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Thinking About Cheating? 12 Reasons Why You Should
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それは彼らのせいです
「非難ゲーム」は、不正行為であるとすでにわかっていることを正当化できるため、詐欺師のお気に入りのゲームです。 多くの詐欺師は、裏切りの考え、そして最終的には裏切り行為につながる精神的および感情的な問題に対処するという選択肢を模索するのではなく、責任を負わせることで自分自身を言い訳します。 「私は十分な注意を払っていない」「彼らは決して家にいない」などの言い訳は古典的な引用です。
責めるのは簡単です。 これにより、詐欺師は、責任を負ったり、根本的な問題に対処したりすることなく、悪い行為を認め、同時にそれを正当化することができます。 多くの場合、詐欺師は、立ち向かうと感情的、精神的な負担が大きすぎることを恐れます。
回避は非難につながり、非難は自己破壊につながり、双方の自尊心が絶えず損なわれます。
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Ronnie
I’m regretting falling in love with my partner. To begin with, I fell in love with an alcoholic who later became sober within the first year of our relationship. Her sobriety is great, however it showed me the true person that was under the drunken lie. I adjusted my life to help her stay sober and it’s working for her, however it’s taking a toll on me and all the accommodations I’ve made to continue to be in a relationship with her. She’s pushed me away many times over the course of our relationship and even told me if she was me she wouldn’t be in the type of relationship she’s putting me through. She’s so inconsistent in her mind and heart that it’s stifling me now. I recently tried to pull away and take a break, to give her the space and freedom she wants. When I did, she kept reaching out and wouldn’t allow me to clear her from my mind. I came back and not even a week later she was back to being her lame, inconsistent, empty promising, over obsessed with her family’s approval (she’s Latina, deep deep deep deep deep obsession with her family of alcoholics who never knew how to show her love and affection) lackluster self in our relationship again. I have never cheated in any relationship I have been in BUT now I am strongly considering. Simply just to cleanse my mind, body and spirit of her energy. It’s a sad truth and reality that I’m faced with right now.
Dean
No cheater will let their significant other have access to their device which is why it has become so hard for people to get evidence of infidelity. You can break rules to get the peace of mind you deserve. There are only a few people who can pull this off and you have to be extremely careful.
I had to put up with a cheating partner for almost two years until I decided to get evidence since I had nothing on her. It was a tough decision but it was necessary!
Nora
Women cheat on men all the time too…. or at least think about it. I’m not sure why everyone is only focused on men cheating when I know plenty of women face the same problem
Diana
Men who think they’re so attractive cheat. They feel like it adds a length to their thing whenever they cheat. Too bad, because no it doesn’t.
Dawn Breedlove
Excitement really dies. Eventually you’ll get bored of the thrill and what has become of that new found relationship of yours? Nothing.?
Tara Todd
I saw on my newsfeed once about the ad in the billboard when her husband cheated. Kinda thought it was real but that was funny af.
Paula Wilkins
I’ve heard it so many times that men who cheat will blame their partners for their inadequacy. If there’s anyone who’s inadequate, it’s the man who decided to cheat just because of petty reasons. Heard this a lot before and I’ve met men who are worse than the other. Men who want to cheat will find reason in their partners so that they can continue to keep on cheating. I pity those women who get victimized by them because there are times that they would blame themselves.
Sarah Brady
OMG at that photo of the guy who has a tarpaulin hanging on his neck about cheating. That is so funny ? CLASSIC!!!
Maggie French
Men sometimes argue that cheating is subjective and I’m like… ???
Eula Cox
I’m so glad I found a guy who cheated before but completely changed. I know some of you might say that I should watch out, but I know for sure that he’s changed.
MARIA
Lucky for you, because most women have to deal with cheaters who won’t stop.