s appearances, career choices, financial status, social graces, intelligence,humour,- the list goes on and on. Be open minded. 😉

    • So true! But it’s important not to worry about their judgement. It’s about them, not you. Remember that! 💖

  10. Charlene George

    Remember to dress up. Yes, speed dating is a group event but it doesn’t mean that it’s not an actual date. Your clothes should make you feel like you’re the hottest person in the singles market because if you are wearing something that makes you feel attractive, you will naturally exude confidence. Others will recognize it and will find your confidence attractive.

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