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How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

4 fun ways to Shake. It. UP!


After a consecutive 10-day span of Netflix and Uber Eats, I began to worry that this could be the beginning of the dimming of our romantic flame. I didn’t want our relationship to lose its exciting energy. We were both such active people when we first met, but the stresses and demands of everyday life left us exhausted and it was starting to seem like we’d stopped putting as much energy into ourselves and our relationship as we used to.

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

My hubby and I spent a great day out of the city, and decided to make it a regular thing

I decided it was time to make a change, so we got in the car and hit the road. We decided to approach the day like we were at summer camp — we rented bikes, went swimming in the lake, and played boccie ball at a local tavern.

This action-packed day left us feeling excited, alive and more connected to one another than we’d been in ages (or the past few weeks, anyway). That day we made a pact to break free of our lazy routine every weekend and be more active together through shared hobbies.

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

My hubby and me, having fun exploring new towns

Engaging in an activity with your spouse can strengthen your bond and help you create unforgettable memories. To keep things fun and fresh in your relationship, try some of these activities together:


Explore the Great Outdoors

Take the weekend to get into nature and enjoy the serene sounds and sprawling vistas. Spending time together without distractions allows for moments of open communication and opportunities to bring out your adventurous side. Going on biking or backpacking trips can bring you closer together since you have to rely on teamwork to navigate the trails and set up your tent.

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

My hubby and I, hiking Storm King Mountain (in the rain) in upstate NY, about an hour north of NYC

If you live near NYC and you’d rather opt for a two or four-hour hike, we love the Storm King Mountain trail, which is about an hour north of NYC, but you can choose your adventure here.


Play a Sport

If you both enjoy being athletically active, take up a sport you can play together. Golf is one you can play together until you’re 90 years old (or so the sales pitch from my golf-loving husband goes).

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

Learning to sail on a weekend trip upstate

Tennis is another excellent activity for couples to enjoy, as it can vary in intensity and can be played with just the two of you. Or, if you want to put your tennis skills to the test, play against another couple for a fun challenge. Find couples looking for friendly competition on the USTA site.

For an extra challenge, learn an unusual sport together like kayaking, archery, fencing, or sailing.

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

My hubby and I raced a Ferrari and a Lamborghini at The Richard Petty Exotic Driving Experience

If you and your spouse love living on the wild side, try a more extreme hobby like white water rafting, skydiving, rock climbing or drag racing. Drag racing is an exhilarating sport that helps relieve pent-up stress. Around the country, there are weekend drag races happening where cars race at speeds up to 115 mph. To equip your car, make sure it has the proper safety features and high-quality equipment. Then, fulfill your need for speed and some healthy competition by racing against each other.


Find Your Zen

Practicing yoga or meditation with your spouse is an effective way to center yourselves and find your calm. Many yoga studios offer classes for couples yoga, which increase the communication and sensitivity in your relationship.

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

Couples meditation is a powerful way to relax together on a daily-basis and can also come in handy during times of conflict. If you are new to meditating, there are several mobile apps that provide you with guided meditation sessions that you can practice with your loved one.


Take a Mini-Vacation

Not feeling the road tripping vibe? There are loads of last-minute vacation discounts online. Find one and go somewhere really spectacular. Traveling together is a great bonding experience.

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

With my hubby on a long weekend trip in Provence

Google Flights and Skyscanner have handy map tools that can help you find the cheapest flight. If your destination is open-ended — i.e., “anywhere with a beach” — use the map to pick the most economical locale.

A travel app I love is Very Chic, which offers curated last-minute deals if you need a romantic place to stay tonight, tomorrow or within the next couple of months. While some deals – especially in the US – are not so good, it can deliver deep discounts in Europe and the UK. BluByn is a new app with a personal concierge that will help you find the best travel deals from across the internet. Here’s a list of more great travel apps.

So take your adventurous spirit, your active lifestyle, and your insatiable curiosity and use those traits to explore and revamp your relationship. Ready. Set. Go!

A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she lives in Monte Carlo, but spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always traveling, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 313 Comments

  1. Mary Jacobson

    We love going apple picking. Fall is right around the corner and a local orchard in my area has an apple festival with hay ride, corn maze, vendors, carnival food, and apple cider slushies. It’s a lot of fun to get out and enjoy local festivities.

  2. Ima Tate

    This video could not have come at a better time. Me and my husband are going on two years married and its starting to feel a little… slow? Or we have just fell into this boring routine of our daily lives, so this feels heaven sent. Thanks!

  3. Adriane Saxon

    We regularly go on dates and at least with half of our dates during the month, we try to experience news things. We visit new neighborhoods in our city, we eat at restaurants we’ve never been to before, we take short day trips outside of our city.

  4. Patricia Martinez

    Hopefully all of y’all have a good time and find a way to enjoy what the world has to offer, with your significant other. Even if small, or close by, remember, beauty hides in it all.

  5. Emily Crozier

    Yes! Yes! Yes! Love all these tips!! Love you guys. This was really needed especially after having a baby. 😘

  6. Deborah Sudduth

    Always take time to do awesome stuff together and also just be together in the same room doing your own individual, awesome stuff. 😆

  7. Greta Gaylor

    Learn a new skill together. This past February, my SO and I went skiing for the first time. On our first slope, he kept falling and was about to get frustrated, but he told me that my enjoyment kept him going.

    • Yeah…..unless your SO is really good and forgets how hard skiing is for someone who has never done it and encourages you to take on a medium slope before your class starts and you come so close to breaking your back. Skiing is the devil. Never again.

  8. Michele Jones

    Grab a few chairs, some blankets and a few pillows and build a fort/tent, and watch a couple of movies together or play board games. Guaranteed fun times and cuddles.

  9. JACOB Lauver

    I had planned a road trip with my best friend, and a few weeks before it we started dating. So there we are on a 2 week road trip not even a month after dating and it taught me so much about how well we communicate and mesh together. He put too much of that spicy stuff on his Thai food and got off of the freeway in a sketchy part of Oakland to clear his system. Even though my brain was aware that we had many of our important possessions in our car in an unfamiliar area known to be somewhat dangerous, he made me feel so safe. We had many mini conflicts, but we also learned how we communicate best through them. I also let out a tiny sleepy fart and broke that barrier for us. 2.5 years and 3 months total of travel time later and he is still my best friend, boyfriend, and travel partner!

  10. Betty Hill

    Go backpacking or travel a few weeks (or months, if you can) together. Nothing will show if you are still truly compatible with each other after all the years better than having to spend weeks/months with each other non-stop.

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