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How to Stay Happy and Healthy After a Breakup

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When I caught my last boyfriend cheating on me (with a Hooters waitress, no less!), I was crushed. How could he do this? Doesn’t he value my feelings more than a tawdry fling with some tramp? Clearly not. What a dolt. Anyhow, I soon learned that there’s no sense trying to make sense of crazy. Let crazy be crazy and stay far, far away.

I didn’t come to that conclusion quickly though. After that breakup, I stayed indoors for way too long wondering about my own worth in the eyes of men. What a waste of time. Now, I know that enduring a breakup or divorce can obviously be an incredibly emotional and exasperating time. Whether you’ve parted with a partner of several years or several months, it’s likely you’ve been feeling blue and rather uninspired.

How to Stay Happy and Healthy After a Breakup

Though it can hard to accept that one chapter of your life has come to a close, remember that new and exciting times await you. Take control of your story and reinvent yourself post-breakup by revisiting an old hobby, signing up for a language class, or exploring an extreme sport. Whatever your interests, get out there and celebrate them.

To help embrace your newfound freedom, he’s a list of activities that helped me get back out there and seize the day:

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Originally from Denver and now living in NYC, Angie has been writing since she was small. She lives in the Flatiron district with her partner Tanya and their mutt Sparky (always adopt!) In her spare time she loves to paint (mostly abstract) and talk to random people on the street to find out what's interesting to them.

8 Comments

  1. We all know how bad a breakup can affect each person, almost all of us have been there. Break-ups can be energy draining and depressing, it will waste most of your time since you’ll be crying and whining to your friends about how mean and bad your ex was. You will also find yourself spending too much time on social media stalking your ex, and all the break-up aftermath hullabaloo. But choosing to be happy again and drifting all the negative energy into positive ones, is a different story. Thumbs up on all the advice that you’ve given, will surely help eceryone who’s going through the tough phase of a breakup.

  2. Good advices, all of them. What speaks to me most is the advice to up meditation. I myself am just a newbie, (started it as a part of the yoga class) but I can already feel the positive impact. Those who practice it learn self-awareness and awareness of your surroundings at the same time, and how to switch focus between them and see what’s more important. Useful skills to have in case of any dire situation, painful break-ups included!

  3. Joanne Samonte

    Loving yourself more than anybody else will definitely make you happy! You always need to leave something to yourself!

  4. It's true that breakups can be an opportunity to incorporate something new and awesome into your life. These are great suggestions.

  5. Courtney Watson

    I believe this is where “loving yourself more” comes in. If you love yourself more than you love your partner, then it’s easier for you to mend the broken pieces after a break up 🙂

    But, oh! I’m not suggesting you to be narcissistic, okay?!

  6. Jen Garcia

    It's also important to evaluate how you changed during your relationship and see if these changes are good or bad. People often lose themselves in relationships. Post-breakup will allow you to re-evaluate and re-discover yourself. Great advice, especially about foster parenting pets (which most people don't know about).

  7. I just broke up with someone (his loss) and I really needed this article – good timing! Thanks!

  8. Breakups are hard, but in a way it's a time for you to re-evaluate your life. Going out there and finding new adventures, a place to live, or spending more time on yourself is rewarding and healing. Plus, doing new things opens you to opportunities and living your life to the fullest.

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