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Why Women Marry Late

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Why Women Marry Late

Studies have shown that the timing of one’s first marriage is often linked to the attractiveness of the alternatives to marrying at the time the proposal is offered. Thus, when the woman sees that she still has many options, and the alternatives are still viable and stable, marriage is delayed. Online dating is changing this landscape, because women can now, fairly easily, find partners at pretty much any age.

For example, a woman who is about to get promoted to senior partner at a law firm after 10 years of waiting may opt for the promotion first and then marriage some two to three years after — if the offer is still on the table, that is. Of course, there is no question to the level of happiness and satisfaction afforded by both a career promotion and being with your one true love; unfortunately, though, these two compete for one very scarce resource: time. Professional women, particularly those holding top positions, are bound to have very little time and higher expectations from their relationships.

Hollywood celebrities are not immune to the professional success = late marriage trend. Elizabeth Hurley was 42 when she married Arun Nayar, an Indian businessman (but divorced him three years after); Sandra Bullock married Jesse James at 41 (and then divorced after a year); Salma Hayek tied the knot also at 41 with French billionaire Francois Henri-Pinault (they’re still together!); Renee Zellweger didn’t say “I do” until she was 36 to country singer Kenny Chesney (but, sigh, divorced after just four months); TV personality Rachael Ray married lawyer and The Cringe band frontman John Cusimano at 37 (also still together!)

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Sarah enlightens us on a daily basis with the newest trends as (and often before) they transpire. She is the consummate globe trotter. Having traveled to over 70 countries, she earns her living writing, blogging and modeling while on the road. In her spare time she gets manicures, suntans on yachts in Greece, shops for even more shoes, and lives in the limelight. She loves photography, elephants, sailboats, bangles and ballet flats.

Reader Discussion: 92 Comments

  1. Melissa Princeton

    The main reason why I don’t want to get married is children! I don’t want any. But the men I met that I would consider marrying all want children. What is my luck?!

    • Keep looking, and ask that question upfront. I’ve met men who don’t want kids. I’m sure you will too!

  2. Catherine Francis Meyers

    After witnessing 3 failed marriages of my mother, I am terrified to even consider marriage.

    • Remember: Just because hers failed doesn’t mean yours will! I know it’s scary, but if you are a good match for each other, it can be very life-enriching. I’ve learned this by looking at Hilary’s marriage. She and her husband help each other and are even better because of their partnership. They give me something to look forward to!

  3. Sure, it’s best to wait until you’re at an age you’re matured enough to take the serious commitment of marriage. But it’s also as important to do it with the right man. Just because your biologic clock is ticking you shouldn’t rush things with a man who you’re not sure of.

    • I totally agree! Otherwise, you’ll end up miserable and/or divorced before you know it!

  4. Camila Hilhorst

    I really couldn’t care less who married who at what age and how long their marriage lasted. If you meet the right person it will last. That’s all I know. And I hope I find the right person one day, doesn’t matter what age.

  5. I believe marriage isn’t unnecessary but it’s important to have a special someone in your life. Nobody wants to be lonely.

    • Right but just because you don’t wannabe lonely it doesn’t mean you should hop on board with the first man that comes along.

  6. Monica Collins

    We should all be glad we’re not in ’50s anymore. Back then women didn’t have half the freedom we now have in marriages. The housewife life is so not for me!

  7. Leah Helms

    Life does begin at your 30’s. Until my 30’s I was insecure, immature, emotionally and financially unstable girl who was attracted to all the wrong kind of guys. Now I’m more mature and confident, financially stable and most important I know what I want!

  8. What marriage? I feel lucky if I get a date twice a month haha ??

  9. Nicky Bryan

    The only reason why I want to get married is that I want to wear a beautiful wedding gown, and I want to have a dreamy fairytale wedding. But that can wait. 😉

  10. Kimberly Thompson

    Oh my… ? Reading the comments made me feel like we’re a “No To Marriage Club” haha But seriously, I think marriage is nothing but unnecessary paperwork. People can start and be a family without those papers.

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