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Angelina Jolie on Her Insecurities & Finding Happiness

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Angelina Jolie is much more than an A-list celebrity. In addition to her publicity-brewing personal life – with Brad Pitt and her many children – Angelina has always maintained the public’s intrigue.

The complex character is known for her dueling personalities: she’s a biker chick, political activist, and mother all rolled into one. It’s because of her seemingly opposing interests and dedications that few really have a grasp of who the real Angelina is. What better way to find out than through her own – very famously sexy – lips.

Angelina Jolie on Her Insecurities & Finding Happiness

Urbanette Magazine: What’s your take on having a public image?

Angelina Jolie: I like to hide behind the characters I play. Despite the public’s perception, I am a very private person who has a hard time with the fame thing. I would like to be open with the public. I don’t want to keep secrets or be careful when I talk. I don’t want to have to plan things. I want to be outspoken! I want to say my opinions and I hope they’re taken in the right way. I don’t want to stop being free. …and I won’t…

Urbanette: What caused problems in your previous marriage?

Angelina: It was a real deep connection, a deep marriage, so it’s not that simple to say this or that one thing caused the problems. It’s clear to me that our priorities shifted overnight. He’s focused on his music and career. I’m focused on my children.

Angelina Jolie on Her Insecurities & Finding Happiness

Urbanette: Are you ever insecure?

Angelina: Oh, God, I struggle with low self-esteem all the time! I think everyone does. I have so much wrong with me. I’m odd looking. Sometimes I think I look like a funny muppet.

Urbanette: How do you find true happiness?

Angelina: We come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. Love one person, take care of them until you die. You know, raise kids. Have a good life. Be a good friend. And try to be completely who you are. And figure out what you personally love. And go after it with everything you’ve got no matter how much it takes.

 We come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. Love one person, take care of them until you die

Urbanette: How did your UN ambassador role affect your film career?

Angelina: My role as goodwill ambassador has made my work as a film star relatively dull. I can’t find anything that interests me enough to go back to work. I’m simply not excited about anything. I’m not excited about going to a film set.

Urbanette: What about your ‘bad girl’ image?

Angelina: Because I seem like a bad girl, people always automatically think that I am 100% bad girl. Or that I carry a dark secret with me or that I’m obsessed with death. The truth is that I am probably the least morbid person one can meet. If I think more about death than some other people, it is probably because I love life more than they do!

Urbanette: How do you escape all this?

Angelina: If you don’t get out of the box you’ve been raised in, you won’t understand how much bigger the world is. You might never find out that you are useful for all the right reasons – and not all those stupid things that people tell you you’re useful for.

Urbanette: What makes you feel special?

Angelina: I’m going to come home and my babies are going to be in little pajamas and come running at me and hug me. Then I’ll feel special.

Originally from Denver and now living in NYC, Angie has been writing since she was small. She lives in the Flatiron district with her partner Tanya and their mutt Sparky (always adopt!) In her spare time she loves to paint (mostly abstract) and talk to random people on the street to find out what's interesting to them.

49 Comments

  1. Sara Rypstra

    This interview is so wonderful! ^^ I see now how amazing person she is. It looks like she gave all of the advice from withing her heart and it’s something that you don’t hear from a lot of people. She tells us to be unique, to leave an impact on the world, and to care about ourselves. She is also outspoken about insecurities and prejudice about herself. That shows us that even the people who are considered the most beautiful are concerned about their physical appearance and that people are generally close-minded when it comes to judging other people.

  2. Jenny Garett

    I really love her! She’s spreading awareness about Breast Cancer and redefining herself every day.

  3. Felicia Stewart

    I used to love her until she had an affair with Brad Pitt during the filming of Mr. & Mrs. Smith, while Pitt was married to Jennifer Aniston. Pitt subsequently divorced Aniston and married Jolie instead.

