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The Real Reasons Behind Violence Against Women

The ugly underbelly of society, and why women are constantly being dominated by men.

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Whenever someone says that women have reached equality in today’s modern society, remind them that 1 in 3 women worldwide have experienced violence perpetrated by a male in their lifetime. That oughta shut them up.

The Real Reasons Behind Violence Against Women

Being manipulated into trying to look like Barbie isn’t the only form of oppression women have to deal with

Maybe you’ve never experienced violence perpetrated by a male. Maybe you’re not aware of the connection between violence and equal pay for equal work, or the right to make decisions for your body. No worries. The connection is about as clear as a morning after taking tequila shots. But I got you, girl.

The truth is, violence a way to keep the gender status quo. To keep men in charge and women subordinate. Similar to slaves in the American south, men who commit violence against women do so in order to control us. They do it because of –and to sustain– the manufactured gap in human value. To sustain the rationale that you deserve to earn less money for the same work. To sustain the institutions that believe you’re nothing more than a baby vessel. To root ideas that women and men are not equal and therefore undeserving of equal opportunities, including the opportunity for safety.

The Real Reasons Behind Violence Against Women

This article focuses on the left side of this picture, but both sides display forms of oppression…

The problem is an enormous one, and it’s not one-size-fits-all. Women in every country experience violence in different ways, from genital mutilation in parts of Africa, Asia, and the Middle East (and even certain western countries… you know who you are) to domestic violence in, well, every corner of the world.

The most extreme form of violence against women, of course, is femicide. The World Health Organization defines femicide as the “intentional murder of women because they are women,” but they also mention that broader definitions include any killings of women or girls. The Guatemalan Human Rights Commission takes the definition further, calling it an “act of terrorism that functions to define gender lines, enact and bolster male dominance, and to render women chronically and profoundly unsafe.”

The Real Reasons Behind Violence Against Women

Nearly 1 in 2 women have experienced sexual violence. 1 in 5 women in the USA has been raped. Children under twelve years old account for 34% of sexual violence against females.

But it’s not just murder we have to worry about. Violence committed by men against women is a multi-tiered, multi-faceted, multi-nuanced issue because of the surrounding factors that make violence against women acceptable. In the United States, we call this rape culture. Rape culture is when female victims of violence and sexual assault are blamed, while the violence perpetrated by men is normalized. You see it in the way female rape victims are blamed because they were drinking, or the clothes they were wearing were “too revealing”. In the way that people joke about how the victim was “asking for it”. In the manner that world leaders *cough cough* are allowed to “grab women by the pussy” and brush it off as locker room chit chat.

The Real Reasons Behind Violence Against WomenLearning about rape culture is like waking up in the morning and seeing Donald Trump naked, looming over you. Once you see it, it can’t be unseen.

To combat inequality and violence, UN Women puts on 16 days of awareness every year, known as the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence Campaign. The campaign spans from November 25th (Elimination of Violence against Women Day) to December 10th (Human Rights Day) each year. Because, you know… women’s rights are human rights and all that.

Every country and city will be trumpeting these 16 days in their own way, so go to the UN Women website, find your city, and find out how you can participate in spreading awareness about violence against women.

The only way to end violence against women is to change the concepts that deem women as lesser than men. Violence against women by men is often a show of dominance, intended to keep women in their place. Thus, changing the normalized concepts of inequality between men and women is the most powerful way to eliminate the violence, and even get that promotion you’ve been salivating over.

Ariana is a writer and world traveler. Her writing covers her three main passions: women’s empowerment, travel, and culture. The beauty of the world is not just in scenic mountain views or turquoise waters; it’s in doing the thing that gets you out of bed in the morning. For Ariana, that thing is stringing words together.

Reader Discussion: 40 Comments

  1. I’m starting to think that it’s so difficult for women to survive in this world now. I’m not trying to be a pessimist but if you look at the news, it’s mostly women that are the victim. I’m not saying that men can’t be victims too but it’s the majority of women being raped or battered. Parents sometimes have a role in this. When there’s more broken homes than happy families, or there’s more yelling than actual talking at home, we’re raising kids who are not mentally healthy– resulting to violence.

    • Tanushri

      You have a point. Maybe were just not raising generations that are psychologically healthy.

  2. The world needs a lot of work in terms of equality. We’ve come a long way but it’s still not enough.

  3. Opal Greene

    The real reason behind violence is because some men really are greedy about power. They just want to rule everything and want to dominate women even in relationships. Helping women or clicking all these links are just ways to cover up the damage, but the issue isn’t solved at all. How can we even stop men from doing this? It’s impossible! It’s like we have to gather all men and reset all of their belief just so they can be taught how to be good again.

  4. Nellie Mills

    I’m bothered by the images here and it broke my heart just by seeing it….

  5. Tracy Fletcher

    That joke about seeing Trump naked says it all. Nobody wants that, okay?🤪

  6. Andrea Doane

    We need to start correcting mindsets about abuse already. It doesn’t always come in a physical form. It can come in a lot of ways that most of us can’t even imagine.

  7. I’m starting to think that it’s so difficult for women to survive in this world now. I’m not trying to be a pessimist but if you look at the news, it’s mostly women that are the victim. I’m not saying that men can’t be victims too but it’s the majority of women being raped or battered. Parents sometimes have a role in this. When there’s more broken homes than happy families, or there’s more yelling than actual talking at home, we’re raising kids who are not mentally healthy– resulting to violence.

  8. Educate those who are very primitive with their ways. Culture can be very hard to change but it’s possible. Change the myths to truths and these people can be enlightened.

  9. Women should speak up more and never back down. It’s the only way for men to just give up trying to power trip their way through everything.

  10. Thanks, this article was eye-opening. Women really need to stand up for themselves.

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