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How to Stay Happy and Healthy After a Breakup

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When I caught my last boyfriend cheating on me (with a Hooters waitress, no less!), I was crushed. How could he do this? Doesn’t he value my feelings more than a tawdry fling with some tramp? Clearly not. What a dolt. Anyhow, I soon learned that there’s no sense trying to make sense of crazy. Let crazy be crazy and stay far, far away.

I didn’t come to that conclusion quickly though. After that breakup, I stayed indoors for way too long wondering about my own worth in the eyes of men. What a waste of time. Now, I know that enduring a breakup or divorce can obviously be an incredibly emotional and exasperating time. Whether you’ve parted with a partner of several years or several months, it’s likely you’ve been feeling blue and rather uninspired.

How to Stay Happy and Healthy After a Breakup

Though it can hard to accept that one chapter of your life has come to a close, remember that new and exciting times await you. Take control of your story and reinvent yourself post-breakup by revisiting an old hobby, signing up for a language class, or exploring an extreme sport. Whatever your interests, get out there and celebrate them.

To help embrace your newfound freedom, he’s a list of activities that helped me get back out there and seize the day:

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Originally from Denver and now living in NYC, Angie has been writing since she was small. She lives in the Flatiron district with her partner Tanya and their mutt Sparky (always adopt!) In her spare time she loves to paint (mostly abstract) and talk to random people on the street to find out what's interesting to them.

38 Comments

  1. Jeweli Prater

    Yay! Now I’m booking a trip going to South Korea! Let’s go far away from here. Lol.

  2. Lancy Stanford

    Oh, really? Where can I enroll for a Yoga class? I definitely want to try that one! I gained too much for stress eating.

  3. Just accept the fact that you’re not for each other. It will help you to live a happy life after your break up. Acceptance is the key to moving on.

  4. Marina Josef

    Whoa! I like the idea of gardening. I love flowers, gardening is my stress reliever. You guys should try this one. It’s really helpful.

  5. Luthi Sanders

    Thanks, Urbanette! Can you give me some tips about where to buy or adopt a puppy here in NJ?

  6. Marina Bozek

    This is crap. It doesn’t even make sense. If a person really wants to move on, they will.

  7. Kseniya Tomlin

    Go out, go to a bar to meet some new people. Going out alone is not sad. Believe me, I tried to go out alone, I met wonderful people.

  8. Jesse Wyss

    Oh, I remember when I had my first heartbreak. Dang! It was indeed painful. I felt like, I’m want to die because he left me. Break-ups are really painful ya know.

  9. Jessie Fernande

    It is really hard to start a new life without him. But always remember, you are worth it, you deserve someone better. Breaking up is not the end of the world, it is just a new beginning to start with all by yourself.

  10. My ex-boyfriend and I used to live together for 2 years, we rented an apartment at NYC. It was an amazing year we had when we are in our first year, but of course, problems are unpredictable. We had a lot of fight and we decided to break up. He left me at the apartment, but I can’t live there because all I can see is him. I decided to move out and live in New Jersey. It’s hard at first, but you’ll get used to it.

  11. Lana Wiliam

    Pets are stress relievers, and they also decrease the sadness that you feel when you are sad.

  12. Alena Martin

    I agree with nature’s healing power. When I was in my darkest days after my husband left me for another woman. I felt miserable, I didn’t know how to start over again. My friend told me that I should try going out, so I joined them in their trekking once every three months. I enjoyed the nature, and I diverted all my attention to outdoor activities.

  13. Nataliya Smith

    This is just advice from the author, and it is up to you if you’re going to follow this or not. I know, there’s no proper steps in moving on, but there’s no wrong in trying.

  14. Jurik Smith

    When we broke up, I didn’t go out of my room for a month. Yes, literally I didn’t go out. I can’t start a new life without him, but then my friends went to our house and pulled me out. We went on a vacation somewhere in Miami. It’s refreshing, and I realized that there’s a lot of beautiful things that could happen to me, and if I lock myself at home, I’ll miss the chance.

  15. Angelo Henderso

    Everyone will actually experience this type of pain. It’s the beauty of love, without pain, there’s no love at all.

  16. Selli Coaze

    There’s a lot of way on how to stay happy after breaking up. But before you can actually achieve the true happiness in your life, you need to move on first.

