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The Complete Guide: Your Sexual Fantasies
Everything you ever needed to know about your own fantasies, and how to convey them.
Come esprimere i tuoi desideri
Anche per la persona più sicura di sé ed estroversa, esprimere desideri sessuali può essere intimidatorio. Ecco alcuni suggerimenti e trucchi per aiutarti a farlo senza intoppi.
Scegli il momento giusto per parlare: Se provi a sollevarlo mentre il tuo partner si sta precipitando al lavoro, è probabile che non andrai da nessuna parte e potresti persino finire per discuterne. Introduci l'argomento quando siete entrambi rilassati e non avete altri impegni.
Come arrivare a SI
Sii aperto e onesto: Anche se all'inizio ti senti imbarazzato e fai fatica a pronunciare le parole, mantienilo. Dì cosa hai in mente in termini diretti e sii chiaro se stai discutendo di desideri che speri che il tuo partner possa soddisfare o stai solo parlando scherzosamente di fantasie che non vuoi necessariamente affrontare. Se stai discutendo di fantasie, non affrontarlo troppo seriamente: divertiti.
Sii positivo: Assicurati di usare parole ottimistiche e costruttive in modo che il tuo partner non si senta criticato. Ad esempio, puoi dire: "Mi piace molto quando mi abbatti. Quel movimento vorticoso che fai con la lingua è il migliore! Pensi di poterlo fare per tutto il tempo che sei laggiù?" Oppure: “Mi ecciti così tanto che ho sempre voglia di fare sesso con te. Siamo stati così occupati di recente e non abbiamo avuto tanto tempo come una volta. Pensi che potremmo provare a dedicare più tempo al sesso?"
Sogni di vestirti come una scolaretta?
Essere pazientare: Non aspettarti che il tuo partner accetti e abbracci subito i tuoi desideri e le tue fantasie. Se reagisce negativamente, spiega che non ti aspetti che desideri la stessa cosa, ma che volevi condividere i tuoi pensieri e sentimenti. Quindi lascia perdere per un po' e prova a riprendere l'argomento qualche settimana dopo. Oppure potrebbe essere il tuo partner a tirarlo fuori di nuovo dopo averci pensato per un po'.
Rispetta i desideri del tuo partner: Se hai sempre desiderato fare sesso in un luogo pubblico o un rapporto a tre con due ragazzi, ma il tuo partner dice che non lo prenderebbe mai in considerazione, potresti semplicemente accettare che alcuni dei tuoi sogni sessuali non possono essere soddisfatto. E mentre fantasie come sesso a tre, orge e guardare il tuo partner fare sesso con qualcun altro possono essere un'enorme eccitazione, affrontarle potrebbe seriamente danneggiare la tua relazione. A volte è meglio lasciare le fantasie nel regno dell'immaginazione. Perché non esplorarli verbalmente con il tuo partner mentre fai sesso? La mente è una cosa potente e discutere delle tue immaginazioni più sfrenate può essere altrettanto soddisfacente che portarle in vita.
Avere una mente aperta: Ora che hai espresso i tuoi desideri e le tue fantasie, devi essere pronto ad ascoltare quelli del tuo partner. Potresti essere piacevolmente sorpreso di sapere che sei sulla stessa lunghezza d'onda, ma potresti anche essere scioccato da ciò che il tuo partner ha da dire. In tal caso, cerca di non arrabbiarti o arrabbiarti e sii onesto su come ti senti. Cerca di mantenere una mente aperta e prenditi il tempo per pensare a ciò che ha detto il tuo partner.
Compromesso: Se tu e il tuo partner i desideri e le fantasie divergono, cerca di arrivare a un compromesso. Ad esempio, se ti piace un po' più di varietà rispetto al tuo partner quando si tratta di posizioni sessuali, accetta di provare una nuova posizione ogni mese. Oppure, se il tuo partner vorrebbe sperimentare il bondage leggero ma non ti senti a tuo agio a essere trattenuto con le manette, suggerisci di usare sciarpe di seta.
Jimmie
I think one of the biggest fantasies women have is to have a man that can and will communicate with her on a physical level on an emotional level and know how to make her feel loved and heard. It seems like today very few men know how to do just that.
Jimmie
Move on not mature enough.
