In my book, living alone is freedom. Don’t get me wrong — I love spending time with my friends and the several guys I’m dating at any one time. But similar to a guy’s bachelor pad where he can live like a dude in all his manly glory, a gal’s homey hideaway is a liberating lair. It’s freedom from someone else’s living habits, expectations or limitations. A gal can make her own decisions on her own terms, from purchasing a living room couch to relaxing after a long workday in silence.
Unfortunately, the term “alone” often seems to imply “loneliness.” And sometimes there’s reason for that. Yet, with the right attitude (and decor) living alone is empowering, and not lonely at all. It fosters independence and the affinity to take ownership of a home as a strong, confident woman. Once I adjusted my perspective (and redecorated), I found that living without roommates was fun, relaxing and helped me to grow. Instead of arguing with or picking up after my roommate, I get to snuggle into my very own safe haven and read a book or watch whatever movie I damnwell please.
Here are five ways that helped me (and could help you!) make living alone super awesome:
Unleash Your Creativity
Your house, your rules — and that includes decorating. Making your apartment feel like YOUR home will give you a feeling of serenity and safety. You can finally arrange your photos, books and decor however you want because, hey, there’s no one else there to complain.
Design an inspired space with vintage accents and a minimalist look:
- Make a contemporary statement with velvet curtains in a rich, unconventional color scheme.
- Brighten the living room with a big, glam chandelier.
- Go exotic with a zebra-printed rug or stool.
- Create a cozy reading nook illuminated by firefly string lights.
Get a Couple of Cats
The best thing about living alone is that I get to have pets. Granted, if I had a roommate I’d have a built-in pet sitter, but I’d also have to worry about them leaving out things that could be dangerous to my little fur babies. I prefer to make a deal with a neighbor who also has pets and we help each other out when we are traveling.
Keep in mind that if you work from home then having a dog is fine, but if you work in an office you may want to get two cats instead. One pet left alone all day can get very lonely and mischievous if he or she has no one to play with. Contrary to the myths, cats are actually more affectionate to their human when they’re in multi-cat households, simply because they’re happier in general. So go to your local animal shelter and pick up two cats or siblings that have bonded.
Remember: Adopt, don’t shop. If everyone who bought a pet adopted instead, there’d be no more killings in shelters. For every pet purchased, a pet in a shelter dies because he or she doesn’t have a home. To boot, shelter pets are just as well behaved and actually have far fewer health issues than purebreds.
Relocate Anytime
The world is your oyster! Pursuing a career opportunity? Inspired to discover a new city?
- Laid back surfer-types drawn to the ocean may seek that SoCal lifestyle.
- Cyclists passionate about living green and recycling belong in Portland.
- Here’s why Hilary Rowland moved from NYC to France (plus lots of tips in case you want to do the same).
Once you change your perspective and realize that you could do, live, or be anywhere or anything, your whole world will open up. You have the freedom to make a career change and exciting move right now — and searching for a new place is all part of the adventure.
Enjoy the Power of Solitude
Your home is a personal sanctuary all to yourself. Not only can solitude be relaxing, it’s powerful. Solitude is a bit of a lost art, especially in this modern age of ultra-connectedness. Solitude is an opportunity to disconnect, contemplate, become comfortable with quietude and learn about yourself. Find peace, unwind and reflect. Embracing solitude at home may even inspire a solo trip abroad and an overseas adventure of a lifetime.
Here are a few things to do in your time alone:
- Keep a journal.
- Read some memoirs written by women.
- Paint, decorate or learn ceramics.
- Meditate and do yoga.
Become your own best friend, and you’ll never be lonely again!
Entertain!
Invite friends over for a dinner party and play hostess. This is your chance to have fun in your personal abode, and of course, show off what you’ve done to the place. Plan a theme for the evening, cook a delicious new recipe you’ve been waiting to try and cheers with a bottle of wine.
Volunteer to host a holiday get-together with your friends or family, or a birthday party for someone you care about. Take on the challenge to cook and introduce your friends to vegan food, bake pumpkin pies or decorate for a festive holiday or themed party. Or, order in! Whatever you chose to do, hosting is an enjoyable experience to be proud of.
What’s your favorite perk of living alone?
You can go without deodorant, then just shower if you get a bit sweaty and not have to worry about waking a roommate up from shower noises. LOL
ah, yes. I have lived both alone and with roommates. roommates make living cheaper, but you can’t really put a price on sitting at your kitchen table, eating cereal out of a soup tureen in your underwear at 2am. now I have a roommate that’s only home 3 days a week – best of both worlds. 🙂
Hmmmm you can choose not to have a tv in your bedroom, because bedrooms are meant for sleep – and then sleep on the couch every night, because you like to fall asleep watching tv. LOL
One good thing about living alone is no one will ask where you’re going. I can come and go as I please.
There are so many perks to living alone! Like you never have to wait for anyone to get out of the bathroom to pee or shower. 🙂
I live alone, but I am never lonely. There’s just so many things in life that I can enjoy, why would I spend it brooding on being alone? I’m not ever gonna say that singles are happier than married ones or with those still living with their parents/family. I’m pretty sure there’s certain degree of happiness and satisfaction derived from living with loved ones and significant others. But there’s also something really liberating with the idea of being able to do whatever I want in my home without having to consider other people.
I have both experienced living alone, and living with a husband and a daughter. I loved my life when I was a single. And I wasn’t a bit lonely being alone. All the points raised in this article about the good things with staying alone is completely true.
But when I got married and had a daughter, it became a totally different situation compared to when I was a single. And though I gave up some of my freedom, space, and time, I wasn’t in a bit regretful… because I gained a lot, and that compensated for what I had given up.
I was happy then, but I am happy now, too. Everything was great back when I was living a life of singlehood, but I would never give up what I have now to go back to what I had before.
My point is that no one could ever really totally compare what it’s like to be living alone and to live with someone. These are two heterogeneous circumstances with different sets of parameters. Further, there may also be a lot of different circumstances surrounding a person living alone, as may be the case with a person who lives with someone. In any case, the circumstances are highly differentiated, that it would be quite unfair to compare. Both situations has its advantages and disadvantages, and in the end, it’s about how we perceive our situation that matters.
Wow! I’ve read the perks of living alone and there are so many. I’ve always wanted to live by myself but my mom wouldn’t allow me because i’m still studying, She’s like an old-fashioned woman. Maybe she will let me live alone after graduating and when i have found a job, i hope that time will come sooner. I want to live alone, petting a cat while watching my favorite TV show. If that time comes i will be very very happy. 😀
I’m also living alone because i am a designer and i think it is required in my opinion. Having a peaceful environment for me will help me become more productive. You can also seriously think when making decisions and it’s less stress. You have all the time for yourself and you can do whatever you wanted to do when you’re alone. If you do not want to shower and feel like smelling a bit stinky you can also that when you’re alone. haha!
SO TRUE! I’m also living by myself and even managing my own business. i am living alone because i don’t want to live on my parents house forever and you are also right, you wouldn’t feel lonely but you will have peace. i want to feel that i can do a thing without asking any help from them. I want to be independent and i want to decide on my own. i love my parents that’s why i’m living alone because i do not want to depend on them.