10 Unconventional Wedding Tips


Hilary’s Tips: 10 Ways I Made My Wedding Easier

Unconventional things I did that made my wedding a lot less stressful, more fun, and way more memorable.


While we all know that weddings can easily end up being a huge, stressful production, not many people think it’s under their control. Well I’m here to tell you that it is.

Hilary’s Tips: 10 Ways I Made My Wedding Easier

Photos from my wedding

When I started thinking about my wedding, my first thought was “What parts of this are actually going to be fun for everyone involved?” and “What parts of a typical wedding are simply just a headache?” The more I thought about it, nobody actually wants (or has time!) to be a bridesmaid or groomsman. Nobody really wants to write speeches or attend a rehearsal dinner. And, certainly, nobody wants to deal with bridal showers.

This is what I learned from my wedding, and how I made it easy breezy and stress-free:

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A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she lives in Monte Carlo, but spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always traveling, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 29 Comments

  1. When I get married, I’m definitely going to do these things. Right now I’m helping my friend plan her wedding and she’s insisting on doing ALL the traditional stuff. I’ll show her this — maybe it’ll help change her mind! (A girl can hope, right?!)

  2. We did these all except part of 2, part of 4, 6, 8, 9, and 10. Only part of 2 because there was no Bachelor/Bachelorette parties, and part of 4 because her parents bishop was free, but he needed to say a few religious things to make it legal, but he cut out everything he could. I regret not doing things a bit more fun like 10 says, but she said her family would have flipped out if it wasn’t at least semi traditional.

  3. Courtney Watson

    I love these! It takes some courage to have a wedding like yours, Hilary, but these are great ideas. I can personally attest to the fact that nobody wants to be a bridesmaid. So much better to just get to party at the Bachelorette, then at the wedding, with no real commitments or duties… and it saves the bride a ton of work, too. Smart!

    • Thanks! Yeah, it made my life a hell of a lot easier, and everyone loved the wedding. It didn’t seem so different than a normal wedding – just a lot less planning and hassle.

  4. I definitely agree with tip #9 — pick the better last name. I have a number of friends who would like to revert to their maiden name just because after taking their husband's last name, they experienced career-related problems.

  5. I love the idea of having a "magician" at your wedding 🙂 It's something I honestly did not think of. This is really unconventional but GREAT wedding tip, I believe having magician is really fun… and indeed memorable…

  6. Jennifer Olympia Pantin

    I'm doing half of these things and it's so refreshing to see them posted somewhere! When you are going an unconventional route, it's so nice to find support for your ideas!

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