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My Adventures in Speed Dating

Three personas, three events. The experiment begins.


My Adventures in Speed Dating

Speed Dating: Fashion Model Persona

Speed Dating Event #3: International Fashion Model

The Event: 25 Dates – age category 20-27

The Persona: International Fashion Model


First, I expertly applied my makeup, including black eyeliner and a small amount of golden creamy glittery eyeshadow. Next, I flattened my hair with a straightening iron and left it down. Lastly, I slipped on a tight black miniskirt, a black top, a skinny black belt, a black bag and black boots and I’m ready to go.

The Schtick

“Um… I model. Like in commercials and magazines. Uh, yeah. It’s okay… not really something I want to do forever though. Sure – Paris, Milan, Tokyo. I just got back from London. Yeah, it has its perks I guess. Um, maybe the Pepsi commercial I did. It’s on the air right now. What do you do?”

My Adventures in Speed DatingThe Talent

As soon as I walked in I noticed a difference. First, the venue was much nicer than any of the others. Secondly, since it is an upscale restaurant and also because it’s a younger age category I think it attracted different people – guys who weren’t desperate but rather came with friends to check it out, meet people and have fun. There were plenty of good-looking guys with cool jobs, including a firefighter, a cop, a university professor with a doctorate, a business journalist working for a very major newspaper, and the owner of a massage clinic (score!)


Despite the fact that, well, I am a model, a couple of the guys were like “Um, what do you mean ‘Model’? What kind of model?” Humph. I ran into a few snags throughout the night. The first came when two of the people were guys that I had seen at other events (which meant that I had already told them about a different persona – but I couldn’t remember which one!) I managed to keep cool and talk a little more quietly with them. Thankfully, I don’t think anyone overheard me talking about my trips to London as a flight attendant.

The next snag came when a cute guy in a green soccer jersey sat down in front of me and immediately said, “Didn’t you go on a couple of dates with my roommate?” Um, okay. I can handle this. Only problem is that he came with three friends! And I already had my ‘date’ with one of them. Tricky. So I told him the truth. It’s easier that way… keeping track of all these personas was starting to get confusing anyway!

The Verdict

Great event with much better results. If you have it, worth the $45. I had a fun time chatting with people who I felt were much more my peers then the men at the other events. I didn’t get nearly as tired by the end. This came as a surprise to me because I usually enjoy socializing with older people, however the guys at this event seemed to be on the ball with good careers and an optimistic outlook on life.

Dates: 20 plus two I had seen at one of the previous events.

YES responses (from them): 18 / 90%

Interest (from me): I would consider seeing three or four of the guys again. There were certainly quite a few good-looking guys at this event – including a few who also had pretty interesting jobs.

Results: 14 of the 18 people emailed within the first two days.

Summary: Great event and great results – maybe this had something to do with the fact that it was a younger crowd. Also, my fashion model persona was a huge hit (I wonder why?) It’s hard to say why this event was so much better than the others, but if I had to wager on another event, I would go for a younger crowd and choose the venue carefully.

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Sarah enlightens us on a daily basis with the newest trends as (and often before) they transpire. She is the consummate globe trotter. Having traveled to over 70 countries, she earns her living writing, blogging ( and modeling while on the road. In her spare time she gets manicures, suntans on yachts in Greece, shops for even more shoes, and lives in the limelight. She loves photography, elephants, sailboats, bangles and ballet flats.

Reader Discussion: 112 Comments

  1. Simon

    I have a speed dating event coming up. Already I feel as though it’s not the women who are being treated like sheep, but the men. First bad impression given by the organisers is that the women are to be allocated a table. The men then have 4 minutes to talk, then it’s the men who have to move table to the next woman while they sit there making their judgement. Why can’t the simplest way of dating/meeting new partners, start on an equal footing? Baaa!

  2. Great article. I totally agree. The great thing about speed dating is that every individual who comes to speed dating is open to getting to meet and know new people. So, with speed dating, you will either leave with your perfect match or a bunch of new friends. Speed dating is a good icebreaker. Thank you for this great piece.

  3. It is always a numbers game and speed dating can help you meet a lot of people in a short amount of time, of course so can online dating but it has its own pitfalls

  4. Stacy Murray

    For real? Are women moving instead of men? Chivalry is dead!! They are more in favor of men, that’s why.

  5. Rose Mason

    Whoa! That’s the deal if you’re lying while on a speed date. You will meet and meet people you met before. It’s up to you how will you handle your lying. It’s better, to tell the truth from the start.

    • Candice Reeves

      Have you ever been on a speed date? Well, better try for you to know how it feels.

  6. Robert Patel

    Wow! Your stewardess character is insane!!! How did you do that? Well, men would like to date a stewardess. who wouldn’t want, right?

  7. Pamela Wilkerson

    It’s hard to lie especially in your career. Like that, what if there’s someone connected to your fake job? It’s hard if you thought you are being caught up! Hahahaha You’re a good liar, I think.

  8. Theresa Figueroa

    I used to lie in speed dating. It’s a way to impress your target partner. It’s normal to lie in speed dating, but of course, make sure you can handle it.

    • Leigh Massey

      I remember when I lied on a speed date and ends up we both like each other. I’m so fucked up that time. Hahaha!

  9. Cora Sanchez

    Speed dating is an old school, right? I remember my aunts talking about speed dating, and how they met guys before.

  10. Cindy Hulsey

    I used dating agencies in the past. The worst thing I have ever done. All I can say is, I’ve regretted ever since and never again. Unfortunately, I am not particularly good looking and hate mirrors.

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