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Thinking About Cheating? 12 Reasons Why You Should

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To cheat or not to cheat? Insert cliché: “That is the question!” But is that really the question? Now there’s another $64 thousand dollar question on the table – Is it bad to cheat even if I think my boyfriend won’t find out? Let’s find out…. just leave your ego at the door.

Thinking About Cheating? 12 Reasons Why You Should

It makes me feel good about myself – for a moment

Cheaters are usually insecure. Insecurity is a common theme in all our lives, and to seek relief from those insecurities is desirable, even if just for a moment.

Temporarily masking these insecurities requires ego-boosting actions, and cheating is a temporary quick-fix to satiate feelings of inadequacy. The cheater can gain satisfaction, like a temporary high, but risks feeling even worse after the act of cheating than they did before cheating.

They have bypassed dealing with the real issues and added a heap of guilt to the pile. A vicious cycle spins now because, without dealing with the underlying issues, the cheater may then feel the need to keep cheating in order to continue gratifying those feelings of inadequacy. Thus, cheating becomes a regularity, and the underlying personal insecurities have yet to be dealt with.

Personal inadequacies are legitimate, but must be resolved with self-confrontation. What is the number one answer? The survey says…get therapy!

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Born and raised in Texas, Shelly is currently studying to receive her Master's Degree in Publishing at the University of Houston - Victoria.  Shelly is a writer for Urbanette Magazine, and loves "everything it is and all that it offers our readers, and to me personally". She is passionate about life, family, friends, her maltipoo, Truman. She is a lover of all things culinary and the arts (13 year veteran of ballet).

Reader Discussion: 134 Comments

  1. Jannie Zoot

    A friend of mine just can’t stop cheating. She broke up with a guy, found a new one and fell crazy in love and then cheated on him twice. I know she’s very unconfident and insecure but geez! That’s not a solution, is it?

  2. Selli Coaze

    Being in a relationship is a “daily choice” and everyday, I choose to be faithful with my partner.

    • Jonathan Freeman

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  3. Hena Taylor

    Cheating can be avoided if open communication will be observed by partners.

  4. Jessi Agusta

    In my opinion, men cheat more often than women because of culture. If society condones infidelity as a value, we may no longer see cheating as a negative behavior.

  5. Lana Urie

    I have never cheated, but been cheated on before. It took me long to recover from it, and to regain my trust in men. I couldn’t get in to a new relationship for 3 years. Now I’m happily married to the nicest man I’ve ever known, and I hope that he won’t fail my trust.

  6. Roberta Bennett

    Cheating is the lowest form of betrayal.

  7. Gwen Keaton

    What bothers me the most is that people still get in relationships when they know they can’t stay faithful. Why do they that? Do they actually start relationships thinking they’ll be faithful during the relationship, or do they know that they’ll mess up and go on cheating as they wish?

    • Irene Morales

      I don’t think anybody would get in a relationship thinking of or planing to cheat.

  8. Leslie Williams

    Faithfulness is the key. 🙂

    • Jae Medina

      The key to an honest and happy life! I wish men could see that too.

  9. Loraine Aguilar

    Cheating is disgusting and very hurtful! Too bad these days loyalty is very hard to find, and almost everyone is capable of cheating. What a sad world we live in. 🙁

  10. Colleen Frasier

    Cheating shouldn’t be taken lightly. It can hurt everyone involved both physically and emotionally. There’s no way to make up for it.

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