Jimmie
My fantasy is to have a nice lady in the middle of a lake floating on a air bed oiling her down from head to toe to make sure she does not get a sunburn. And then she returns the favor. Of course we cannot have Tan Lines clothes are forbidden. And we can work the oil into each other. You can use your imagination for the rest
Jimmie
If you want some good advice to this goes both this is for both ways men and women. You have to teach your mate what you what and how you like it. Don’t be afraid to speak up and tell them exactly what you want and how to do it if you do not do this your sexual life will never be fulfilled never fake it EVER!!! If you fake it you are doing a disservice to yourself
Jimmie
One of the many things I enjoy very much. Is the art of cunnilingus, I am like a person on crack when it comes to cunnilingus and I’m looking for a woman that can be my cunnilingus dealer anytime I want it.
Jimmie
To anyone that may be confused about fantasies. Fantasies are a good way to bond with your partner as long as they’re consensual. They will help you build a deeper understanding of each other and it builds trust. They are very normal everybody has them. But only the bold lovers fulfill them.
Jimmie
As a prior commenter to the column. I will tell you about another adventure that I experienced. I was at a local bar celebrating a friends birthday party. I started talking to this voluptuous beautiful lady. After a few drinks we decided to leave the boring party. After talking about many things that interested us and different experiences that we’ve had it was already dark so we decided to drive to the lake. It was very cold so she decided to go swimming very unusual lady but I could tell she loved the water she wanted this to be a fantasy moment, she took her clothes off and waited out until she was in water about wast deep. I could see her big breast glistening in the moonlight from the water dripping off them. I was very reluctant about going in the freezing water but I ventured out anyway. She knew that I could not get a hard-on in this freezing water. And I believe she did that on purpose. Because she wanted to see what I could do. I made my way out to her and the freezing water. About that time a park ranger walked up and shined his flashlight right up on us and told us to come out of the water. After coming up out of the water we both grabbed our clothes and got dressed. The park ranger asked us what we was doing there I just simply said we wanted to take a swim and we didn’t have our swimsuits. He then replied I’m going to run a background check on it both of you if either one of you have anything on you I’m taking both of you in. I looked at her not even knowing what her first name was and I asked her if she had anything on her any outstanding warrants she said no nothing and I said I don’t either the park ranger found nothing on either one and told us to leave the park so we did what a crazy night one I will always remember.
Jimmie
Let me share one experience I was young I was 20 years old. Still living at home looking for my own place. Wanting to go to college but do not have the money working on tuition. I was still having fun going to local parties with my high school friends. And one of the parties I met a really nice high energy very charismatic young lady. After conversing for a while we decided the party was too boring. So we decided to take a drive and see if we could find something more exciting. We wound up going to the city park were they also had a public pool it was closed but the gate was unlocked I tried to talk her into going for a Moonlight swim. But the water was very chilly so we decided not to. So we’ve started to walk around the park and we reached the back side of the park where we could see the road and parking lot. We sat down on the backside of the Hill. And begin to talk it was kind of chilly out so we’ve set very close to each other. We were touching from our knees all the way up to our lips we was sharing body heat. As things progressed. I casually mentioned her other set of lips must be getting jealous. We cannot have that. After a few more minutes of delicate touches and warm lips . She help me remove her pants allowing me to massage and caress the rest of her beautiful body. Starting to get excited very excited. As her body began to tremble the police drove up in a parking lot. We were laying low all the backside of a small hill barely out of sight. I quickly right up leaves to cover the top of her head where if they searched they would not see us if we were lucky. They looked all around the pool area that could not see anything how about that time one of them started walking out to the park. I was in full motion licking her clitoris. She was in such ecstasy say she could not hardly be quiet. I whispered in her ear the police are here looking around at that time she looked up and seen a flash light scanning in the woods just over our heads. I wanted to give her a orgasm. I refuse to quit i put my hand over her mouth and I whispered in her ear to be very still and don’t make a sound. I continued arousing her in her fear and excitement . Than her body began to shake very hard and I can hear her straining with everything she had trying not to make a sound watching her body quiver is she clenched her fists trying to be quiet. Police officer scanned one last time did not see anything returning to his patrol car they drove away. I removed my hand and I gave her the satisfaction she’s so craved. Ever since that night I knew I had a gift and I have been enjoying it ever since I’m still looking to have fun I never did get married but now I’m in a place in life where I can have fun and enjoy the people that I’m with I can’t but I only speculate and wonder if she has had a good life I may have missed my one true love I don’t know . But what I really want out of life is just one good woman that I can love with all of my might. Still looking…..True story
Tracey Pierce
It’s true. It’s okay to tell your partner about your fantasies, but there are things that you shouldn’t tell them. If you know that your fantasy involves another character, make it a secret because it might hurt your partner.
Marie Hunt
I have an open mind, but sometimes, it’s hard to accept what they are wishing. IT takes time, especially if you know that your wish is hard to give. ?