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6 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

How to make yourself feel like you can conquer the world in six easy steps. No, Really!


Everyone has times when they don’t feel like their best, most attractive or confident selves. Working through difficult times like these can actually make you stronger and more confident in the long run. When you’re in the middle of one of these stretches, it can be difficult to know how to work your way out of it. If this sounds familiar to you, try some of these tips to boost your confidence:


Change Your Appearance

Looking good can greatly increase your confidence. While you don’t need to drastically alter your appearance, simply taking a shower, shaving, putting on makeup and dressing nicely can help you feel ready to start that day. Again, this doesn’t mean you need to buy designer or expensive clothing, it just means dress for the situation (or even overdress a little) to help you feel special.

6 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Dye your hair red! Try blue eye shadow! Wear a sexy dress!

Another idea is to change up your style. If you’ve had the same hair color for ages, try changing it (you can do it yourself at home). Try some new up-do’s. Even just changing your makeup routine (hello, red lipstick!) or your shoe choice can give you a little boost.


Stop Reading Print Magazines

Studies show that women feel crummy about themselves, and their long-term self-esteem suffers, when they read print magazines. Looking at Photoshopped photos of models gets even models feeling less attractive, because even though we may consciously know that the images are fantasy, our subconscious brain still picks up on the harmful messaging; that we must look flawless, skinny and sultry if we expect to be loveable and sexy. And it’s all in an effort to sell us more products we really don’t need.

6 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Looking at these can be toxic for your self-esteem

So don’t listen. Better yet — don’t expose your brain to that messaging at all; read online blogs or indie magazines, like Urbanette, instead.

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A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she lives in Monte Carlo, but spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always traveling, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 179 Comments

  1. Elsie Spurlock

    I enjoyed this article on how to boost self confidence as it outlines the steps that are required to steadily build confidence. This is such a great time of the year to think about self confidence. I think that self-discipline is also important to boost self-confidence. If you know that you’re constantly not being disciplined it erodes your self-esteem which in turn influences your self-confidence. Hope you don’t mind if i will print this out, to read it over and over.

  2. Heather Strobel

    Awesome article. Just laid so simply, yet so brilliantly. This is exactly what I needed to hear because I have been struggling with this for some time now. You got to face your fear, and do the thing you fear first, before we can get rid of the fear. I just meditated this morning and was feeling very good and very inspired. 🙂

  3. Esther Earl Harris

    I enjoyed your article very much. It covers many real-life situations and it gives one a good positive feeling about everyday occurrences.

  4. Hazel Collins

    I can’t tell you how much this article resonated with me. You have set me on my mission to always stay optimistic and confident. This is why i read blogs because it really does make a difference in how one looks at life in general. I do practice many of your personal suggestions and they work. Keep up the good work!

  5. Grace Stirling

    This is a great read. It all depends on what you want to be confident about. I really want to say thank you and appreciate you for your inspiring articles. Your posts put me in a better path. They really helped me, to fight the devil inside me which is overthinking and stress.

  6. Jenny Garett

    Your posts are high points for me. Confidence is key when it comes to accomplishing your heart’s desire. Deep breathing and meditating are the most effective way to shift yourself from stress to calm and confident, it’s what i’m doing. These are necessary reminders for everyone. Your advice is always so measured, sensible and incredibly loving.

  7. Cornelia Green

    I could not agree more, Hilary. This is an article that I wanted to write myself. I just found as if i have been reborn, This is an amazing advise. The habit of writing down things you are grateful for makes it easier to appreciate the positive parts of life. I think we all need to be reminded of this often.

  8. Ashley Moore

    I imagine that the ability to construe a negative situation as more positive is a learnable skill. I wish I could carry this article with me 24/7. My heart feels light and joyful after reading this. Thanks so much for this beautiful and practical approach to boost self confidence. I hope to apply it to my life.

  9. Rosemary Robles

    I have been struggling lately with making myself stronger and I have to say I love this. I recently lost weight and have noticed now that I can take better care of myself and also take better care of others. I haven’t realized it till I read this. I will carry this this with me in my heart. Looking forward to more inspiration, thanks! ?

  10. Merry Robinson

    Thank you Hilary, I’m so grateful. The love, courage and wisdom you give and share is truly inspiring, so honest and true. You always seem to remind me of all I need to remember in the moment. Your guidance is precious. You light up everything! ???

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