I’m a model. I mean, I’m a writer, but I’m also a model. So I know what I’m talking about when I say that, along with all the benefits (like having an easier time getting into nightclubs and finding casual sex, I suppose, if that’s what you’re into), there are also a lot of negatives that come along with the package of ‘being beautiful’. And please, don’t hate me because I’m A) beautiful, or B) complaining about it (yeah, I know it may be hard)…
Reason #1: It makes dating harder. Yes, you heard right. I’ll explain why. When men see a woman that looks like a model, far too many of them see her as an object. I can only partially blame them for this, since society hammers it into our heads with objectifying ads and misogynistic porn. Hence, these men see ‘hot girls’ as something to possess and show off. They don’t really spend a lot of time trying to get to know her as a person, because for many men, beauty is enough.
But wait — that actually really sucks for us pretty girls. Really. Because when a man wants to possess you, he often pretends to be whatever you want… until he gets tired of pretending. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten my hopes up and ended up with “Wow, he turned out to be a giant a-hole… but I really thought he was suuucch a nice guy! I don’t know what happened??” It’s because either he could only fake it for so long, or he moved on to another ‘hot girl’. We are, after all, pretty much interchangeable when looked at purely from a superficial perspective.
Razón #2: La gente asume que no voy a tener nada interesante que decir. Cuando empiezo a hablar, de manera articulada, sobre temas de género o política, a menudo les resulta difícil contener la sorpresa. Supongo que piensan que paso todo el día arreglándome las uñas, lectura viendo la belleza blogs vlogs y pasar el rato con mis amigos en el gimnasio. Uhm, no del todo.
Razón #3:Las mujeres me odian sin una buena Razón. es difícil hacer novias y muy fácil hacer amigosenemigos. cuando Eres la 'chica Caliente', las mujeres no quieren estar cerca de ti porque han estado lavado de cerebro (por Disney! dejar eso ¡Alucina!) para pensar que la vida es una gran competencia entre mujeres y hombres. Noticia de última hora: si un chico me quiere a mí en lugar de a ti, entonces nunca fue realmente tuyo (¡y ciertamente no quiero al idiota!). Alternativamente, demasiadas mujeres quieren estar cerca de ti, solo para acercarse a ti y lastimarte, lo que de alguna manera apuntala su propio ego.
Razón #4: Además de tener dificultades para encontrar hombres que nos quieran por nuestra belleza interior, recientemente descubrí que también hay grandes desventajas de ser bella en el trabajo. Un estudio reciente* observó lo que sucedía cuando los solicitantes de empleo adjuntaban su foto de rostro a su currículum y cómo reaccionaban los posibles empleadores ante lo que veían. El estudio implicó el envío de solicitudes ficticias a alrededor de 2.500 vacantes de trabajo reales, donde a cada puesto se le enviaron dos hojas de vida similares con fotos contrastantes.
El estudio encontró que los hombres guapos tenían más posibilidades de conseguir empleo que los feos; sin embargo, esto resultó en lo contrario para las mujeres. Las damas guapas eran mucho menos probable que le ofrecieran un trabajo y necesitaba enviar un promedio de once currículos a varias empresas antes de ser invitado por una para una entrevista. Ruffle llama a esto "la hipótesis de la rubia tonta", o la idea errónea general de que las mujeres hermosas son estúpidas.
Un artículo de opinión relacionado, de la escritora de The Daily Mail Samantha Brick, tenía otra teoría de por qué sucede esto: “que otras mujeres me odian sin otra razón que mi hermosa apariencia”. Brick dice que sus amigos a menudo la dejaban en las cenas porque se sentían amenazados por el hecho de que ella estaba en presencia de sus otras mitades, y agregó que "si sus parejas se atrevían a hablarme, un escalofrío repentino descendería sobre la habitación". .” En el trabajo, una vez llamaron a Brick a la oficina por su forma de vestir (que consideró conservadora) y le dijeron que estaba distrayendo a sus colegas masculinos.
Now, I know that Urbanette readers are way too confident and empowered to odio a la 'chica caliente', pero si alguna vez te das cuenta de que titubeas, trata de recordar que todos tenemos nuestros desafíos y que la vida de nadie es perfecta. Vivimos en una sociedad de doble estándar, y no importa cuánto digamos que el comportamiento y el pensamiento humanos han evolucionado para volverse más tolerantes y abiertos que nunca, la discriminación permanece.
Bella o bestia (según los estándares de la sociedad, por supuesto), todo el mundo tiene una cruz que llevar.
Wow, I had no idea that it was harder for pretty women to get hired. Scary.
Pretty women are not stupid! Sad but true, pretty women are viewed as brainless and senseless persons when it comes to workplace.
I believe all the “pretty women” out there SHOULD / NEED to prove this statement wrong. In everything you do, give it your best shot! Work intelligently 🙂
Telling a woman dressed professional and conservatively to change her style because she's distracting the boys is a double standard indeed! But it looks like, when it comes to appearance and getting jobs, men have to deal with a double standard as well.
Everyone is judge based on appearance. That's what the first impression is based on. A beautiful woman may walk into an interview and employers may think that she's unreliable and too focus on their own looks to actually get work done. It happens. It's our job to prove them wrong.
The pretty ones attract “jealous” frenemies like how flowers attract bees. That’s why it’s better to stick to being friends with gay men. 😉
I’ve even tried that & their boyfriend gets jealous!!! I’m fucked!
I hate double standards too. I believe we need to learn to accept each other as we are…
LOL! This is crazy. But then again, yes. There are double standards! tsk.
I read Samantha Brick’s article on The Daily Mail. I wanted to sympathize with her but came short. I couldn’t decide if she was too obsessed on her “pretty” appearance to think that every woman in the world hates her simply because of envy… or she played on people’s emotion through her write-up. Either way, she was an effective marketer because her article got so many hits.
I know a lot of corporate women who are adored by their female co-workers. They are not only good-looking but also smart and efficient employers. And they certainly don’t look down on other women based on physical appearance, unlike Samantha Brick (who also claimed that some female journalist is too ugly for TV).
I do get your point on workplace discrimination due to good looks.
Look, let’s face it. Everyone gets judged by the way they look. It’s the first impression thing. Pretty people (really intelligent or not) can do really impress the ones who are interviewing them.
How I truly hate double standards. That’s the reason why women act crazy these days! The society glorifies physical beauty and pretty women get hired less. Then men expect women to be sexy/seductive but then they also have to have child-like innocence?! I feel infuriated by this sometimes. Why can’t we all just accept each other as we are?