10 Tips for a Non-Stressful Wedding

Finally! The day has arrived and you’re ready to walk down the aisle in your dream wedding dress with the choir singing and the man of your dreams waiting to take you hand. You’re going to be married in front of all your friends and family. Sounds perfect, right? But things don’t always go exactly as planned…

Let’s face it – weddings are stressful and there is no way around it.  We’re here to help you minimize that stress, so when it comes time to finally decompress, you can do so with ease.

Carla and her fiance agreed to 150 guests including friends and family since they were on a budget. She specifically instructed their guests to RSVP so they could make a head count. On her wedding day, she was surprise to see her cousin with a date and four friends whom her cousin did not inform were coming.  What’s worse is that some of the uninvited guests were not properly dress for the occasion.

So how do we avoid these kinds of catastrophes? True planning is the key so here are Urbanette’s tips for a non-stressful wedding:

1. Research the venue

Check as many websites as you can for information especially on wedding destinations. One website may recommend a specific month to marry while other websites may say otherwise. Also consult your travel agent and always monitor the weather since it tends to be unpredictable these days.

2. Check details up to the last minute

Don’t be  to the point of being Bridezilla but double check everything such as if the flowers you want to carry are in stock or if tables and chairs lack.  Be calm in talking with your suppliers and make a checklist so you know what you need to work on.

3. Seek help but compromise

There is nothing wrong with your future in-laws wanting to help out especially your mother-in-law. Hire a wedding coordinator to lessen the stress. But be don’t let anyone dictate what has to be done. After all, it’s your special day. Gently tell them what they can help with and if you don’t like the ideas, tell them politely thank you but it’s not what you have in mind.

4. Be prepared for dress emergencies

Do last minute fittings with your dressmaker or designer to make sure you won’t trip down the aisle or some of the details falling from the gown. Ask your maid of honor to carry a small sewing kit in her bag for minor repairs.

5. Be firm and make guests RSVP

One thing that we all hate are wedding crashers and uninvited guests. Tell them you need  their RSVP for the church seating arrangement and reception. If a relative plans to bring an unwanted guest or date, inform them that the capacity of the venue is too small to accommodate them.

6. Get your husband involved

Why not ask him for his advice? It’s his wedding too. You may never know that his ideas can help especially since his family may chip in for the wedding expenses.

7. Be guided by your budget

You have a certain amount of money to spend on your wedding. Make sure you keep track of the costs so you don’t go over that. Look for expensive-looking bargains. They’re out there! Anyway, there’s no sense in paying more than you have to for things. Shop around for affordable suppliers and sit down with them. Inform them your budget so they can let you know what your options are.

8. Accept the fact anything can happen on your day

You’ve seen many videos of weddings go wrong. Take a deep breath and smile. Funny moments tend to be the most memorable ones.

9. Be specific on your invitations and wedding website

Specify a dress code down to the colors not to wear (no black, white or red, please!) If it’s a garden or beach wedding, tell guests not to wear heels and to bring a cover-up or pashmina. Make it clear in the invites that you *must* RSVP and can only bring one guest.

10. Have FUN

Remember that your wedding day is your special day. Have fun with family and friends because there is nothing more special than sharing your special day with your loved ones.