3 Lessons For Women: How To Empower Yourself Financially

This may end up being the most important article you read all year. Really!


On a recent girl’s night out my two best friends and I gathered for dinner and engaged in our usual discussion about work, politics, culture, new things we’ve discovered that we’re loving, and updates on what’s happening in our lives, which were nothing out of the ordinary. But on this night, a new topic found its way into our conversation: money.

3 Lessons For Women: How To Empower Yourself Financially

Why is talking about money still off-limits?

One of my friends had started a new job and the topic of savings arose; suddenly we all tensed up. “How much have you saved up?” I asked, feeling as if I was crossing a forbidden boundary. “I’m not telling you, it’s embarrassing.” We quickly changed topics. For a few moments we were completely incapable of talking candidly, as we have for the past 16 years.

Usually nothing is off the table with us: sex, health problems, relationship concerns, anything, no matter how sordid, icky, or complicated, we discuss it – often quite proudly with onlookers listening in. But money is a sore spot. We’re taught at a very young age to avoid the topic: “Never ask how much someone makes,” said, well, everyone. As women, it’s just not something we discuss, unless it’s somehow related to who we’re dating or our shopping habits.

Money is a feminist issue — and yet, women are still reluctant to talk about it.

But this is how a patriarchy operates — it’s designed to keep women oppressed by keeping them poorer (and thereby giving them less options and freedom) than men. Part of that is paying women less for the same work, charging ‘luxury tax’ on things like tampons, charging women higher rates for just about everything from haircuts to healthcare, and making talking about money, salary, and savings taboo for women. Together, as woman who want equal rights and freedoms, we must empower each other to open up about money and regain control, so that we can have power over our finances and future.

Seriously — It’s time to start talking about money! Come on — You can admit it. You love money. I mean really — who doesn’t?! We all want more of it.

3 Lessons For Women: How To Empower Yourself Financially

Yes, you can grab the power. Control your financial freedom!

Today, women account for 52% of the world’s population and influence 75% of all purchases. Women worldwide represent the main source of income for 30% of homes, and 48% of female workers contribute half — or more than half — of the household income. Yet for every one female millionaire, there are four men to rain on her parade. What gives?

From childhood we are taught that while we shouldn’t discuss money, going shopping (ie. lowering our bank account and putting our money into the pockets of mostly male-owned corporations) is the way to get over a breakup, bond with girlfriends, or simply spend a Saturday. And male-written fairy tales like Cinderella teach girls that men are the moneymakers and women are the booty shakers, so to speak. Through adulthood, shows like “Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire” give us the idea that catching the man means catching the cash.

But forget marriage! There are better ways to gain financial freedom rather than marrying a rich old man. Besides, if it’s not really your money, then you still don’t have financial freedom. So many women are all too willing to hand everything over to their husband — and when he leaves, so does their financial security. And then there’s the issue of your self-respect. Oh yeah, that.

Life is fickle. Circumstances beyond your control could rapidly change your life, whether it’s divorce, death, pregnancy, losing your job, needing to move, unexpected bills, etc. There are a lot of good reasons for women to be financially prepared.

I get that learning about money management sounds a lot like homework (ick), and that financial stuff and investments can be… well… kinda intimidating. Beyond the fact that it’s all tediously complex, I, like most people, have to resist the tendency to tune out when my husband starts talking about investing in securities, the stock market, or other income earning assets. Without the help of a great financial advisor, making investments can be a daunting task. But luckily, these aren’t the only kind of investments that can help to secure your financial future.

Many women, at every level of success, have a very distant, unattached feeling towards money, coupled with a very personal anxiety. And eventually this feeling catches up to us.

Here are some ideas to help you take back the power:

3 Lessons For Women: How To Empower Yourself Financially

Use financial companies that put modern women first

We’ve all gotten that credit or debit card we were going to use to “build credit” or “cover emergency expenses,” only to use it to splurge on items we just had to have. Those slightly-over-budget OTK boots? Check. That Equinox membership we almost never use? Check. That $40 lipstick that’s probably poisoning us? Check.

But while we knew we would have to pay some fees or interest on these purchases, what we didn’t know is that we would be charged a tiny fortune in hidden “service” and “luxury fees.” They add up — fast! This is money that belongs to us but is being taken from us without our knowledge because many banks and credit card companies have not been up front with us about it.