  4. Gwen Keaton

    I think she is an amazing human being. And this interview is really inspirational. Her mother taught her something that is very valuable. The answer to the question “Why are we here?” Her mother taught her that “Nothing would mean anything in this life if we didn’t live a life of use to others.” We are here to make a difference in somebody else’s life as best as we possibly can. As many else’s and in as many ways possible. Two women in two worlds. One has everything and the other has nothing. She doesn’t know why that is. But she is grateful enough to care for the people who doesn’t have anything. And she feels responsible to do anything possible for anyone who is not privileged.

  5. Delilah Peyton

    All the haters with nothing but negative remarks should be ashamed of themselves. This is a wonderful woman who has a wonderful family. They are to be admired not hated.

  6. Jae Medina

    I admire her for having all the surgeries to save her future life so she can be with her children and husband and to prevent the terrible disease from taking over. She is very beautiful and a terrific actress. And she still has to take care of her children and keep her family happy, while she’s reaching out to the world to help those in need. That’s respectable!

  7. Dana Rosatti

    What a wonderful human being! She contributes actively and discreetly to humanitarian demining and those I know who have met her in the field speak highly of her. These are not people easily impressed by Hollywood tinsel princesses.

  8. Ayla Pennington

    Whether one likes her or not, she’s sure pushing the limits and not afraid to try to do what she thinks will make the world a better place. She doesn’t just sit around writing snippy comments online while contributing nothing to society, like so many people do.

  9. Sabrina Grattidge

    As an actress there have been some good performances, the same for her husband. I have only seen one of her films as a director which I liked. As for her humanitarian work well she is trying which is more than most people do. As for happiness who said fame brings you that ? She sounds more normal than many other Hollywood personalities.

  10. Shelley Donalds

    Loved this interview. I think she’s a very inspiratioal and good person. She does a lot of great humanitarian work,bringing situations to light that most people aren’t aware of. And she seems to have grown a lot as a person since her early career. But I still just don’t like her acting or directing. Her acting comes across as stiff and superficial. Kind of like she is a actor playing a actor that’s playing a part. She seems disconnected from her roles.

  11. Kim Hartford

    Amazing interview! Very inspiring and heartwarming. She is a unique soul, a caring, empathetic human being, doing her part to make the planet a better place.

  12. I don’t know when this happened, but somewhere along the line, Angelina Jolie suddenly became this very serious, significant person with depth and gravitas, who has interesting things to say and do about the world.

    Maybe she was always like this, but I remember the late 1990s and early 2000s, when she’d just won her first Oscar, and she was constantly portrayed as a frivolous, out-of-control wild child. Then she started her humanitarian work, where she’s actually done real work as opposed to just lending her name as many celebrities do. She started making better films. She started writing and directing. She started speaking out on women’s issues and humanitarian issues. It’s quite a transformation.

    • She grew up. She seems like a genuine person. Of course one can always be cynical and say that it is her public persona. She is quite a contrast to her father who is a real piece of work lol

  13. Debbie Jones

    I give recognition to the her for her philanthropy work above her career. Of course, if it were not for her career, her philanthropy work most likely wouldn’t exist. Those who gain stardom and riches from the world’s people and put back into that world in a positive way says much more about them. And then there are people like Enya who sucks the world dry and disappears into a castle…

    • Julia MacLean

      Where the hell did that come from? How does she manage to “suck the world dry”? How do you know she doesn’t privately give to charity without hollering about it? What a fatuous comment.

  14. Diana Hewitt

    Thanks for the brilliant interview. Really made my day. ? Reading some comments below, i could not figure out why people criticize her. She is not begging for attention like other celebrities who just want to be in limelight for their makeup, dresses and parties. I like her acting and she is doing great job as a mother and human being.

  15. Charleen Washington

    I respect her. But I still can’t shake the feeling that she may be a sociopath, carefully curating a public persona, and that she will one day drop her children and quickly as she collected them. I think all of this as she reminds me so much of someone I know who takes on pets who are then abandoned, frequently changes jobs, cars , homes and has trouble maintaining relationships. The woman has a son who she eventually got bored of and moved on from. The woman is also manipulative and cruel. I don’t know Jolie from Adam but I get the same chill when I read about her that I get when I see this woman. It is probably all in my head!

