How would you feel if the person of your dreams fell wildly in love with you? How would you feel if every time you saw that person they gave you butterflies and made you laugh? How about if they were honest, kept no secrets, and lavished you with the perfect amount of attention and affection? If you were never bored with this person and that they always revved your engine?
Imagine that’s your reality, but your family and friends told you that you couldn’t be with this person. No, this isn’t a Romeo and Juliet tale; this is quite a different story.
This is the story of Anna Karenina, the celebrated tale from the 1800s. It’s about a woman who finds perfect love while living in imperfect circumstances. It is the story of Anna who is both moral and immoral, sweet and sassy, a woman who seeks advice but who then refuses to listen to it. Anna sounds like the modern girl, sometimes polished and proper but other times raw and unrestrained. As you listen to her story narrated by Golden Globe winning actress Maggie Gyllenhaal on Audible (they’re offering a free 1 month trial), you’ll find yourself both rooting for Anna and against her.
Her marriage to the formally stiff, impassionate bureaucrat, Alexei Karenin has become the ultimate emblem of everything Karenina despises, as it is loveless and false. However, the tastefully reserved, elegant Karenina has no wishes to end her marriage or leave her beloved son… until she meets Alexei Vronsky, the dashing, passionate military officer. To Karenina, Vronsky represents a life she yearns for, filled with passion and affection.
You’ll feel as though you, or a friend, could be in her exact circumstances. The truth is, all of us have been where Anna is — maybe not with a husband, but certainly with a boyfriend (or two). We’ve all searched for true love, sometimes finding it but more often picking through fool’s gold. We’ve wondered when the perfect person–the one with looks, brains, personality, and utter sex appeal–will sweep us off our feet.
But very few of us stop and think about what happens when we do find this person. Do we immediately jump in if the circumstances aren’t right? Do we try to change the circumstances to make them right? What if we know that we have to do wrong for things to be right? Do we still do it?
Nowadays, if you find yourself in an unhappy marriage, you can get a divorce. There are no repercussions such as social exile or the possibility of estrangement from your children. Can you imagine living in the time of Anna Karenina where women married young, and yet divorce was all but unheard of, and women who stepped outside of their marriages became social pariahs? So many women must have missed out on true love.
Anna Karenina will make you ask yourself these questions. Just like Anna, I feel that I’m a moral person, and yet I’m not so sure what I’d do if I felt similarly trapped. Listening to the story, it made me feel her emotions, question my approach to fidelity, and provided fodder for some enlightening conversations with my friends. As I listened to it narrated on Audible, I wondered: what would have happened if I met my hubby (who is fortunately the man of my dreams) while I was stuck in a loveless relationship? What would I have done?
What would you have done if you were in that situation? This story will help you answer that question.
Now imagine that the man you fall for is also married. Does the inevitability of destroying another woman’s life change things? Would you stuff those feelings down and ignore them, as Anna’s husband (much more poetically) requested she do? We may sometimes be tempted to deceive ourselves when it comes to relationships, convincing ourselves that the one we’re with is “the one,” even if we suspect, deep down, that something isn’t quite right. But is self-deception ever a good thing?
Another wrinkle in this story is the blatantly sexist double standard; while Anna is cast as a “depraved woman” and shunned from society, her lover is distraught, yes, but never overly apologetic. When his friend chides him, he jokingly calls his friend a “moralist,” implying that the entire situation is to be taken lightly, despite his wife’s inconsolability. This demonstrates the double standard that is still alive and well today; that “boys will be boys” but women who commit the same adulterous or sexual acts as men are labeled as a “slut,” “bitch,” or somehow socially devious and therefore an unworthy individual.
If you want to engage with an entertaining tale that will make you laugh, make you cry, and make you question right and wrong, look no further than Anna Karenina on Audible, my fav source to listen to the best books on the go (which is always!).
Speaking of audiobooks, I love listening to them while driving. On long plane, train or automobile rides, nothing is more absorbing than listening to a good book. When I’m sitting in traffic in an Uber, I find myself lost in a spectacular story rather than listening to the persistent sirens, construction noises and honking.
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Women go through a lot of hardships just by the words that are being thrown at them when they do something that’s socially unacceptable…?
I hate how cheating is so rampant nowadays and it seems normal already. PEOPLE, IT’S NOT! Please don’t cheat on your partners just because you think its trendy now.
Anna Karenina is a nice read. It was really interesting and it just makes me want to be thankful that women have it better now.
Read this in college and it was great. It’s my 1st time hearing about audible and I tried to register for the trial. So far, it’s great. I’ve downloaded a couple of audiobooks in my list now. I’m happy!
I was told that people cheat because their partners lack something and that they managed to look for that missing ‘something’ in another person. However, this doesn’t mean that you can justify cheating now. Everyone lacks in something and one person can’t have it all. I think it’s a matter of self-control at times. I also think that if you’re focused on someone, there’s no way you’d look at someone else. I think relationships fail because of being too distracted and we don’t focus on the people who we have in front of us.
Nope, infidelity can’t ever be justified. Whatever reasons you have, just don’t.
Read this book ages ago but I haven’t tried the Audiobook version. I feel like giving this a re-read so I’m going to register in Audible.
There’s no way that infidelity can be justified. Just put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Whether you’re the cheater or the one being cheated on, it’s unfair for both parties. I could never think of a good reason to cheat no matter how I think of it. Just let go of the other person and go with the one that you want. The only good thing nowadays is that we have divorce and it’s easier to let go of the other person than to leave one hanging while you’re dangled somewhere else.
This is a classic. I really love this book and I love Audible so much. It just made book reading better.
Came across Anna Karenina before and it’s a good story. I really love how it was narrated too. Topic is quite intense actually.?