How to Increase Sexual Desire in Your Partner

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How to Unleash the Sexual Tiger in Him (or Her!)

How to get him to pounce on you.

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The power of a fantasy is amazing. Yet few couples ever indulge in each others fantasies. Some feel that fantasies are private issues that shouldn’t be exposed. Others are just too embarrassed to fully release their fantasies to anyone.

How to Unleash the Sexual Tiger in Him (or Her!)

In an open healthy relationship, fantasies can provide the much needed escape from reality. In addition, openly sharing these inner secrets with your partner unlocks hidden desires that will benefit both partners. It is always better to know the secret sexual desires of your partner than it is for him (or her!) to keep them locked inside. Awareness is power.

How to Unleash the Sexual Tiger in Him (or Her!)Do you know exactly what your lovers sexual fantasies are? Most women think they do. At the same time most cannot detail the fantasy.

Detail is a major key to fantasies.

When your partner is visualizing his ultimate sexual encounter he is very detailed about how things are developing. How his mind formats the fantasy is of extreme importance. Knowing that his inner-most secret desire is a threesome is not enough. Details are what arouse and bring out emotions.

The million dollar question now is, how do you get the juicy details of your lover’s wildest fantasy?

First and foremost, realize that he may be apprehensive about detailing his secrets to you. Your first order of business is to set him at ease. His first concern is that you may find his fantasy upsetting. Assure him that breaking down this barrier will benefit your relationship in many ways. Opening up to each other is healthy. It builds a solid unified relationship.

How to Unleash the Sexual Tiger in Him (or Her!)Once you have assured him that he can confide in you, the next step is to use effective questions. To get him talking about his fantasy, ask questions that bring out details. How does it begin? Where is it happening? What acts or positions are going on? What about the fantasy excites him? When does he climax? You can also enhance the details by adding your own comments. Excite him with your participation.

A great time to bring out these conversations is at night, while laying in bed. Done correctly, this can be a personal romantic time that will flame the fires of passion. This should be an enjoyable experience for both of you. Be playful. Let your mind go and indulge in the moment. You now have the power to unleash the tiger in him (or her). Enjoy!

Sarah enlightens us on a daily basis with the newest trends as (and often before) they transpire. She is the consummate globe trotter. Having traveled to over 70 countries, she earns her living writing, blogging and modeling while on the road. In her spare time she gets manicures, suntans on yachts in Greece, shops for even more shoes, and lives in the limelight. She loves photography, elephants, sailboats, bangles and ballet flats.

Reader Discussion: 6 Comments

  1. You are very right! Successful partners can talk about everything… including sexual desires and pleasure.

  2. Randie Cadiogan

    Oh yeah, what he says or his confessions about sexual likes and dislikes are sometimes surprising 🙂

  3. Jen Spillane

    I agree with Sara (and Sarah!). Communication is key. Fantasies can be a great way to be more playful and intimate with your partner, but it'll only happen if you both feel that it's safe to go there.

  4. Irene Cruz

    I talk to my partner and ask him what he really likes. I’m lucky enough that most of the time, he says he enjoyed (or not enjoyed) what we did for the day.

    This way, I know where I’m good at and what to do. I believe that if I know what he wants (and expects), we’ll have a better, more enjoyable and more satisfying sex life.

  5. Finding out your partner’s sexual desires are very important in a healthy relationship. You might be surprised by what your partner says , it may be something that you would be into as well.

  6. Gabrielle Williams

    The best sex lives are those where partners are completely open with each other. So many couples are too shy to talk about what they like and dislike! Speak your mind and you'll get what you want. Great advice!

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