I’m a model. I mean, I’m a writer, but I’m also a model. So I know what I’m talking about when I say that, along with all the benefits (like having an easier time getting into nightclubs and finding casual sex, I suppose, if that’s what you’re into), there are also a lot of negatives that come along with the package of ‘being beautiful’. And please, don’t hate me because I’m A) beautiful, or B) complaining about it (yeah, I know it may be hard)…
Reason #1: It makes dating harder. Yes, you heard right. I’ll explain why. When men see a woman that looks like a model, far too many of them see her as an object. I can only partially blame them for this, since society hammers it into our heads with objectifying ads and misogynistic porn. Hence, these men see ‘hot girls’ as something to possess and show off. They don’t really spend a lot of time trying to get to know her as a person, because for many men, beauty is enough.
But wait — that actually really sucks for us pretty girls. Really. Because when a man wants to possess you, he often pretends to be whatever you want… until he gets tired of pretending. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten my hopes up and ended up with “Wow, he turned out to be a giant a-hole… but I really thought he was suuucch a nice guy! I don’t know what happened??” It’s because either he could only fake it for so long, or he moved on to another ‘hot girl’. We are, after all, pretty much interchangeable when looked at purely from a superficial perspective.
Reason #2: People assume I’m not going to have anything interesting to say. When I start talking, articulately, about gender issues or politics, it’s often hard for them to hold in their surprise. I guess they think I spend all day doing my nails, 読書 watching beauty blogs vlogs, and hanging with my peeps at the gym. Uhm, not quite.
Reason #3: Women hate me for no good reason. It’s hard to make girlfriends, and really easy to make frenemies. When you’re the ‘hot girl’, women don’t want to be around you because they’re been brainwashed (by Disney! let that blow your mind!) into thinking that life is a big competition between women for men. News flash: if a guy wants me instead of you, then he was never really yours (and I certainly don’t want the jerk!). Alternatively, far too many women do want to be around you, just to get close to you and hurt you, which somehow props up their own ego.
理由 #4: 内面の美しさを求めてくれる男性を見つけるのに苦労するだけでなく、最近、職場で美しくあることには大きなマイナス面もあることに気づきました。 最近の研究* では、求職者が履歴書に自分の顔写真を添付したときに何が起こったのか、また、求職者が見たものに対して将来の雇用主がどのように反応したのかが観察されました。 この調査では、実際の求人約 2,500 件に架空の応募書類を送付し、すべてのポジションに対照的な写真が入った 2 枚の同様の履歴書が送付されました。
この研究では、容姿の良い男性は醜い男性よりも雇用される可能性が高いことが判明した。 しかし、これは女性にとっては逆の結果となりました。 格好良い女性たちは、 可能性ははるかに低い 仕事のオファーを受けるには、面接に誘われるまでに平均 11 通の履歴書をさまざまな企業に送る必要がありました。 ラッフル氏はこれを「バカブロンド仮説」、つまり美しい女性は愚かであるという一般的な誤解と呼んでいます。
デイリー・メール紙の記者サマンサ・ブリックによる関連意見記事では、なぜこのようなことが起こっているのかという別の仮説を立てている。「他の女性が私のことを嫌っているのは、私の美しい容姿以外の理由がないからだ」。 ブリックさんは、友人たちが自分の片割れがいるという事実に脅威を感じたため、外食の際に頻繁に連れ去られたと述べ、「もし彼らのパートナーが私に実際に話しかけようものなら、突然部屋が寒くなっただろう」と付け加えた。 」 ブリックさんは職場で、彼女の服装（保守的だと彼女は感じていた）を理由にオフィスに呼び出され、男性同僚の気を紛らわせていると言われたことがある。
Now, I know that Urbanette readers are way too confident and empowered to 「セクシーな女の子」を憎む、しかし、もし自分が揺らいでいるのに気づいたら、私たちは誰しも課題を抱えており、完璧な人生を歩む人はいないということを思い出してください。 私たちは二重基準の社会に住んでおり、人間の行動や考え方がこれまで以上に受容的で寛容になるように進化したといくら言っても、差別は依然として存在します。
美女であろうと野獣であろうと（もちろん社会の基準から言えば）、誰もが背負わなければならない十字架を持っています。
Wow, I had no idea that it was harder for pretty women to get hired. Scary.
Pretty women are not stupid! Sad but true, pretty women are viewed as brainless and senseless persons when it comes to workplace.
I believe all the “pretty women” out there SHOULD / NEED to prove this statement wrong. In everything you do, give it your best shot! Work intelligently 🙂
Telling a woman dressed professional and conservatively to change her style because she's distracting the boys is a double standard indeed! But it looks like, when it comes to appearance and getting jobs, men have to deal with a double standard as well.
Everyone is judge based on appearance. That's what the first impression is based on. A beautiful woman may walk into an interview and employers may think that she's unreliable and too focus on their own looks to actually get work done. It happens. It's our job to prove them wrong.
The pretty ones attract “jealous” frenemies like how flowers attract bees. That’s why it’s better to stick to being friends with gay men. 😉
I’ve even tried that & their boyfriend gets jealous!!! I’m fucked!
I hate double standards too. I believe we need to learn to accept each other as we are…
LOL! This is crazy. But then again, yes. There are double standards! tsk.
I read Samantha Brick’s article on The Daily Mail. I wanted to sympathize with her but came short. I couldn’t decide if she was too obsessed on her “pretty” appearance to think that every woman in the world hates her simply because of envy… or she played on people’s emotion through her write-up. Either way, she was an effective marketer because her article got so many hits.
I know a lot of corporate women who are adored by their female co-workers. They are not only good-looking but also smart and efficient employers. And they certainly don’t look down on other women based on physical appearance, unlike Samantha Brick (who also claimed that some female journalist is too ugly for TV).
I do get your point on workplace discrimination due to good looks.
Look, let’s face it. Everyone gets judged by the way they look. It’s the first impression thing. Pretty people (really intelligent or not) can do really impress the ones who are interviewing them.
How I truly hate double standards. That’s the reason why women act crazy these days! The society glorifies physical beauty and pretty women get hired less. Then men expect women to be sexy/seductive but then they also have to have child-like innocence?! I feel infuriated by this sometimes. Why can’t we all just accept each other as we are?