But this is just one example. There are literally dozens of other examples of avoidable hidden fees from banking products and services we are buying or signing up for that are being taken—some might say stolen—from us. The average adult in the U.S. is paying nearly $1,000 in these types of hidden fees every year that are charging us without our knowledge. And if you remember my earlier example, saving those fees could add up to over half a million dollars by the time you retire. That’s right!

Now, before you go into an “eyes-glaze-over” phase on me, hear me out girl.

3 Lessons For Women: How To Empower Yourself Financially

Radius’ platform makes money management easy!

Here’s how can you avoid letting hidden fees run you dry:
By choosing your financial services providers very carefully.

My favorite bank is Radius Bank.

Radius is an online and mobile bank that is all about empowerment and transparency. They don’t charge hidden fees — instead, they give you interest, 1% cash back on purchases, plus unlimited worldwide ATM fee reimbursements! Yowza! Plus, they empower women with online video courses, and have cool, built-in budgeting features.

They also have a mobile app that allows you to quickly send money to anyone, turn your bank/credit card on or off remotely, add geo restrictions, set spending caps, see your budget, get alerts, make mobile payments, and more. Misplaced your card for the upteenth time? No worries! Just switch it off in the app until you find it. Prettttyyy cool! And it only takes 5 minutes to open an account online.

Pages: 1 2 3

Avatar of Hilary Rowland

A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she lives in Monte Carlo, but spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always traveling, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 184 Comments

  1. Avatar of Kelly Gonzales

    Kelly Gonzales

    I’m a single mom and surviving with a single paycheck is driving me nuts.

  2. Avatar of Candis Melton

    Candis Melton

    Women need to be financially dependent. You’ll never know what will happen in the future.

  3. Avatar of Carrie Bleau

    Carrie Bleau

    Budgeting is really important but what sucks about it is that you have to have enough emergency funds. I always get a lot of emergencies and uncontrolled expenses, which results to spending the savings that I have. As much as I didn’t want to touch my savings, I really can’t do much since it’s for emergency. I guess my next goal is to earn more in order to have extra money for emergency funds. Can’t do much about the budgeting part unless I really earn more. ?

  4. Avatar of Judith Jones

    Judith Jones

    It was only recently that I learned about how money is really hard to earn and that I need to save up. I was a late bloomer, okay?

  5. Avatar of Cheryl Cox

    Cheryl Cox

    It’s not smart for women not to make investments. Financial stability can be very critical.

  6. Avatar of Shirley Flores

    Shirley Flores

    I’ve been trying to remind my daughter to be responsible about her purchases. I’m having a hard time explaining to her that even if money is a necessity, material things shouldn’t be the main focus of her life. It’s actually very hard to explain because look at this article. It’s trying to tell us that money is everything.

  7. Avatar of Diana Scott

    Diana Scott

    Radius bank is actually really cool. It also has stuff about how you can invest and all. Super love the interface and you can really personalize the settings so you can figure out how much you’re spending on certain categories such as health related stuff, food, rent, etc. I find it really helpful because it can help me plan ahead with my money. It also made me realize that even the smallest savings can turn out to be a big thing if you really take the time to save it.

  8. Avatar of Jeannie Hernandez

    Jeannie Hernandez

    I have a friend who’s a little loose on screws. She and her husband earn a good amount of money but she only spends her salary for luxury. Then, she relies on her husband to take care of all the bills.

    • Avatar of Cherri Evans

      Cherri Evans

      Not sure if that’s smart, or a root of horrible arguments in the future.

  9. Avatar of Maria Wilkins

    Maria Wilkins

    Having a side business isn’t always easy. There’s always a risk of failing at some point and it’s not exactly for people who don’t have much extra money.

  10. Avatar of Tami Ruiz

    Tami Ruiz

    Women need to have great money management talents. You can earn a lot of money but if you don’t know how to manage it, it will all go to waste. Even if you’re not earning a lot, money management can really help. It’s true that there are actually a lot of available companies that help women be empowered with money. It’s great when it’s specifically for women because not all general approach works for everybody. It’s great when it’s especially for us women because they know how our mind works.

Load 10 more comments

Join in the Conversation! Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Urbanette moderates and edits comments for grammar and to facilitate an informed, substantive, civil conversation. Abusive, profane, promotional, misleading, incoherent or off-topic comments will be rejected. Please use your full name. Moderators can only approve comments written in English.

All content is strictly copyright. Contact us for permission.