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10 Things Every Girl Should Have Before Turning 30

Ten things every woman needs to help make her 30s the best decade yet.


Turning 30 was more than a milestone for me; it was a rite of passage. It meant I survived the beautiful mistakes and epic self-doubt of my 20s and was ready to move into bona fide “big girl” status. My 20s were a decade of wild nights, dating tragedies and learning, but 30 heralded the arrival of an evolved, ready-for-prime-time me. If you’re looking at 30 soon, you can make a smooth(er) transition by arming yourself with these essentials to a grown-up repertoire:

Essential #1: A Soul Sister

#Besties! Your 20s are more fun with a true best friend who shares your pain in hangovers and heartbreak. She wants you to be happy, loves you at your worst, tells you how it is and laughs alongside you when life gets rough. It’s a genuine two-sided friendship that’ll stand the test of time.

10 Things Every Girl Should Have Before Turning 30

Essential #2: Confidence

If you have authentic confidence, you have power—power to grow in a career, fall in love, find strength in weakness and live happily. Confidence is palpable. It’s the consequence of emotionally healthy thinking and a positive support system. Experience cultivates confidence, but a girl can grow her confidence with a few challenges:

  • Don’t overestimate others and underestimate yourself.
  • Rely on logic to drive your thoughts.
  • Quit jealously. It does you no good, and everybody has their own (often serious) issues you don’t know about and wouldn’t want.
  • Find your own perception of beauty. Don’t buy into the narrow definition of ‘beauty’ that the media pushes; remember that it’s designed to make women insecure so they buy more beauty products.
  • Simply: love yourself. Don’t let others into your inner circle who don’t love and respect you.

Essential #3: Your Own Sophisticated Style

A gal’s closet evolves throughout her 20s. Versatile pieces for the office start to take prominence over graphic urban T-shirts and denim cutoffs. Mixing and matching becomes the fashion objective, rather than short, tight and revealing. Welcome the days of carrying a designer messenger bag to work instead of your favorite clear iridescent backpack. Personal style is essential to a woman’s identity and creative self-expression, and is second only to her independence and convictions.

10 Things Every Girl Should Have Before Turning 30

Essential #4: A Growing Savings Account

Saving is sexy. Even if you set aside $25 per paycheck, you’re practicing financial responsibility, and that’s hot. Building an emergency fund should be a budget priority. Give yourself the goal of saving 10 percent of each paycheck. If 10 percent is too steep, commit to actively saving what you can manage. As your funds grow, so will your dedication to healthy financial management.

10 Things Every Girl Should Have Before Turning 30

Essential #5: A Luminary To Look Up To

From the worldly business success of Diane von Furstenberg to Brigitte Bardot’s enviable beauty, the accomplishments or famed attributes of a personal heroine can inspire and empower a girl on a quest of self-discovery. Your 20s are your learning years. You may have found yourself buckling under insecurities, making mistakes and getting lost a time or two. While enduring these years, a strong female role model can keep your spirit ablaze. Ask yourself who’s at the cornerstone of your admiration and passions? Make her the luminary of your 30s.

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A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she lives in Monte Carlo, but spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always traveling, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 80 Comments

  1. Avatar of Meghan Medina

    Meghan Medina

    I like this list because it’s all about how my achievements are in life as soon as I turn 30. It’s a reminder that when you’re in that stage of life, it’s no longer fun and games. It’s all about maturity and being able to deal with life in a better manner compared to how it was when we were in our 20’s. It’s a huge milestone in our lives.

  2. Avatar of Kelly Obsborne

    Kelly Obsborne

    It really makes sense to be able to have done this before you’re 30. But I won’t judge people who haven’t achieved all of this even when they’re past 30. We all achieve things in due time and we can’t rush success!

  3. Avatar of Maggie Lawrence

    Maggie Lawrence

    I’m way past my 30’s so I guess I need to work harder to in order to tick off a lot of these things.

  4. Avatar of Terri Ferguson

    Terri Ferguson

    I couldn’t agree more with what’s written. But then I think a lot of people should be able to read this before they’re 30. Otherwise, people would feel like they haven’t achieved much because it can be a little too late to be able to do all of this in just a span of years. I actually feel like this article is meant for people who are in their 18+ because they should be aware that once they are in their journey to their 20’s, life is a ticking bomb already. For this article to generalize that being in your 30’s is a smooth awesome journey is a fairy tale.

  5. Avatar of Josephine Murphy

    Josephine Murphy

    Can I just skip being 30 and be senile already? Just kidding.?

  6. Avatar of Verna Clarke

    Verna Clarke

    I’d rather have a travel bucket list than this. People tend to flourish in different areas of their life, some late, others early. So I think you can’t always give a bracket in your life wherein you want to achieve stuff. Because you’ll end up disappointed and envious of other people.

  7. Avatar of Leticia Bass

    Leticia Bass

    I stopped caring for my birthdays as soon as I reached my teenage years. What more my 30’s? The next time I wanna celebrate or have a birthday bash is when I’m in my 60’s or 70’s because I’m just glad that I’m still alive and kicking. My 30’s isn’t something I’d feel like celebrating. I don’t even see the significance of celebrating at such a time wherein I’m being told to save up for my old ass days. Everybody is telling you what to do when yu’re in your 30’s and you just want to slap them across their faces and tell them to f*** off.

    • Avatar of Hannah Rose

      Hannah Rose

      You have a great point and I think I’ll throw my birthday millenial bash when I’m 60 and I’m going to be a hip grandma.

  8. Avatar of Margie Ross

    Margie Ross

    I think I’ll fail in #1. I haven’t found my bestest best friend. I have friends whom I enjoy spending time with, but I must admit that I don’t feel like they’re people who have my back 100%.

  9. Avatar of Rachael Patrick

    Rachael Patrick

    I’ve accomplished a lot here and I’m proud of myself. I guess you just have to make the best possible choices in life as early as possible so it’s easier in the future.

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    Our 20’s really is a learning stage but despite being labeled as “learning” stage, it’s where we make the most mistakes that affect our lives when we’re in our 30’s. A good example of this is when we failed to be responsible financially and we end up not having any savings at all or we invested our hard earned money in investments that didn’t grow at all. Who would have thought that being in your 30’s feels like you’re trying to be young but mature at the same time?! Or trying to get rid of wrinkles but trying so hard not to spend on skin care because you have to be financially responsible?!? I’m seriously freaking out.

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