    • Calling adopting children as ‘collecting’ shows what a warped mind and heart and soul you have. She has only adopted 3 children, and that was 6 years ago. Angelina has never abandoned any one. In fact, her being a tireless worker for the UN for 13, yes, thirteen, years, shows she has commitment and staying power. I think your own insecurities and jealousies are driving your feelings and projections.

      • Charleen Washington

        I really upset you – sorry! I’m not insecure or jealous at all. In fact I very much look up to and admire strong, powerful women, (although admittedly actresses don’t tend to make that list) – Helen Clark, Hillary Clinton, Mary Wollstonecraft. As I said – it is probably just all in my head. It was just one of those instances where someone reminds you hugely of someone else and you can’t help but ascribe similar traits as a result. It felt to me like she was collecting children because of the way she went about it – making sure they were from or born in different countries and tattooing the coordinates of those places on herself. It did give a sense of children as collectibles. Not to say that was her intent. Like I say – I don’t know her from Adam! Also, I have read (and to be fair you can’t believe all you read) that she was described as sociopathic at high school. There is also something from a long time ago about her describing herself being cruel to animals as a child. Anyway it doesn’t really matter. Point is, in life there are people that make your alarm bells go off. For whatever reason that happens to me when I read about her. Same with Jeremy Renner – there is something about him that sets of warning bells although I don’t really know why! It is quite bonkers of me, really, but there it is I’m an intuitive sort, always have been, which is weird because I work with data and evidence based conclusions are what I am all about! But when it comes to people I pick up things. Most of the tiime I try to ignore those feelings. This is one rare time where I have acknowledged them!

  16. Angelina and Brad have evidently ‘heaped coals’ of fire on my head, by being such wonderful parents. Like most parents, they probably only see their failings, but it’s a nice thought that one day their love will be shown to them in its glory, for ‘paying forward’ the love that God has evidently put in their hearts.

  17. Angelina! I respect her enormously. She is very charming and a fierce individualist. She is a powerful Woman. Very graceful, intelligent, sophisticated, talented. She has a very endearing and attractive “grunge” (for want of a better word)side of her persona, too, that many of her ilk do not have. I would put my coat over a puddle for her any time! I like Brad very much, too. Talented couple. Bless their every move and wishing them and their children lots of happiness and contentment. Hope they can make each other happy for the rest of their lives. Hmm, my fingers don’t want to stop typing about Angelina. I would like to dedicate The Doors LA Woman to her. She conjures the spirit of LA just the same as that album.

  18. Christina Norelli

    Commenters are begin unfair, she is a successful woman, lots of tenacity and lots of heart who wants to do some positive in the world – all good.

  19. Teresa Tanner

    Can’t say I’m a fan of many of her films – though Maleficent was amazing film to trip through – but she has made Tyler Durden happy and for that I’m grateful.

    Her UN work, I’m always torn on that. Celeb does something good with their public image, they’re just trying to better their public image. But if a celeb doesn’t do something good with their profile, well, then they’re a selfish pig.

    I admit I just don’t let them win either way on that. But her cancer statements were brave, and personal, and if they helped some women I won’t do anything other than give her credit for it.

  20. I think this woman is brilliant.

    I had my ovaries taken away because I also have high risk ovarian cancer. These kind of decisions put life into new perspective when you are faced with choices like this, especially when you have children (I am the mother of girls.) It creates empathy with other people, especially those not so fortunate or lucky as the rest of us, clarifying the more important things in life.

    Rock on Angelina, you are inspirational.

  21. She’s a self-serving celebrity at the end of the day. How about an article on the millions of unsung heroes who daily help others with no thought of reward.

    • Self serving?? She’s done a hell of a lot more than you’ll do in your lifetime to help others and more than almost any other actor in history. Try doing some reading before venting your daily frustrations on something you clearly know nothing about.

      • Her own father described her as having “serious mental problems”. Amongst them a proclivity to self-mutilate. ? What do YOU know? YOU do some reading!

        • Um, what on earth has that got to do with anything? Desperate, much? Her own father was exposed as abusive with serious mental problems. Consider the source.