  17. Juli Woods

    I work out every day to release the anger and lose some pounds that I gain when I’m on my stress eating phase. It helps me to forget my douchebag ex-boyfriend even just for a while.

  18. Hena Taylor

    Hmmm.. I am allergic to pets, but I think it is a great way for me to divert all the attention and love for my ex-boyfriend.

  19. Lusi Martin

    Make-over yourself, pretty sure you gain weight or lose some pounds while you are in your deepest moments. Make yourself to look prettier than before. You ex-boyfriend will surely chase you like a dog if he sees you getting better.

  20. Jessi Agusta

    Join some hiking organization, climb a mountain, then scream as loud as you can. This will help you to release all the anger that you’ve been carrying from the start.

  21. Honey Smith

    Going out alone is not really sad. Going out alone is for you to find yourself again that has been lost because you are in pain. This can also be a chance for you to find the new guy in your life.

  22. Bela Christo

    Having a pet at home is really a good idea. A dog or a cat can actually decrease the stress and sadness that you are suffering during the post-break-up period.

  23. Anila William

    It is really hard to stay happy after a breaking up. But breaking up doesn’t mean you need to stop to be happy because the source of your happiness is gone. You need to move on, and let go all the pain so, you can be happy again.

  24. Cristina Joseff

    My boyfriend and I broke up 3 months ago, we had a 3 years relationship. It’s hard to move on for me, I still didn’t accept the fact that he is know engaged with someone. Hope this article will help me to find my way back.

  25. Nancy Smith

    Dating is also one way to escape from your ugly past. That is also the easiest way to move on from your past.

  26. Maria Bruce

    I am going to buy a puppy today. I will follow everything that is being posted here. I hope it will help me to heal my heart.

  27. Quin Meri

    I know it’s hard to move on and let go of your past, but your chapter is over. You need to accept the fact that he’s not in your life anymore.

  28. Ana Brose

    Go out, have fun with your friends or just you alone. Don’t let someone ruin your happiness.

  29. Jeni Morgan

    Moving on is not easy, you can say that doing this, and doing that will help you to move on but it’s in the person’s heart if he/she is ready to move on.

  30. Jeni Morgan

    Urgh! I remember all the feelings that I felt when we broke up. All the pain and screaming in my room. I wish I won’t feel the same pain again.

  31. We all know how bad a breakup can affect each person, almost all of us have been there. Break-ups can be energy draining and depressing, it will waste most of your time since you’ll be crying and whining to your friends about how mean and bad your ex was. You will also find yourself spending too much time on social media stalking your ex, and all the break-up aftermath hullabaloo. But choosing to be happy again and drifting all the negative energy into positive ones, is a different story. Thumbs up on all the advice that you’ve given, will surely help eceryone who’s going through the tough phase of a breakup.

  32. Good advices, all of them. What speaks to me most is the advice to up meditation. I myself am just a newbie, (started it as a part of the yoga class) but I can already feel the positive impact. Those who practice it learn self-awareness and awareness of your surroundings at the same time, and how to switch focus between them and see what’s more important. Useful skills to have in case of any dire situation, painful break-ups included!

  33. Joanne Samonte

    Loving yourself more than anybody else will definitely make you happy! You always need to leave something to yourself!

  34. It's true that breakups can be an opportunity to incorporate something new and awesome into your life. These are great suggestions.

  35. Courtney Watson

    I believe this is where “loving yourself more” comes in. If you love yourself more than you love your partner, then it’s easier for you to mend the broken pieces after a break up 🙂

    But, oh! I’m not suggesting you to be narcissistic, okay?!

  36. Jen Garcia

    It's also important to evaluate how you changed during your relationship and see if these changes are good or bad. People often lose themselves in relationships. Post-breakup will allow you to re-evaluate and re-discover yourself. Great advice, especially about foster parenting pets (which most people don't know about).

  37. I just broke up with someone (his loss) and I really needed this article – good timing! Thanks!

  38. Breakups are hard, but in a way it's a time for you to re-evaluate your life. Going out there and finding new adventures, a place to live, or spending more time on yourself is rewarding and healing. Plus, doing new things opens you to opportunities and living your life to the fullest.

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