In my book, living alone is freedom. Don’t get me wrong — I love spending time with my friends and the several guys I’m dating at any one time. But similar to a guy’s bachelor pad where he can live like a dude in all his manly glory, a gal’s homey hideaway is a liberating lair. It’s freedom from someone else’s living habits, expectations or limitations. A gal can make her own decisions on her own terms, from purchasing a living room couch to relaxing after a long workday in silence.
Unfortunately, the term “alone” often seems to imply “loneliness.” And sometimes there’s reason for that. Yet, with the right attitude (and decor) living alone is empowering, and not lonely at all. It fosters independence and the affinity to take ownership of a home as a strong, confident woman. Once I adjusted my perspective (and redecorated), I found that living without roommates was fun, relaxing and helped me to grow. Instead of arguing with or picking up after my roommate, I get to snuggle into my very own safe haven and read a book or watch whatever movie I damnwell please.
Here are five ways that helped me (and could help you!) make living alone super awesome:
Unleash Your Creativity
Your house, your rules — and that includes decorating. Making your apartment feel like YOUR home will give you a feeling of serenity and safety. You can finally arrange your photos, books and decor however you want because, hey, there’s no one else there to complain.
Design an inspired space with vintage accents and a minimalist look:
- Make a contemporary statement with velvet curtains in a rich, unconventional color scheme.
- Brighten the living room with a big, glam chandelier.
- Go exotic with a zebra-printed rug or stool.
- Create a cozy reading nook illuminated by firefly string lights.
Get a Couple of Cats
The best thing about living alone is that I get to have pets. Granted, if I had a roommate I’d have a built-in pet sitter, but I’d also have to worry about them leaving out things that could be dangerous to my little fur babies. I prefer to make a deal with a neighbor who also has pets and we help each other out when we are traveling.
Keep in mind that if you work from home then having a dog is fine, but if you work in an office you may want to get two cats instead. One pet left alone all day can get very lonely and mischievous if he or she has no one to play with. Contrary to the myths, cats are actually more affectionate to their human when they’re in multi-cat households, simply because they’re happier in general. So go to your local animal shelter and pick up two cats or siblings that have bonded.
Remember: Adopt, don’t shop. If everyone who bought a pet adopted instead, there’d be no more killings in shelters. For every pet purchased, a pet in a shelter dies because he or she doesn’t have a home. To boot, shelter pets are just as well behaved and actually have far fewer health issues than purebreds.
Relocate Anytime
The world is your oyster! Pursuing a career opportunity? Inspired to discover a new city?
- Laid back surfer-types drawn to the ocean may seek that SoCal lifestyle.
- Cyclists passionate about living green and recycling belong in Portland.
- Here’s why Hilary Rowland moved from NYC to France (plus lots of tips in case you want to do the same).
Once you change your perspective and realize that you could do, live, or be anywhere or anything, your whole world will open up. You have the freedom to make a career change and exciting move right now — and searching for a new place is all part of the adventure.
Enjoy the Power of Solitude
Your home is a personal sanctuary all to yourself. Not only can solitude be relaxing, it’s powerful. Solitude is a bit of a lost art, especially in this modern age of ultra-connectedness. Solitude is an opportunity to disconnect, contemplate, become comfortable with quietude and learn about yourself. Find peace, unwind and reflect. Embracing solitude at home may even inspire a solo trip abroad and an overseas adventure of a lifetime.
Here are a few things to do in your time alone:
- Keep a journal.
- Read some memoirs written by women.
- Paint, decorate or learn ceramics.
- Meditate and do yoga.
Become your own best friend, and you’ll never be lonely again!
Entertain!
Invite friends over for a dinner party and play hostess. This is your chance to have fun in your personal abode, and of course, show off what you’ve done to the place. Plan a theme for the evening, cook a delicious new recipe you’ve been waiting to try and cheers with a bottle of wine.
Volunteer to host a holiday get-together with your friends or family, or a birthday party for someone you care about. Take on the challenge to cook and introduce your friends to vegan food, bake pumpkin pies or decorate for a festive holiday or themed party. Or, order in! Whatever you chose to do, hosting is an enjoyable experience to be proud of.
What’s your favorite perk of living alone?
Isn’t it more fun if you have a housemate? You have someone to talk to, and you can still do those things even if you have a housemate, right?
Omg! I love cats. They make my heart flutter. Those little tiny creatures, I going to get kittens!
I’m planning to adopt kittens, any idea where can I adopt? Which is better? Kitten or puppies?
Having a pet at home makes you feel that you’re not alone. Please, do not buy pets, as much as possible adopt them.
Living alone is an advantage for writers. Writers tend to be alone once they start working, and being alone at home means you have more time to work.
The perk of living alone is that you can bring a guy without being judged. There are no eyes to you whenever you want to bring a date at your apartment.
I will follow your tips, Sarah. I’m going to move out next week. I don’t know how to start because I don’t have any idea about living alone. Thank God I found this article. 🙂
I like living alone. There’s no pressure, and I can invite my friends to come over and do some stuff. You can do whatever you want to do when you live alone, that’s the beauty of it.
There are times that you can feel that you are alone. The saddest part of living alone is that you have no one to talk to at your home.
I am living alone in NYC for several years until now. It was not easy at first. I cried every night for almost a year. The struggle is real, but then I conquered the fear of being alone.