  22. I do like her … a lot. After her money gives her basic freedoms that some of us can only dream of, she still comes across as very human, full of human frailties, and an understanding that she doesn’t have the answers (unlike the Lohan and her Burberry blankets). I applaud her for wanting to make her kids bolder, to push out the boundaries. It’s a fine line between turning out well balanced individuals and shallow wastrels. Good luck to her.

  23. She’s famous for her acting and credit to her, she has leveraged that to raise the profile of causes she cares about. Every woman has many other aspects to their lives that are exhaustive and courageous but don’t ever get the acknowledgment AJ receives. Aside from a famous father and husband and the funds to pursue a large family and personal passions, what has she done to deserve it?

    • Every woman has those aspects but not the ability to leverage. I’d rather her than no-one at all.

  24. There are not many Hollywood entertainers that I like as people. Jolie is an exception. She appears authentic and comes off as being humble and grounded as a human… at least as much as she could be given her celebrity. She walks much more than her talk… something I wish ALL celebrity entertainers would take note of and follow.

    And she also radiates strong materialism that is so lacking in much of the Hollywood elite.

  25. Great interview Angela! I have so much respect for Angelina. Your interview made me respect her even more. Thank you! What a lovely human being. Almost unreal! Great job. 🙂

  26. In our modern society where most women are influenced by “glossy magazines,” celebrities and models, I feel very happy that a someone being looked up to admits she has insecurities, that she’s not perfect and have some flaw(s).

  27. This smells like promo. Talking about examined life suggests wisdom, often from a philosopher. An actress’s qualifications for such a place in society? Money, looks, fame? Beyond comical.

  28. Always thought she was a fluff ball. I was impressed and enlightened. Thanks, Angela Davis. Not what I expected, but learned something about making assumptions about people.

  29. She is insanely gorgeous and such a sweet awesome person in general for all she has done for other countries that aren’t so fortunate and for her adopting those kids…I just love her overall but she really is gorgeous hahah, one of the best looking actresses and most genuine…

  30. Its so nice to see celebs as famous as she is still seeks for guidance, and questions what she still wants to do in her life. She is inspirational

  31. Angelina Jolie is a beautiful woman, in and out. She has become such an inspiration to the whole world! I love her really much 🙂 She is one of my role models. 

  32. Angeline Jolie is one of the stars I look up to. I find it weird that she finds herself as a “funny muppet.” I mean, really?! That thought crosses her mind?!

    • Yeah I know, she frequently received “most beautiful woman” remarks but she’s thinking her face is odd?! Indeed, so courageous of her to admit!

    • She’s beautiful inside-out! I admire her for being concerned about the world’s problem. In another interview, I read she said, “I have so many things going on that I don’t even have time to worry about myself in a selfish sense.”

      Amazing woman!

  33. Great interview article! You just proved that even famous celebrities are like us, ordinary people, who feel somehow “incomplete” / insecure. She’s very admirable.

    One lesson became clear to me, it’s definitely about finding and accepting one’s true worth!

  34. Daniel Mount

    Angie – You really have to look a bit closer to that image in the mirror because you look absolutely fantastic and gorgeous. I am a man’s man and I only love great and gorgeous women… you are so beautiful and always have been. Brad is one lucky guy!

  35. Courtney Watson

    She is such an inspiration! I love the work she’s been doing in the charity space. What a woman!

  36. Randie Cadiogan

    Angelina is an actress to idolize not just because of her “great” acting skills BUT because of her heart and passion. Just the fact that her children’s hug make her feel special proves that even BIGGEST STARS are ALSO HUMAN, like us 🙂

  37. I love how passionate she is about the things she does! It's an inspiring way to live.

  38. After reading this article, it only makes me admire Angelina more. Her relationship with her children are absolutely beautiful. And it's great that she can share her insecurities with us. I would have never known that she thought she looked odd like an ugly muppet. That made me laugh a little.

  39. Jen Spillane

    Wow. It is always encouraging to read an interview with a celebrity who is open about her insecurities. That's a very courageous thing to share.

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